Name: 真の愛の刻印... (The Mark of True Love...)
Uploaded: 2025-07-17T07:57:01.000Z
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様態の副詞

We humans have an immense appetite for complicated things, neuroscience, astrophysics and molecular biology of course, but also barely decipherable books, abstract works of art and avant-garde pieces of theatre without plot or character, all of which perhaps evoke the primordial puzzles of the universe and our own always ineffable existence within it. But our veneration for complexity can reach a most painful, time-consuming and futile zenith in one area in particular – relationships. It's here that we find otherwise discerning and hard-headed people exhibiting extreme patience, often lasting over a succession of tormented years, for what we can call complicated situations. The complexities may arise from some of the following dynamics. A beloved partner who wants to commit and surely will one day but not quite yet on account of this or that factor or not entirely because of certain psychological fears or not conclusively or at least not without certain important caveats. They may need space, freedom or what they call a chance to explore though quite what was still not wholly clear, though we have asked them on many occasions. Then a partner with whom there are a lot of misunderstandings, around whom words often lose their standard meanings, around whom we may have to spend hours untangling what was truly meant and around whom gestures or deeds that we previously thought uncontentious suddenly become the occasion for major surprising aggravations. Or a partner who in principle is there for us and in theory loves us very very much but in actuality – like last week and the week before that – is constantly remarkably busy, unable to respond to our texts, out with their compelling friends or concentrated on their always extremely demanding job. Or a partner with whom we sit up late at night on many occasions with a pad and paper to hand attempting to determine where the issues are coming from, what is at play and how things might be handled before, baffled and upset, we finally have to retreat to bed a little after 1am feeling fragile and tearful.

神経科学、宇宙物理学、分子生物学はもちろんのこと、かろうじて解読可能な書物、抽象的な芸術作品、筋書きも登場人物もない前衛的な演劇作品など、私たち人間は複雑なものに対して計り知れない欲求を持っている。しかし、複雑さへの崇拝は、特に人間関係というある分野において、最も苦痛を伴い、時間を要し、無益な頂点に達することがある。複雑と呼べるような状況に対して、しばしば苦悩に満ちた年月の連続となるような極端な忍耐を示すのは、そうでなくても目が肥えていて頭の固い人たちである。その複雑さは、以下のような力学から生じることが

再帰代名詞

Or a partner whom we find ourselves discussing at almost every turn with our close friends and our therapist, speculating with concentrated energy on what drives them, who they might really be, why they do what they do, how their childhood could have affected them, what their attachment style is, what their most recent antic might truly mean, all the while peering at them as if they were a mysterious nebulae in an outer galaxy whose workings would concentrate the minds of the most erudite and sophisticated astronomers. Or a partner who leaves us wondering whether we are not fundamentally daft and broken and poring over all that we may have done wrong without meaning to. Have we offended them? Are we too demanding? Have we exhibited too little patience for their ways of thinking? Perhaps as they have told us we want too much?

あるいは、親しい友人やセラピストと事あるごとに議論し、何が彼らを突き動かしているのか、彼らは本当は何者なのか、なぜそんなことをするのか、幼少期にどのような影響を受けたのか、彼らの愛着スタイルは何なのか、彼らの直近の突拍子もない行動にはどんな意味があるのか、まるで最も博識で洗練された天文学者の心を集中させるような、銀河系の外側にある神秘的な星雲のように彼らを見つめながら、集中したエネルギーで推測していることに気づくパートナー。あるいは、私たちは根本的に愚かで、壊れているのではないか？私たちは相手を怒らせてし

程度の副詞

Maybe – as they hint – we are being unreasonable? We may never have felt more odd or more damaged to ourselves than around this special target of our affection. All of this, society sometimes seems to tell us, can just be what love is. No relationship is easy. No human is simple.

もしかしたら、彼らがほのめかすように、私たちは理不尽な目に遭っているのかもしれない。愛情を注ぐ特別な対象がいるときほど、私たちは奇妙に感じたり、自分自身を傷つけられたりしたことはないかもしれない。このようなことはすべて、愛とはそういうものなのだと、社会はときどき教えてくれる。どんな関係も簡単ではない。どんな人間も単純ではない。

Everything needs hard work. It is precisely because all this is so often very true that we can admit to notice when, on other occasions, it has in any way ceased to be so. When certain sensible mantras about effort have subtly and dangerously turned into excuses for patience with people entirely unsuited to the business of mutual love.

何事にも努力が必要だ。このようなことがしばしば真実であるからこそ、私たちは、ある場面でそれが真実でなくなったことに気づくことができるのだ。努力に関するある種の賢明なマントラが、微妙に、そして危険なことに、相互愛というビジネスにはまったく不向きな人々に対する忍耐の言い訳に変わってしまったときに。

To dampen some of our risky enthusiasm for emotional complexity, we might remind ourselves of a broad principle operating in relationships that we can term grandly the rule of simplicity.

感情的な複雑さへの危険な熱狂を少しでも和らげるために、私たちは人間関係に作用する広範な原則を思い出すかもしれない。

This rule states that in two people who are adequately mature, who have what it takes to function emotionally, who have feasible propositions, love will, overall, taken with perspective, be simple. Yes, there will be certain difficult conversations to be had every now and then, a few tricky moments and a constant requirement for practical effort.

この法則によれば、十分に成熟し、感情的に機能するのに必要なものを持ち、実現可能な提案を持っている二人の場合、恋愛は全体的に見れば単純なものになる。たしかに、時折難しい会話が交わされることもあるだろうし、やっかいな瞬間もあるだろうし、実際的な努力が常に要求されることもあるだろう。

But, in essence, there will be a simplicity at play because of a few fundamentals at the heart of the union. They know how to – and want to – love us. And we know how to – and want to – love them. That's why they will pretty much always show up on time, answer text messages promptly, communicate clearly, be proud of us, tell their friends about us and leave us feeling wanted, calm, sure of our position and able to go to bed – without checking our phones once more at a sensible hour. Anything less is – we might generalise – a strong indication of something else. Quite what may be a matter for speculation lasting several centuries. It could be a childhood trauma, a mental condition, a consequence of our own misfounded appetites or the result of a tricky bond with a mother or father.

しかし、本質的には、組合の核心にあるいくつかの基本事項のために、シンプルさが発揮されることになる。彼らは私たちを愛する方法を知っている。そして私たちも、彼らを愛する方法を知っている。だからこそ、彼らはいつも時間通りに現れ、テキスト・メッセージに迅速に答え、明確にコミュニケーションをとり、私たちを誇りに思い、私たちのことを友人に話し、私たちが必要とされていると感じ、落ち着き、自分の立場を確信し、寝ることができるようになるのだ。そうでない場合は--一般論かもしれないが--何か別の兆候を強く示している。それが何

But maybe we don't in the end need to know precisely what's at work. Maybe we can, to follow the rule of simplicity, just read the complexity as an indication that we just shouldn't be here. It might be time to stop glorifying questions.

しかし、結局のところ、何が働いているのかを正確に知る必要はないのかもしれない。単純化の法則に従えば、私たちはただ複雑さを、私たちがここにいるべきではないことの表れとして読み取ることができるのかもしれない。疑問を美化するのは、そろそろやめたほうがいいかもしれない。

Where were they? What do they mean? When will they call? If they love us, we will know it.

彼らはどこにいたのか？彼らは何を意味するのか？彼らはいつ電話してくるのか？彼らが私たちを愛しているなら、私たちはそれを知るだろう。

If they want to be there, they will show up. There is only so complicated a relationship ever needs to be. When it's viable, love is, all told, fairly obvious and very easy.

彼らがそこにいたければ、現れるだろう。複雑な関係である必要はない。それが実行可能であれば、愛というものは明白でとても簡単なものなのだ。

If we find ourselves in a union in which we're up all night writing journal entries or peering through a telescope at the latest ambiguous signal, it might be nothing more or less than proof that we have outrun the patience that we should fairly be exhibiting towards any human being. Or, to follow our rule of simplicity and to speak more directly, we may just need to get out now.

徹夜で日記を書いたり、望遠鏡で最新の曖昧なシグナルを覗き込んだりするような組合に身を置いているとしたら、それは人間に対して公平に示すべき忍耐力を使い果たしてしまった証拠に他ならないかもしれない。あるいは、私たちのシンプルなルールに従い、より直接的に言うならば、私たちは今すぐ外に出る必要があるのかもしれない。