Name: 恐れずに愛する方法 (How to Love without fear)
Uploaded: 2025-08-03T18:18:29.000Z
Duration: 2 min 40 s
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転換語

We regularly get into difficulties in love because we refuse to accept how much reassurance and stroking we need from the person we love. We imagine we're grown up. We don't want to countenance how fragile and easily wounded we might be. We don't want to see the always susceptible and sensitive child beneath the impressive adult. And so, in the face of so-called small things that have undeniably hurt us – a missing warm comment here, a lack of touch there – we go numb instead. We silently and swiftly pull up the drawbridge. We unconsciously prepare to recriminate. We tell ourselves that we have a lot of work to do and should spend more time by ourselves. The last thing we can acknowledge is that we might be sad, confused and secretly furious. It would help a lot if we could recognise with grace that when it comes to relationships, we are all without a skin. We feel everything, whether we choose to register the fact or not. We are alive to every nuance in our partner's behaviour towards us. We notice and are pained by every piece of distance, every movement of incomprehension and every minor slight. It is obviously profoundly tempting to deny such exposure. Who wants to be constantly reminded that they have in effect forfeited their independence to the moods and inclinations of a wholly autonomous fellow human? How much more comforting to subsist under the illusion that we might be immune to minor slights and that our spirits remain substantially in our own hands? And yet, it would be fairer and a good deal cleaner to accept that once we are in love, we have no option but to feel everything that goes on between ourselves and a partner. We have to know on a daily, even hourly basis that we continue to matter to them. It's no use pretending to be made of rock, of attempting to be recklessly and eventually angrily and coldly brave. We need to put in place measures to preserve love in the face of our ongoing vulnerability.

私たちは、愛する人からどれだけ安心感を与えられ、撫でてもらう必要があるかを受け入れないために、恋愛で困難に陥ることが多い。私たちは自分が大人になったと思い込んでいる。私たちは、自分がどれほどもろく傷つきやすい人間なのかを受け入れたくない。印象的な大人の下にある、いつも傷つきやすく繊細な子供の姿を見たくないのだ。そうして、紛れもなく私たちを傷つけている、いわゆる些細なこと--ここでの温かいコメントがない、あそこでの触れ合いがない--に直面すると、私たちは代わりに無感覚になる。私たちは黙って素早く跳ね橋を引き

程度の副詞

We need regularly to check in with one another and ask, have I hurt you? And then as regularly say, I do still love you. It's no sign of being infantile to approach love with immense, almost implausible sensitivity. It is a sign that we have at last accepted what a grown-up is and needs.

私たちは定期的にお互いを確認し、私があなたを傷つけていないか尋ねる必要がある。そして定期的に、私はまだあなたを愛していると言うのだ。莫大な、ほとんどありえないような感受性で愛にアプローチすることは、決して幼児的な兆候ではない。それは、私たちがようやく、大人とは何か、大人に必要なものは何かを受け入れた証なのだ。