Name: なぜ、そしてどのように、私たちは独身であることと和解する必要があるのか？ (Why - and how - we need to make our peace with being single)
Uploaded: 2025-09-03T18:07:03.000Z
Duration: 3 min 27 s
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様態の副詞

Among the many skills required to have a good relationship, one stands out above any other – the capacity to live without a relationship. Only those who have fully made their peace with the prospect of being single can have the calm, steadiness and courage to face down the problems in love with the necessary conviction, or outside of relationships, to endure the many months, even years or decades that it might take for the right person to appear.

良い恋愛をするために必要な多くのスキルの中で、他のどのスキルよりも際立っているものがある。独身であることに完全に決意を固めた人だけが、必要な確信を持って恋愛の問題に立ち向かえる、あるいは恋愛以外でも、ふさわしい人が現れるまでに何カ月、何年、何十年もかかるかもしれないことに耐えられる、冷静さ、着実さ、勇気を持つことができるのだ。

法助動詞 B1

Only if we know we can survive alone can we ever have the confidence to ask for changes from a partner and be known to mean it. Our ultimatums can't be faked. Our partners have a sixth sense of how far they can push us before we walk away – and if we never can, if we dread solitude more than we do mistreatment, we can be toyed with without end. We must always be aware that we might need to get out, only in order to foster the conditions that mean we will never need to. We must be like a nation that every year practices a military drill, not because it knows it will be attacked, but in order to reduce the chances it ever will be. Even in the midst of the greatest cosiness, wise lovers know that they might yet need to make use of a metaphoric getaway bag that they keep under the bed.

一人でも生きていけるとわかっていればこそ、パートナーに変化を求め、それを本心だとわかってもらえる自信が持てるのだ。私たちの最後通告はごまかしがきかない。パートナーは、私たちが立ち去るまでにどこまで私たちを追い詰めることができるかを第六感で感じ取っている。もし私たちが決してそうすることができず、虐待よりも孤独を恐れるなら、私たちは際限なく翻弄されることになる。私たちは、決してその必要がないような状況を醸成するためにこそ、自分たちが外に出る必要があるかもしれないということを常に意識していなければならない。私た

分詞構句

Likewise, while dating, we must make our peace with ongoing singlehood in order to have the clarity to turn down person after person, date after date, who doesn't attract or interest us sufficiently. Only if we can bear our own company will we avoid having to persuade ourselves of the rightness of the wrong people, will we avoid letting the fear of dying alone spoil our lives. At the same time, we will never be able to make our peace with singlehood unless we move beyond one of the cardinal, sentimental rallying cries of our age, that being single might be fun, fulfilling or interesting. So long as we continue with such bromides, we will suffer far more than we need to. Not only will we be alone, we will feel ashamed at how awful it is to be so. We need to accept the truth unflinchingly. Being single is horrible, boring, frightening, dispiriting and alienating. Yet, our very best chance of accepting and dealing adequately with singlehood is not to keep harbouring any illusions about it. There is nothing interesting about having the whole bed to ourselves or about being able to play music loudly at 3am. The dating rigmarole is a fast route to mental exhaustion. But once we accept the bleakness, it will stop surprising or humiliating us at every turn. For all its awfulness, singlehood is always better than the alternative. A bad relationship with an immature, shapeshifting, unselfaware, borderline person. It's better to be crying, yet again, on the living room floor bemoaning our fate than trying to get a recalcitrant, cheating, vain partner to come on board and love us properly. At least, solitude doesn't rob us of a future. At least, at all moments, it contains the possibility of something better. We should hate being single very much. We should also know the extent to which enduring it soberly and steadily is the ultimate guarantor of the future we deserve.

同じように、デートをしている間、私たちは、十分に惹かれたり興味を抱いたりしない人を次から次へと断る明晰さを持つために、継続的な独身であることに平静を保たなければならない。自分との付き合いに耐えることができればこそ、間違った人の正しさを自分自身で説得する必要がなくなり、孤独死の恐怖に人生を台無しにされることもなくなる。同時に、独身は楽しい、充実している、面白いかもしれないという、この時代特有の感傷的な叫びを超えない限り、独身と和解することはできないだろう。このようなお決まりの文句を言い続ける限り、私たちは必