abandonment
US /əˈbændənmənt/
・UK /əˈbændənmənt/
B1 中級
n. (u.)不可算名詞遺棄
Abandonment is one of the biggest fears children in divorces feel
n. (u.)不可算名詞自暴自棄
George drank to abandonment, and ended up an alcoholic
n. (u.)不可算名詞見捨てられること
Her childhood was characterized by poverty, violence, and abandonment
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依存症の克服方法 (How to Weaken the Hold of Addiction)
- Over a time, the addictive behaviour offers a kind of soothing, an escape from an intolerable discomfort. Vomiting after a meal brings a sense of lightness. Porn leads one into a series of physical highs. A state of drunkenness stills critical voices. The way to start to break the pattern of addiction is simply to realise, before we have rushed to the addictive solution, that we are in trouble. That we have, for whatever reason, grown very sad and hopeless about ourselves and therefore that we are in a danger zone and need help now rather than in a few hours. We have to become better historians and observers of our moods and aim to put a gap, in time and in mental activity, between the moment when we are hurt and the moment when we reach for our self-destructive solution. If we manage to slow down the process, then we should be able to wake ourselves up from our narcotic impulses and say, in a profoundly helpful way, I am upset. Just the realisation that we are so is half the battle at least. I am feeling deeply upset and therefore I am in danger. And from here, we can ask another extremely pertinent set of questions. What am I upset about? How am I upset? We may need to close our eyes and just sit still for a moment to let the answer percolate from the unconscious. Alternatively, we might try and complete the following sentence. I am currently feeling upset because… It is one of the quirks of the strange brains we all have that it can take so long to know what we are feeling and to understand what might have caused it. When we do start to notice our upset, then we can begin the business of self-soothing in more fruitful ways. One side can run an arm around the other and say in effect, poor you, how awful to be feeling awful again. Almost certainly, in early life, no one had much sympathy or the remotest bit of interest in our feelings of loss, self-hatred and abandonment. That is why we find it so hard to get interested in them ourselves. But we can patch up the damage. We can ask, how am I feeling about myself and what has happened to give me that feeling? We can replace addiction with self-compassion and understanding. No one falls prey to addictions by coincidence.
やがて、習慣的行動は一種の癒し、耐え難い不快感からの逃避をもたらす。食後の嘔吐は軽快感をもたらす。ポルノは人を一連の肉体的高揚へと導く。酩酊状態は批判的な声を静める。中毒のパターンを断ち切るには、中毒的な解決策に走る前に、自分が困っていることに気づくことだ。どんな理由であれ、私たちは自分自身について非常に悲しく絶望的になっており、それゆえに危険地帯にいるのであり、数時間後ではなく今すぐ助けが必要なのだ。私たちは自分の気分の歴史家、観察者になり、傷ついた瞬間と自己破壊的な解決策に手を伸ばす瞬間の間に、時間的
- abandonment.
「アメリカでパトカーに止められた話」トレヴァー・ノア (ロスト・イン・トランスレーション) (“Getting Pulled Over In America” - Trevor Noah - (Lost In Translation))
- Do you have abandonment issues? Why would you shoot a man?
あなたは育児放棄の問題を抱えているのですか？なぜ人を撃つ？
- Abandonment issues?
そして彼は私を窓に押し込んだ。
5つの不安型・回避型・不安定型愛着のサイン (5 Signs of Disorganized, Anxious or Avoidant Attachment)
- The person with disorganized attachment can be clingy or controlling and need reassurance, but can turn on a dime to be dismissive and avoidant when abandonment anxiety is triggered.
無秩序な愛着を持つ人は、粘着性や支配欲が強く、安心感を必要とするが、見捨てられ不安が引き起こされると、一転して無愛想になり、回避的になることがある。
- but can turn on a dime to be dismissive and avoidant when abandonment anxiety is triggered.
つまり、HPA軸やストレス反応システムはすでに調節不全に陥っているのだ。
恋人選びが上手くなる方法 (Getting Better at Picking Lovers)
- Gradually, we should learn to do what we always claimed we were doing - looking for love, not ecstatic torment or fascinating indifference, exhausting evasion or bittersweet abandonment.
徐々に、私たちはいつもやっていると主張していたことをするのを学ぶべきです。愛を探すこと、恍惚とした苦痛や魅力的な無関心、疲れ果てるような回避や甘酸っぱい放棄ではなく。
- Gradually, we should learn to do what we always claimed we were doing - looking for love, not ecstatic torment or fascinating indifference, exhausting evasion or bittersweet abandonment.
徐々に、私たちはいつもやっていると主張していたことをするのを学ぶべきです。愛を探すこと、恍惚とした苦痛や魅力的な無関心、疲れ果てるような回避や甘酸っぱい放棄ではなく。
愛が欲しいのではない—選ばれることで価値を感じたいだけ (You Don’t Want Love—You Want to Be Picked So You Feel Worthy)
- You became whoever you needed to be just to avoid abandonment.
見捨てられるのを避けるために、必要な人間になった。
- You became whoever you needed to be just to avoid abandonment.
相手の予測不可能性を、自分が勝たなければならない挑戦だと勘違いしている。
当てはまったら要注意！ 『人間関係』を破壊すること
- and I would worry that speaking my truth would lead to rejection or abandonment.
そして、見て、私はそれを取得します。
- And I would worry that speaking my truth would to rejection or abandonment,
そして、自分の真実を語れば、拒絶されたり見捨てられたりするのではないかと心配になるのです。
唯一重要な人間関係のルール (The Only Relationship Rule That Matters)
- We can't afford such self-torture and self-abandonment any longer.
最初は甘くて頼りがいがあるように見えても、私たちが十分に良い人間だと、傷ついた人を説得すること。
- We can't afford such self torture and self abandonment any longer.
もうこのような自己拷問や自己放棄は許されません。