selfishness
US / ˈsɛlfɪʃnɪs/
・UK /'selfɪʃnəs/
A2 初級
n. (u.)不可算名詞身勝手さ
Cam's selfishness caused Carol to believe he was mean
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#AskGaryVee エピソード72：ケイシー・ネイスタット、大学受験と目標達成に集中する方法について (#AskGaryVee Episode 72: Casey Neistat on Applying to College & How to Focus on Goals)
- I get so much happiness out of doing things for people who would be categorized as the way you just broke it down because I have a weird gear inside of me that has zero expectation for the return on someone's selfishness.
あなたが今説明してくれたような人々のために何かをすることから、私は非常に大きな喜びを得ます。なぜなら、私の中には、誰かの利己主義に対する見返りを全く期待しないという奇妙なギアがあるからです。
- on someone's selfishness.
現代のデートは私たちをどう破滅させているのか (How Modern Dating Is Destroying Us)
- Trauma dumping Another testament to the rise in selfishness in relationships is trauma dumping.
トラウマ・ダンピング 人間関係において利己主義が台頭しているもう一つの証が、トラウマ・ダンピングである。
- Another testament to the rise in selfishness in relationships is trauma-dumping.
なぜ自分がどれほど体調が悪いのかを理解するのに時間がかかるのか (Why It Can Take Us So Long to Understand How Unwell We Are)
- Notice any new human in a terrible circumstance, let's say in a home with a violent or alcoholic parent or an abusive or depressed one, and it won't, as one might imagine it could, be able to focus clearly on what's gone wrong or mourn its condition. It will simply, as we've ascertained it must, keep going. In order to do this, it will call upon a range of innate survival techniques. It may start to think surprisingly well of its parents, declaring them justified in their beatings, selfishness or humiliations. It might assiduously blame itself rather than sparing any pity for its own deprivations. Let's remember that a sense of self-compassion can be a very dangerous thing indeed when one is five years old and no one would listen even if one yelled. Or else it will ward off despair through activity, it will overachieve at school or break windows or become obsessed with drugs or sport or politics – anything not to have to listen to the buzz inside. The benighted child can't look back, it can't glance down, it must simply stare ahead at the main goal – survival.
例えば、暴力的な親やアルコール依存症の親、虐待や鬱病の親がいる家庭など、ひどい状況に置かれた新米人間は、想像できるかもしれないが、何が間違っているかに明確に集中したり、自分の状況を嘆いたりすることはできない。ただ、私たちが確認したように、前進し続けるだけなのだ。そのためには、生来備わっているさまざまなサバイバル技術を駆使する。両親のことを驚くほど良く思い始め、殴られたり、わがままを言ったり、屈辱を受けたりしても、それを正当化すると宣言するかもしれない。自分の困窮を憐れむよりも、むしろ自分自身をひたすら責め
- It may start to think surprisingly well of its parents, declaring them justified in their beatings, selfishness, or humiliations.
見逃しがちな危険信号 (The Red Flags You Keep Ignoring)
- That certain people constantly reveal to us some of their deep-seated inclinations towards unkindness, treachery, vanity, and selfishness.
これは何を意味するのか？
- That certain people constantly reveal to us some of their deep-seated inclinations towards unkindness, treachery, vanity and selfishness.
ある種の人々は、不親切、裏切り、虚栄心、利己主義といった心の奥底に潜む傾向を常に私たちに見せている。
あらゆる意地悪さが受け継がれる仕組み (How All Meanness Is Inherited)
- The ugliness that washes up on our doorsteps today will be a legacy of ill-treatment, violence, selfishness, hard-heartedness, cynicism, and
今ここで、お店で、会議室で、寝室で、オンラインフォーラムで、私たちが見かける意地悪さは、心理的経済性の法則によって、常に恐ろしいほどの勤勉さをもって、人から人へと受け継がれてきたものです。
- The ugliness that washes up on our doorsteps today will be a legacy of ill treatment, violence, selfishness, hard heartedness, cynicism and indifference that came somewhere off stage.
今日、私たちの玄関先に打ち上げられる醜さは、舞台裏で起こった虐待、暴力、利己主義、冷酷さ、皮肉、無関心の遺産となるでしょう。
傷ついた人々はなぜさらなる罰を求めるのか (How Wounded People Seek Out further Punishment)
- It's just that for us, home was a place of grief and persecution. It's easy enough to see why children put up with poor treatment. They're born radically powerless. They can't run away. They are utterly at the mercy of others. They can't even think especially straight. What they must do, above all else, is adapt. Which in practice means learning to put up with poor treatment. They have to develop an advanced skill at not noticing quite how awful things are, an expertise at being unfazed by cruelty and neglect. Children in deprived circumstances tend to be geniuses at looking away, disassociating and making light of things. Of course, it might not be perfect that their father screams at them constantly, but there are some interesting shows on television and there's a really fascinating bit of the garden to explore in the morning. You can climb up the big tree and imagine it's a little house. And of course, ideally their mother wouldn't be so mocking and disloyal. But that's just the way things are, neither more or less sad than the fact it's often raining and there's a lot of homework to do. In any case, the bad treatment almost certainly has to do with something that they, the child, have done wrong. Badly treated children tend to take a compulsively generous view of those who injure them. Obviously, they aren't nasty on purpose. That would make no sense. Clearly, their ostensible brutality has sound explanations. It must be because they, the child, is in the wrong. That's why they're being neglected. That's why they've been declared fools. That's why they're being bullied. It's a great deal easier to believe that the parent is tough, yet fundamentally right, rather than gratuitously callous and unjustifiably hostile. In other words, what a bad childhood trains us to do, above all else, is to indulge meanness. The muscle that normally functions to repel attacks has had to be starved and has atrophied. In order to survive, we had to lose the ability to work out what was good and bad for us, lest we discover that we spent 18 years in the company of fiends. What this means for our futures is that we will be extremely poor at discerning when the partners we let into our lives cross the border into selfishness and malevolence. We'll continue under a narcoleptic command not to notice that we're being robbed and deceived. We'll be as blind to the blows now as we were then. For a long time, it simply won't occur to us to wonder why we've ended up paying for everything for the partner, or why they're unreliable in their promises, or constantly prioritise their friends over us, or are angrily defensive whenever we raise a complaint. We will simply, as we had to early on, fall into line and invent elaborate explanations for their behaviour. They're good, but they're tired. They're durable, but under pressure at work. They're fierce, but compensating for their childhood traumas, for which we have a lot of sympathy. Anything other than the more straightforward conclusion, we've fallen in with unconcerned egoists. We shouldn't compound our disloyalty towards ourselves by feeling, on top of everything else, ashamed for our tolerance. It isn't weakness, it's a survival strategy from childhood that served a very sensible purpose then but is liable to be ruining our lives now. To wake ourselves up, we need to consider our choices as if someone else had made them. We might wonder what we would advise a friend to do if they were in our situation. And through such a lens, we might start to perceive that the treatment we're facing isn't, as we've long thought, a sign of our partner's depth or complexity, but in the end, something much more humble, evidence that we need to get away. But this will be only a momentary liberation until we can understand the more fundamental issue, that the muscle most people use to eject poison has withered because of a distinctive history. We need to reverse the direction of our psychological fate. Our early suffering should not condemn us to yet more pain. It is what gives us an especially powerful claim on original sources of kindness, tenderness and calm.
ただ、私たちにとって家は悲しみと迫害の場所だった。なぜ子供たちが劣悪な扱いを受けても我慢するのか、それを理解するのは簡単だ。彼らは生まれながらにして根本的に無力なのだ。逃げることもできない。他人のなすがままなのだ。特にまともに考えることもできない。彼らがなすべきことは、何よりも適応することだ。それは実際には、劣悪な扱いを我慢することを学ぶということだ。どんなにひどい状況であってもそれに気づかない高度な技術、残酷な仕打ちやネグレクトにも動じない専門技術を身につけなければならない。恵まれない環境にいる子どもた
- What this means for our futures is that we will be extremely poor at discerning when the partners we let into our lives cross the border into selfishness and malevolence.
クロスロード：新世界観の産みの苦しみ | フルムービー (Crossroads: Labor Pains of a New Worldview | FULL MOVIE)
- If the environment continues to reinforce this selfishness, it's going to be that much more difficult to climb out of it.
人類の融和のために生きるべきと悟るために 人間は変化を経験しなくてはならならい 我々は皆が1つのこころを共有する1人の人間のようなのだ
- If the environment continues to reinforce this selfishness, it's going to be that much more difficult to climb out of it.
しかし 今や人間のせいでバランスが完全に崩れるなら 自然が人間の生命を維持する事がもうないということだ
コルベアのキャンセルされたクリスマス：最後のノエル (Colbert's Canceled Christmas: The Last Noel)
- Such selfishness!
さあ、パパの膝に座って、クリスマスに何をもらうか教えてくれる時間だよ。
- Such selfishness.
なんて自己中心的。