Name: 自分らしさを見失うことの危険性 (The Dangers of Missing a Sense of Self)
Uploaded: 2025-07-30T18:32:44.000Z
Duration: 5 min 42 s
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程度の副詞

One of the odder features of this life is that without there being too many significant outward signs of the problem, many people are to be found wandering the earth, lacking any sense of self. By this we mean that they are radically unsure of who they might be, what they might want and who they should trust. These unfortunates have no settled core. In the background, they are always quietly asking themselves not what do I like, but what am

この人生の奇妙な特徴のひとつは、外見的な兆候をあまり感じさせないまま、多くの人々が自己の感覚を欠いたまま地上をさまよっていることだ。つまり、自分が何者なのか、何を望んでいるのか、誰を信頼すべきなのか、根本的にわからないのだ。このような不幸な人々には定まった核がない。その背景には、いつも静かに自問自答している自分がいる。

様態の副詞

I supposed to like? Not what do I approve of, but what is it good to approve of? Not what do I find funny, but when should I laugh? When we watch them carefully, we may notice rapid almost arbitrary shifts in their views. They love this artist or jacket or political opinion, but in fact no, they prefer another one and then another. They are implicitly constantly calling out to a world which puzzles and terrifies them. Who should I be? What is it right to think? These poor souls tend to be the products of very particular sorts of childhood. When little, they will have faced environments in which their uniqueness was never a matter of concern to their self-absorbed caregivers. Mother or father were never able to push their needs aside for a time to drop to their level and ask, who is this extraordinary new member of the human race whom I have helped to create? What are their particular inclinations and loves and hates? What do they have to tell me? They were far too perturbed and fragile for such self-abnegation. They couldn't attune to the child and so the child could not, in turn, attune to themselves. For we can only find out what we think if, in the early days, someone was sufficiently patient to facilitate our own process of self-discovery, if someone didn't shout over us and say, don't be ridiculous when we ventured forth an opinion, or didn't use all the resources of adulthood to insist that their way was the only way. The self-less child will have had to cope with an egotist who simply coerced them to follow an already predetermined agenda. These are the books you need to think are amazing. The only way to be a good boy or girl is to win at this kind of sport or that school subject and later to be a banker or a vet and so on, all without in any way bothering to check in on how this might have felt to the small person biologically programmed to adore and revere them. From this was drawn a moral. Survival depends on compliance. The price of existing is the sacrifice of one's real identity. Self-less people can be deeply charming. Their manner can be exquisitely polite and mellifluous. They are built to work out what we like and to reflect it back to us. They aren't merely pretending to go along with what we think for a few minutes. They genuinely seek out our worldview and lose themselves in it. But these people also pose grave dangers. For no one forgoes their sense of self without storing up a significant degree of rage and dissatisfaction. Yet this can never emerge cleanly because the candid expression of their needs was never something that these selfless people were allowed to practice. The first we're liable to learn about a problem they have with us is when it's become unmanageable. We can be most at risk if we fall in love with these elusive, beguiling, shapeshifting people. At first, it's our tastes they want to understand. It's the books and places and foods we like that seem especially interesting to them. We can allow ourselves a dangerous moment of self-indulgence. We're made to feel marvellous and aren't suspicious enough to wonder why.

何が好きなんだ？何を認めるかではなく、何を認めるのが良いのか？何が面白いかではなく、いつ笑えばいいのか？彼らを注意深く観察していると、ほとんど恣意的に近い急激な見解の変化に気づくことがある。彼らはこのアーティストやジャケットや政治的意見を愛しているが、実際はそうではなく、別のものを好み、また別のものを好む。彼らは、自分たちを当惑させ、恐怖させる世界に対して、暗黙のうちに常に呼びかけているのだ。私はどうあるべきか？何を考えるのが正しいのか？このような哀れな魂は、非常に特殊な子供時代の産物である傾向がある。幼

基礎受動態

Until at some point, the wind changes. Our beloved without a self starts a new job, develops different friends and starts to hang out with a crowd they take to be superior. What replaces their approval of us isn't just gentle disinterest. It will probably be disdain. We become as repulsive to them as we were once extraordinary. They may say, you don't really know me or you expect me to be perfect. They feel trapped by the very borrowed identity they once sought out so avidly from us. There is considerable anger in their system because they know that someone has quashed their true self. They simply forget that it wasn't us. They know implicitly that they've been prevented from becoming who they are and hold us responsible for stifling them. They may say, with an early adolescent level of scorn, you're controlling me, when what they really mean is, I don't know who I am, I've surrendered control to you and now can't work out what to think. Or, more profoundly, I can't determine the line between being loved and being controlled because a parent who was meant to do the former was more interested in the latter. We can find ourselves dropped like a stone. And yet ironically, we may have been very right for them, they just didn't know enough about who they were to trust their original instincts. The best we can do for people who have been denied a self is to signal that we aren't, as their parents once were, only there to foist yet another set of views on them. We won't demand that they echo us. We want to be curious about someone they've never yet been allowed to discover. We're keen to do a very eerie and unparalleled thing. Get to know them properly.

風向きが変わるまでは。自分というものを持たない最愛の人は、新しい仕事を始め、違う友人を作り、自分より優れていると思われる人たちと付き合い始める。彼らの私たちへの承認に代わるものは、穏やかな無関心だけではない。おそらく軽蔑だろう。私たちは、かつて非凡であったように、彼らから反感を買うようになる。彼らは言うかもしれない、あなたは私のことを本当に知らない、あるいは私に完璧であることを期待している、と。彼らは、かつて私たちから熱心に求めた借り物のアイデンティティそのものに囚われていると感じている。誰かが本当の自分