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  • Were all attracted to people all of time. What is it that attracts us to others and

  • what is it that others find attractive about you?

  • These are some of the questions our team is going to try and answer in this series of

  • videos. With millions of people to choose from finding that perfect someone shouldn?t

  • be that difficult. But the media, social pressures and human nature itself, have turned it in

  • to a mystery. We?re surrounded by manipulated images, celebrity and glossy perfection. We?re

  • given rules about dating through books, websites and the press. They all pressure us to conform

  • to an ideal of what is attractive? but what?s the truth? It?s time for Science to tackle

  • the subject, through a series of experiments our team are going to piece together some

  • of the clues to this enormously complex phenomenon and in these videos they will explore... The

  • Science of Attraction. The person we fall in love with or form a

  • relationship with or even just spend time with is an important choice and some people

  • find the process of developing those relationships easier than others. A whole industry of self

  • help books, websites and even courses has developed claiming that there are methods

  • to attracting a partner and being the perfect date. Do the techniques work and by using

  • them are you just manipulating other people? [music]

  • In this video three guys and three girls will be taking part in some speed dating to help

  • us find out if our sense of attraction can be tricked and what do people really find

  • attractive beyond looks. But first here's Kat

  • A quick search of online book stores for "self-help" books reveals 19,250 different titles. People

  • are very keen to make them selves thinner, happier, more appealing and better at meeting

  • people. So what is the truth about communication and

  • dating? Some people seem to be able to talk to anyone

  • and build that connection easily while others panic at the thought. so here's an experiment

  • to test some dating techniques and find out what really works when it comes to dating

  • and communication. To do this experiment we've invited 3 girls

  • and 3 guys to take part in some speed dating Science of Attraction style. [music] Our singletons

  • will be meeting at this lovely manor house with it's beautiful gardens, it makes the

  • perfect romantic location. So without further ado let's meet our lovely ladies.

  • >> Hi I'm Katherine from Ashford. >> Hi I'M Arul from Manor Park.

  • >> Hi I'm Sarah from Watford. We've set up the perfect location for our

  • speed dating. The couples will be have having a romantic picnic in the grounds of the manor

  • house complete with Strawberries, bubbly and chocolate.

  • We've got our ladies and a romantic location so it's time to meet the boys, who come with

  • a catch. [music] What the girls don't know is that our boys

  • are actors and that they have been given specific character traits to incorporate into their

  • rapport, during the dates. >> Hi I'm Jonny, I'm date A and I'm going

  • to be using dating techniques >> Hi I'm Alex, I'm date B and I'm going to

  • be Mr Average normal Guy >> Hi I'm Oliver, I'm date C and I'm going

  • to be as sleazy as I can As the boys take their places remember they

  • are each playing a specific role so that we can find out what kind of behaviour, conversation

  • and social attributes are most attractive to a potential date. Date A will be using

  • dating techniques to try and get the best of himself across to the girls. lookout for

  • his use of open body language and leaning back to show confidence and control. He'll

  • also tease his dates to show a playful, flirty attitude.

  • >> So you look all sweet and everything on top but secretly you are a bit of a bad girl

  • Date B will be playing the neutral role neither flirting or acting disinterested. And Date

  • C is our bad boy of dating, he'll act over confident.

  • >> you have a nice figure by the way' he'll be happy to lie in an attempt to show high

  • social value >> because like I said I write and Produce

  • tv shows and films as well so I'm in America quite a bit

  • and he will treat his dates mean but will it keep them keen

  • >> I'd like to ideally set up my own theatre company

  • >> [laughs] Ok, that's an original idea Now we've met the girls and our role playing

  • guys it's time to get them dating. [music] To keep things simple we're going to focus

  • on one of our guys at a time and see how they get on with all three girls.

  • Let's start with Date A. >> So what do you do for a living?

  • >> I'm just about to start directing >> Directing, ah cool, so umm, do you like

  • bossing people around then >> [laughs]yeah

  • >> What sort of music do you like? Are you into dancey stuff or whatever? You like to

  • shake your booty? >> Yeah definitely

  • >> So what's the top three things you look for in a guy?

  • >> The top three things I look for are, he has to have a good sense of humour

  • >> that's a given >> Intelligent

  • >> check >> I'm going to take a year out to do some

  • travelling or something >> yeah, I'm going to go to Australia

  • >> Same here, Australia's a wicked place to go!Bit of an adventurer

  • >> Yeah definitely [bell rings] >> Oh I think our time is almost up [he leans

  • in and kisses her] >> thank you

  • So that was Mr A. was his open body language, innuendo and confidence enough for him to

  • win a date? We'll find out later but now for Date B.

  • >> hello >> Hi I'm Alex

  • >> Alex. Nice to meet you. >> I'm Katherine.

  • >> Hi Katherine nice to meet you. >> Tell me about yourself then, short and

  • snappy. >> In a sentence, umm fun loving easy going

  • guy. I would say help yourself. But like they've had their way with them.

  • >> Well you know apparently flies and wasps apparently they throw up on their food anyway

  • before they eat it. >> That's horrible.

  • >> yeah >> So what sort of direction do you want to

  • do? >> Stage

  • >> Stage, Wicked. >> How about you what are you up to

  • >> I kind of work in the theatre. >> Wow that's good.

  • >> What do you like, comedy or drama >> umm musicals, laughs [awkwardly]

  • >> I like anything mell brooks,have you ever heard of young Frankenstein?

  • >> Yeah, I've seen the Producers, like that [bell rings] Oh that's it, times up!

  • Was Mr B's take me as I am, relaxed attitude a winner with the girls? We'll find out soon.

  • But now it's time for our no holds bard bad boy mr C.

  • >> Hiya >> Hi

  • >> What's your name? >> I'm Oliver

  • >> Oliver, I'm Katherine, nice to meet you! >> You want to come and sit a little bit closer

  • theres a bit of distance. SO how do you want to greet each other? Just a shake of the hand?

  • >> Yep we will start with that >> A kiss on the cheek?

  • >> Ah I see your quick! >> That's not nice you've just poured yourself

  • one you didn't ask me! >> Well I was getting to that, I was just

  • so enraptured by your presence! >> Ok Well, well started out.

  • >> You like to travel? I like travelling quite a bit actually.

  • >> Ah ok where have you been' >> My work kind of takes me all over the world

  • really, particularly in America. I both write and produce various projects on tv and film

  • >> really that is interesting. >> Tell me a little bit about yourself

  • >> I'm just about to go and start studying directing

  • >> oh right ok. Are you good at it. >> Of course! I'll be confident. Yes I'm brilliant!

  • >> It was a joke >> Oh right, yeah.

  • >> [down a glass of champagne together] Good girl!

  • >> See you later! Oh my! So, will mr c's over confident, space

  • invading, treat them mean attitude be a winner? Let's find out.

  • >> I'd probably choose A, I liked him the most, he just seemed a bit more open and wanted

  • to get to know me. B was really close though because B was really chatty.

  • >> I liked B definitely because I has so much in common with him, the others I just felt

  • so uncomfortable with them. >> C I felt so uncomfortable with

  • >> So uncomfortable! >> Actually wait I preferred C! [girls laugh]I

  • don't know lots of eye contact, lots of compliments >> I think he was really mean to me actually!

  • >> It still gives me urgh [shivers] >> Shivers down my spine!

  • >> I did think that B was nicer, but I just didn't like the fact that he was just a bit

  • to shy. >> It's bizarre how we all chose different

  • people! >> I put Mr. B First, then A then C. For Mr

  • B what I really like was umm how natural he was, I felt like our date went really quickly

  • because we just had so much we could talk about.

  • >> It would have to be Mr A first, Mr B second and C last. Guy number A he was ok to talk

  • to, he seemed like a bit of a laugh. >> First of all it would be Mr C, Second of

  • all it would be Mr A and third would be Mr B. Mr C was top of my list. He was very intriguing,

  • very charming. It just left me intrigued and wanting to know more. [music]

  • So Mr A got one first place and two second places, making him today's winner overall.

  • Mr B got one first place and one second place. And Mr C got one first place and no second

  • places. But each of our guys got a date. Let's see what the boys reactions were to the results

  • >> [boys laugh] ok, well done boys >> even him

  • >> to be honest I was a little bit surprised that there was any interest at all because

  • I thought I was a little bit scary at times but there you go. But I don't know people

  • are different they like different things don't they. So, crazy.

  • >> Yeah it's a bit of a shame. I thought I would have done better, but one, I suppose

  • that's fair. >> It's a victory for the normal guy, that's

  • what this is! Having made their choices based on the dates

  • we revealed the truth about the guys. >> You know what hearing about Mr C I do feel

  • manipulated and cheated and really gullible. >> Do you know what A seemed ok though I think

  • it is using the right positive way. >> I do definitely think A used the dating

  • techniques really well, because when I think back now he was relaxed and confident. Now

  • that I've heard about C, I think that C was a little bit too confident, too much in your

  • face. >> But for me it s so much better natural,

  • that's why I like B. >> Yeah you want them to be themselves anyway

  • >> you don't want to date someone fake because what are you going to find out. [music]

  • Dating techniques can help improve communication and allow people to try and show the best

  • of themselves but they can also be used to manipulate. Being yourself is clearly the

  • best thing to do and improving your communication skills can only help. Lying and using dating

  • techniques to manipulate may fool people into liking you for an instant but in the long

  • term the truth will come out. So the techniques taught in dating books and

  • seminars may help to some extent with building confidence but they aren't a system for dating.

  • The ultimate truth is be yourself and have confidence in who you are.

  • To find out more and watch other episodes go to science of attraction.co.uk

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