porn is impacting your relationship and that is certainly something that I'd be curious

whether or not you had a frank conversation with your partner or perhaps you're watching

this because you yourself are concerned about your porn use and how might be impacting your

arousal or ability to get stimulated by your partner. I think for the majority of couples

out there, porn in itself isn't a problem where or there may be a problem think that

it's a secret and I think that in a healthy relationship there is a room for masturbation,

self-stimulation where porn and a lot of images is part of that but I think unfortunately

some couples may have the idea that once in a relationship as if all sexual energy is

supposed to be for one's partner and if that is the contract that you both have established

then I absolutely understand why porn is problematic because ultimately it feels like a violation

of a contract so I think you need to take a step back and ask yourself and your partner

whether or not you feel there is any place for porn and if so, what feels like the healthy

balance. As long as you both agree that it's an aspect of some pleasure or potential something

shared together then I think you can have a healthy place. It's important to realize

that for some there is a tipping point where porn is unhealthy because it becomes obsessive,

it becomes compulsive and it can not only impact your ability to physically get aroused

with your partner but it's certainly can impact the ability to not get bored and really feel

themselves present and engaged and excited by what's happening in the moment here now

with your partner. If you feel like you're that individual or if you're in that relationship,

it's important that you both begin that conversation and ultimately start speaking with a professional

who can guide you to determine where will you ultimately decide porn does or doesn't

fit into your relationship.