Name: TEDx】正しい関係を選ぶ｜アレクサンドラ・レッドケイ｜TEDxUpperEastSide (【TEDx】Select the right relationship | Alexandra Redcay | TEDxUpperEastSide)
Uploaded: 2021-01-14T05:31:42.000Z
Duration: 17 min 46 s
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Translator: Nadine Hennig Reviewer: Gintare Vilkelyte

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"Oh, my gosh, I think I just met the love of my life!"

All of our emotion comes rushing so quickly.

Two of my very good friends called me within a week of each other

and told me that their marriage of over ten years had failed,

even though everyone else around them knew

that they weren't making a good decision at the time.

that the guy that she picked was kind of controlling;

and he really wanted a woman that would stay home,

And my friend was not at all interested in that,

but that's not what he was interested in.

she sacrificed for what she thought was the right decision.

she realized she didn't recognize herself,

And she said that the only men  that are out there

The men who, as she described, don't want to grow up,

that they don't want to have kids, they don't want to get married,

And she spent all her time and energy trying to 'un-Peter-Pan' them.

And she asked me, what do I think, why does this come about,

why can't she find anybody, and why can't she fix this situation.

So I say to her: "How honest do you want me to be?"

I'm really serious. I want to fix this problem. How do I do this?"

And I said: "Well, I think you're investing all your energy

Why should they get married, have kids, and settle down?

So, the issue is your focus, the issue is your perspective.

And why are we trying to force them to change?

or the red flags that are  right in front of our face ?

I have women all the time, complaining - in their 30s, 40s, and 50s

that they can't find the man of their dreams

I have men complaining that they feel that they're being overlooked

because they are the good guy, the nice guy, the friend,

that people are dating the unavailable person,

So, we make all these decisions in our relationships,

and we end up two, three years down the road,

We struggle to try to find the relationship that we want,

whether that leads to marriage or just to long term commitment.

Why do we repeat this cycle over and over and over again?

- that I had talked about, that asked my advice about why this happens -

says: "Oh, no! I don't date the Peter Pan guys.

Well, except the last two relationships, I did date the Peter Pan guy."

"Oh, OK, so, you do date them. So why do you choose them?"

and saying: "No, no, I don't really date them."

So, she became really defensive in this conversation

- the people that loved her the most, her friends, her family.

on the path of love, what happens? What do we do?

It starts off beautiful, wonderful, perfect.

You're totally in love with this person in a very short period of time.

And then, we see  a red flag, but we ignore it

because we say: "No, no. It must be us. We're crazy. We're too picky."

But the problem is that our friends and family see it too.

And they are concerned. They may or may not say anything.

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