Andsoas I keptmyheaddowntoprotectmyfacefromthewind, mybitterbubblewasburstbythevoiceof a womanfrom a fewmetersaheadwhowasmakingchild-likenoiseslike, "Whooandshoo."
風から顔を守るために頭を下げていると、私の苦い泡は弾けた。
So I lookupandindeeditwas a womanwalkinghandinhandwith a childlookedaboutthree.
Youareat a dinnerwith a fewcolleaguesorsomethingatthissemi-newjobofyoursandyou'resortofmingling a littlebitbutyou'reprobablyintrovertedsomostlyyou'rejustobservingandlistening.
Andthenyourfriendcomesuptoyouandsays, "Hey, soAnnasaidthatshereallylikedyourpresentation. Shecouldrelatetoit a lotandshethinksyou'resupercool."
And I thinkit's goodhavingthisinformationbecauseifyou'retryingtoconnectwithsomeoneoryouwantthemtolikeyou, showingthemthatyouappreciateandlikethemcanbe a goodandimportantfirststep.
Now, I knowthateyecontactcanbequitedifficultforsomepeople.
前を向くことやアイコンタクトを学ぶことなどだ。
I knowthat. I usedtostrugglewithit a lotbackintheday,
今ならわかるが、私は以前はかなりシャイで、目を合わせるのが苦手だった。
but I doreallybelievethatitisimportanttopracticeeyecontactifit's somethingthatyoustrugglewith, because, forsomanyofus, itreallyis a waytofeelthatconnectionwithsomeone.
So I rememberonceupon a longtimeago, I wasbrieflydatingsomeone. I thinkwewentonthreedatesintotal.
私は、誰かを文字通りじっと見つめるようなタイプではない。
Andduringthosethreedatesintotal, I don't think I wasabletomakedirecteyecontactformorethanoneminutewiththisperson.
So, I remembertherewasthisgirl. Wewerekindofinthesamefriendgroup-ish. Wewereacquaintances. I think I hadseenhermaybefiveorsixtimes.
何度か会ったことのある女の子を覚えている。
And I neverhad a properconversationwithher. Itwasverysurface-level. I feltlike I neverreallyconnectedwithher, notthat I wasputting a tonofeffortintodoingthat, butthatwasjustthewaythatitwas.
私たちは意気投合したように感じた。
Andthenonetime I rememberwewerealone, andsuddenly, sheopenedup a bitaboutherexperienceofmovingto a newtownandhowthatcouldmakeherfeellonelyattimes.
I feltlike I wasunderstandingwhereshewascomingfromandshewasunderstandingme.
コネクションがある。
Andthisisnotnecessarilyaboutoversharingeverypartofyourlifeinthehopesthatsomeoneisgoingtopickuponsomethingandbelike, "Hey, I relatetoyou," andthenyou'regoingtobecomefriends.