that any man

can attract women

any man can be great at that

any man can get

girlfriends

have great relationships

if they put their minds to understanding

what makes the process work

how women get attracted to you

how you need to follow certain principles

that will make it easy for you and how you need to avoid certain things that

may feel great

when they're happening

but at the same time

uh... actually obstruct the process

one of those things that feels great

but actually obstructs the process

very often of her becoming attracted to you

is that moment when we notice that

she is perfect

when we notice oh she is our dream girl and we see this one girl and we go wow

you know I want her to be my girlfriend

i'm in love

i'm feeling it

it's amazing

i've never felt like this before she's perfect

you know she makes my

heart sing my stomach

getting butterflies and all that stuff

and we get so overwhelmed with that feeling that what happens next is we are here

let's see we are here

and

basically

we are seeing ourselves here

with her

that's a skirt

okay we see ourselves here and we are visualising that

this is the end goal and we go straight here in our minds right we imagine

ourselves

together you know whatever making babies yeah

we go straight there right and we hope that

because we are so overwhelmed with our feelings so excited about it

that naturally

she must feel the same way when we tell her that we are so excited about it and

we are so excited about her and she means so much to us

and because you know what if somebody did that to us we think that would be

wonderful right

so why doesn't it ever work out that way or very rarely

well because what we forget is that

it doesn't matter whether we attracted to her

what's much more important is that she becomes attracted to us

nothing is going to happen with her

just because we are attracted to her

something is going to happen if

we are attracted to her

but if she becomes attractive to us now i know that sounds really obvious

but very often because we get so overwhelmed with our feelings

we forget but that is actually the key thing here right

she needs to become attracted to us

when we jump straight ahead into this thing

what happens naturally

we want to tell her how much we love her

what she means to us and we will know you know

ask her out and let her know how much she means to us and

you know give her wonderful things and take her to dinner

show her how much we like her

and what's the reaction usually

well women get faced with this situation are

oh my god ok this guy really likes me

now

clearly

he's pushing in this direction so what i need to do

is either go with that

or

block him off right

so women are presented with this choice of either

going along with something that they don't yet experience themselves

so they feel pressure

to go along with what you are going to do which is getting intimate quickly

because you know it's right and you feel great about it

or to

keep distance and block you off and you know what say i'm not attracted to you but we can

be friends or whatever

so they're quickly

have this pressure of oh my god

whether i say yes or no

will either make him

you know very happy or very destroyed and i basically have his life in my hand

okay

because that's what it sounds like and looks like to her

when we want to go straight there yeah

make sense

so

women never get a chance to become attracted to you in this process

do you understand?

women in that process they don't become attracted to you because they never get the chance to

see you grow on them yeah unless they're instantly attracted to you which is not

very often to be honest

then they don't really get the chance to

you know get to know you

get to grow some affection some trust with you get to

grow some attraction to you

and go step by step

so what's the key to this

look this is a line yeah

if you want to go from there being by yourself and dreaming of her... to here

being with her

then there are lots of steps

to take here okay

step-by-step process

and when we jump ahead

we mess up okay

what's the first step

building some trust

at this stage she still i think you know there's this guy who really likes me he's kind

of good looking but I mean

i don't know out

do I know him

so is he gonna be weird is he just going to try it

uh... have sex with me and

then fuck off or

what's he gonna do i mean i don't know yet

there's a bit more at stake for women than for men yeah

so

first step building trust once you built trust

second step might be

depends might be to

well

laugh for the first time together and i have

have a bit of a laugh maybe flirt with her

you know so that might be the second step third step might be to

uh...

be a little bit physical playfully

get comfortable touching each other getting familiar physically as well right

next step might be uh...

you know

being

inviting her over dinner and being an environment where

you and her are

by yourselves you and her

after having built some trust after having built some attraction after getting a

bit comfortable physically and building that trust as well that you

you know that you know how to handle yourself and that you're not weird or creepy or

whatever

okay then you might be in an apartment together with her you know maybe you're kissing or something okay

that builds more familiarity

then maybe having sex right

that again builds intimacy yet then maybe you're having you are starting to tell each

other some some stuff

about each other that is deeper like something that builds even more trust

more trust

and maybe there's more attraction building from that maybe there's more physical

intimacy building from that

and then

at that stage

you can talk about any of this stuff if you want

but all of these steps

need to be taken and crucially they also need to be enjoyed by you

so

the key with this is

you want to focus on this step first

then you want to focus on this then you want to focus on this then you want to focus on this

then you want to focus on this then you want to focus on this and then you can focus on that

you don't want to go straight from there to there but want to go there there there there there

there there there

does this make sense

step

by

step

so that she is with you every step of the way rather than

you're jumping all the way ahead and then you're basically like forcing her to

make an instant life or death decision on your behalf

whether you're going to be happy

and overjoyed

or forever destroyed

because for

because the risk is for her

if she goes along with it while you're jumping ahead

like she might have to finish with you i've been three days yet because she

does not feel it yet or does not not trust you yet she doesn't even know whether she is

attracted to you she doesn't even know whether you are physically you know here

good at like you know

getting it on with her she doesn't even know whether you are a good kisser

she doesn't know all these things doesn't know wether you and her sexually

have something in common wether your dick is small or big or whatever

whether you fit you know all of this stuff

uh... so that's why this process has to build one one one one one one one

and you will need to focus on on the next step rather than the big step ahead

make sense

right

i hope this makes sense the step by step thing

is huge

don't jump ahead

just because you feel it doesn't mean that she's going to feel it

she needs to get attracted to you and for that you need to go step by step

and focus on each individual bit

and

and enjoy each individual bit

most guys see this whole dating thing as some sort of like

uh...

I don't know like a necessary evil to get to the end result

and that doesn't work for women trust me

okay make sense

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thanks very much take care

and try to think of it in this way rather than going all the way

into the future try it out a few times and just

gently bring yourself back to focusing on what's right here in front of you rather

than that

the big goal in the future okay

and you see

you will take the girl with you in the process and you enjoy the process a lot more and

you'll be focused much more

in the moment

because that's key when you try to get a girlfriend

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