live from me up there yeah from the office

Gary's trying to find a catchphrase to start a video with if the look vest boom

was that good no so we wanted to do to make this video because we why why do we

want to make this video okay so the video because the other night when we

were lying in bed you asked me Thanks I'm just getting it out of the way

Kagome and here you asked me what are our goals we want to accomplish what we

want to do and you kind of caught me off guard so I started thinking about it I

thought it was like a really good question and I thought it'd be good for

you guys to do it on your own to think about well they already did it but I

think it's very interesting to do it as a couple I think that's very important

because I think a lot of people do it like for themselves for their own

personal growth but when you were in a relationship marriage partnership it's

very good to kind of see if we are on the same page to what we want 2008 team

to look like and then at the end of 2019 we're gonna look at this video and be

like so when she asked me there you know I kind of categorize things so I

categorized it as on the personal side on the business side on the relationship

side with the kids to start things off we talked about goals with you know with

the kids I want to be more patient with the kids so this year my goal is to

really be like way more patient especially look Jake because Jake is

just like he's a firecracker and once he's difficult he's just a very

spirited little dude he's my mother he does run on emotion they love you pika

yeah I was I definitely wanna spend more time with them I want more one-on-one

time more a little time with them I want to be more patient with them and I want

to be more about positive reinforcement for the boys so as opposed to waiting to

discipline them when they do something good I really want to support that not

that they lack in love but even more so so even last night when I was putting

jakey to bed you know I give a hug and a kiss and I tell them every night you're

my boy love you and just repeating that letting

them know that I think is really really crucial that's with Jake with Ben he's a

bit of a different character I want to be more interactive with him because you

and last night you wanted a place for Mario's with me but not in the video

game in real life so I really want to spend a lot more time you know Ben as

well and I wanna I want to spend individual time with him I want to take

them out like one on one once a week with Jake then once a week with Ben

because we have our family time together on the weekends but maybe in the

evenings oh I think that's for me I would like to be more vulnerable with

them this book that I was reading by Renee brown brain Abram she was saying

how it's important also for kids to not look at us as these like perfect human

beings but you know to be open and showing them that we don't know it all

and that we're also human as they are - parents you always like don't do this

and don't do that and you didn't do that right in instead of criticizing being

open about you know I've found that before and it's not a good idea because

so I feel like they connect with you living on another level yeah

so I think just like learning more about ways to make our bond stronger I so

really want to travel with them that's for sure I find with Jake because he's

older you can reason with him more you can explain things to them more so that

that's really working with Max I just don't want to miss it I don't want to

miss these ik he's such a little cutie pie with Jake I was just like scared

because he was our first kid and I was just scared cuz he was a baby and he was

so fragile with Ben I was more like trying to juggle the two of them but now

I feel like we have this infrastructure in place in terms of you know the people

who help us we've known each other now a lot longer so I feel like we're more

kind of comfortable with our relationship so I really want to put you

know a lot of attention on on Maximus I mean he's just such a easy honey but

okay on our purse on the personal level of you and I we're talking how we would

like to connect more we are very close and we're very open and honest

each other but life gets so hectic and there's so much going on and now that

we're working together and just like have three boys and a newborn there's

it's like we're always together but we're not really together we definitely

want to make an effort to reconnect yeah absolutely

I mean I'm will sugarcoat it I feel that we we've been disconnected especially

this last year with so many changes in our lives and it's not the kind of

disconnected where I'm worried about our relationship or I'm scared or anything

like that it's just that I feel like I don't have enough of you and actually

mentioned this in the previous video I just don't have enough as much as we

have to be you know parents and business people we also need to really need to be

there for each other and I think we've been kind of negligent in not

prioritizing ourselves and putting our our relationship last where I think our

relationship should be first and I also think that our relationship

should be ahead of our relationship with the kids the kids need to see that you

and I are are strong and tight and were cool to each other because if they have

that as an example I feel is gonna help them their whole lives have you like

watched some of my videos maybe I also know that I have to spend the rest of my

life with you and the kids in however many years like 19 20 22 years yeah

they're gonna be out the house yeah and it is you and me baby we're gonna be

we're gonna be partying so we got to make sure that we're tight because that

time is gonna come why would you want to achieve this year for yourself with 2019

for sure in the basket I mean I definitely want to get into into better

shape I've been working with a trainer you know I have been doing amazing I've

been consistent but I'm still not seeing the results that I want to see so I

really want to focus on on my diet that's something that I really need to

pay a lot more attention to I'll be really interested to see the progress a

year from now where I'm gonna be that's what I want and I know that's what you

want too and I hope that we'll be able to actually work out together you

mention the other day that maybe we could you know we could work out

together I think that would be really cool so that's kind of what it is for me

also I came to the realization of what it is that I love was funny I was

talking to a buddy of mine yesterday he was telling me about how he built his

house really motivated him and he was telling me that he was basically his own

Foreman for this project that it was beautiful and then he asked me Gary what

do you get to I'm asking myself what am i into I don't know what I'm into and

then I realize what I'm into I mean to me it's a business I know I

know but you know what when you spend most of your time doing something you

actually eventually come to the realization that you an amazing so now I

know and I'm enjoying the process so much I'm a business with you of my other

ventures that I run and that I'm involved with my goal is to just

continue growing as a business person and to invest more time and effort and I

guess that's maybe a nice transition to what you know what our goals are for

Larry but before we do how about you thank you see I go straight to business

I just read the business it's okay you cut yourself for myself I think I don't

want to take the time to just find my place in that role of like a mother of

three I want to have more fun adventures and experiences with you I'm excited to

move into a new house that would be fun I feel like 2018 was really like a good

year for me kind of personally on an emotional or mental level so I think I

would just want to kind of progress with it I just want to try different things

and challenge myself more become like Beyonce in the hip-hop world become

Beyonce a little bit like in the dancing I'm gonna be like dancing I don't know

just like keep on you know doing things and taking risks and just keep doing my

thing so that's something that I want to continue in 2018 it's not something like

specific I would say ages I see you like I think a little differently than you

see yourself I see you evolving as a human being and I've seen it since we

met when you and I met you were 20 years old

yeah just seeing your evolution on all aspects with motherhood you were just

pushed into that you're just like being pushed into the deep end of a swimming

pool and you've done you've done great with it what do you mean we've been

pushed we planned a child we planned we planned that the child

I'm just saying again just to see you evolve and to see you evolve as a

businessperson has just been amazing to me and I've just been really happy

the fact that I've been around to be able to mentor you to coach you like

this is gonna sound really conceited but I'm a muse of you that you have me

because nobody do I tell you all the time I know I know I mean I tell Gary

all the time that in our company Valera Inc we have a few girls that like Kimmie

and Jessica Gary helps a lot with the process and establishing a process and I

always tell Gary it's like every time they spend time with him I'm jealous of

their time with him because the amount of information and valuable lessons and

just like how to manage yourself as a business person and as a person they

learned so much from you so yeah I have the same benefit but you are you you

have you you but the thing is the thing is is that when I was this age when I

was 28 years old I had nobody so I was figuring things out as I went along I

obviously have a you know a business partner who are still business partners

with who have a great relationship with but he was just as inexperienced as me

so we were both figuring stuff out I never had that older friend for whatever

reason I lost friends with younger people and hence I married somebody much

younger so I didn't have that kind of mentorship so it was really it was

really trial and error getting back to you your ability to make decisions your

ability to delegate and I think that that's been that's been I think the most

challenging thing for you is to let go of certain tasks both on the business

side and at home when we started the business you did everything I remember

the first time I saw like the video went up and it had like 50,000 views 100,000

views I look at the video and I said to you I said who made this video you said

well you know I made this video I said we mean you made this video so you made

this video ok but who edited the video and who uploaded it to YouTube and she

said I did all that and I said but how did you do all of that

she was I just searched YouTube how to edit video I was like what that's what I

still do with my life when I don't know what to do something I know you do it

when you're like how to so then you figured every piece out as we went along

and then we've come so far from the days where with the days was 18 months ago

were you doing everything by yourself and now you know we have this team in

place of very talented people anyways I really enjoyed seeing your development

and I look forward to see you continue with

your development well thank you on the business side because now we kind of

covered everything on the profile on the personal side what would you want to

happen this year if we're just talking about malaria ink and all the other

stuff that I'm involved in um you know there's obvious things like the growth

of your brand altogether and as much as I don't only look at the numbers and

place like ultimate value only on the numbers they certainly are really

important we have a crazy like a few crazy milestones this year I think we're

like almost eight hundred and ninety thousand subscribers on YouTube so the

numbers getting close so the numbers are definitely going in the right direction

so yeah I mean at the end of this year I mean I'd love to see you know

subscribers at two to three million I think that's all very very possible I

think the content that you are creating with your team I think that content is

continuing to resonate with people so I definitely wanna see those numbers going

up that's a huge goal of mine you know the ebooks the e-commerce that we're

gonna be launching the collaboration we have a lot of cool collaborations set up

which is very humbling to me because the people that you are talking to are just

world-class influencers world-class businesspeople experts in their fields

but we're doing something like 10 to 15 million video views a month on YouTube

I'd love to see that number go to like 100 200 million video views just

reaching more people healthy public goal setting you guys this is the perfect

example of specific goal setting I mean you're on the analytical side but on the

less analytical side which is me I'm the creative person here although you know

great um I would love to keep creating content that just like resonates with

people and impacts them getting the letters and emails and cards from you

guys that tell me like your story and if I helped you in any way like all of