Hope you're having an awesome day today.

I want to talk about something that has been on my mind, my heart for years.

It's not just me who has experienced.

I literally get so many comments and especially private messages, direct messages, e mails that are about this topic that you guys have specifically asked me to help solve.

I want to talk about something that's kind of a great unspoken, which is petites generally look younger than they actually are.

If you're in your twenties and thirties, you know those pivotal moments in your career that really matter, or it doesn't have to be career wise.

It could be.

Maybe you're buying or selling a car or a house moments where you have to be taken seriously that usually involve a handshake with mutual respect.

And then somebody says, Oh, I thought that you were fill in the blank on what age?

But it's significantly younger than you were, and it's sort of, in my opinion discounts, whatever credibility that I had walking into that situation.

It's insanely frustrating because it feels could sort of helpless, like I can't change the way that I look.

It can even cost you financially when you didn't get that job, that someone didn't think you were credible enough for where you didn't nail that sale that you were going for or whatever else it is.

And at the end of the day, it's not like we have full control over other people's perceptions of us.

All we can do is tried to walk into those situations, feeling confident and ready to take on that environment.

And I think that that has a lot to do in my experience with how I dress in how I portrayed myself and sort of how I took the reins on that situation.

So that's why I want to talk about today.

I have five tips that can really help with those moments in life where I've felt like I need to be taken more seriously.

And so let's just get started with the 1st 1 I am all for trying things like edgy hair styles and something that would involve sort of headbands and clips.

But anything that is too adorable or cute or edgy are things to do with your hair that might aid you younger.

So examples of this headbands clips anything that has sort of ribbons in it.

Anything that either a young teenager might try or else somebody who's you know, a little girl might put in there here, even if it's a little bit more upscale, it could age me younger.

You guys know I I've even tried the clips trend, and it was really fun, but I wouldn't walk into an interview with that.

So be mindful of that house.

Something my age, you young in your hair.

One note about haircuts, though if I want to look more mature, I might try something like a shorter haircut.

I say this as I'm currently growing my hair out, but if you have long hair and you love it and it works for you, one thing that you could do is pull it back into something that looks a little bit neater.

And then that could work really well for those moments.

As for hair color, the same could be true about if you went some with a hair color that's more natural versus something that is a little bit more loud or unnatural.

So if you had sort of like the pinks, greens, purple hair, colors, those my age, you younger?

And of course, this is all that with the umbrella of where whatever here color you want.

But if you're trying Thio, fight the frustration of those moments where you need to be taken more seriously.

Just evaluate that for yourself.

Tip number two has to do with wardrobe purchases.

So by this, I mean, when I was a lot younger, I would have several of the same items.

But it was more like I threw away type of thing like I would didn't invest properly in the item to begin with, so I would have multiples.

And a lot of that has to do with, like, bargains, too, right?

So if I'm shopping really affordably and I can buy 10 of the same shirt, what is the deal there?

Is it that it was so cheaply made that it's not going to stand the test of time?

Or is it so trendy that it's just not gonna last in your closet anyways?

So the deal is more with the trend and not necessarily thinking timeless in long term.

So if I was in a career where I had to be taken more seriously, I might opt for more sensible, timeless options.

Like instead of a very trendy hell, I might opt for something like a kitten heel that is a little bit more sensible, a little bit less distracting and more appropriate for the environment.

The goal here is to have clean lines and more structure to my outfit ends more sensibility in the pieces that I'm trying to wear.

Next is the idea of quality.

So what I want to talk about here today is the idea of perception.

And what one or two quality pieces could really do with your outfit doesn't mean head to toe.

You're dressed in Chanel.

Instead, it could mean maybe you have, like, a good watch.

I love wearing this watch, and it can really dress up the most basic outfit.

So how I would tackle quality is how I honestly did it from the start three years ago.

There's still pieces today that I own that I started with back men, and this takes time.

It's a process that needs a lot of patients, but overall, if I can have one or two pieces that aren't going to break down on me, that's going to help me in the long run with my whole wardrobe, with things being timeless and that will stand the test of time.

Nice has to do with color choice.

When I'm thinking about that timeless piece, colors like pastels and also bold colors will age me younger.

And so for me, it's been a conscious choice to choose neutral and muted tones in my outfits that will then look more mature and more elegant.

If you feel like neutrals might be a little bit boring.

The way that you want to dress that up is through accessories.

So that's my tip.

I might wear something that is more muted or basic as the base of my outfit.

But if I could imagine the perfect outfit for me, that would mean something that I could wear, mix and match and be very versatile.

But then, adding jewelry or outerwear to that that would dress up in outfits.

That's my goal for my outfits because it'll look more mature, more put together.

I can wear it at any age.

If I could imagine myself from 15 to 90 I could wear that outfit like it's timeless.

You can't guess my age or put me in a box as to how old you think I am.

This next topic is really interesting to me the more I thought of it, which is dressing down for comfort and what that does.

A lot of people ask me for Alfred ideas involving sweat pants and pajamas and that type of thing, and I'm all about some swept hands.

But in those moments when I need to look more mature to be taken more seriously, even to go to the grocery store, you won't see me in sweatpants.

That's been a conscious choice, because any time that I've dressed down, I get that same line about how old they thought I was to you petites out there.

I know that you feel me at that because I've gotten again so many people saying how completely obnoxious it is to hear those words you know, discouraging to.

And so when I go to the grocery store Francis, or if I'm running errands, I just simply make the choice to wear usually something like jeans.

And it might be a T.

But I'll dress it up with a bag and a belt and a good pair of shoes.

But the interesting thing about this to me is that if you think of someone who is dressed down, like in virtually pajamas in a story, just go with that or in an airport, then someone who naturally looks younger than they are.

Well, look even younger, or someone who looks naturally older than they are will age them older.

And this middle ground of you know, this euphoric age that we all want to be.

It won't exist in sweatpants.

So that was just kind of an interesting observation, in my opinion.

Next is a bonus for you guys.

Finally, I want to talk about the idea of confidence exuding confidence is the one way to make you a JJ.

Appropriately, I think it's just being ready for whatever is next in life, Right?

So let's say that you're in high school.

What are you looking forward to is a college, then dress for someone who is in college already?

Or maybe you're in college, Maybe dress for grad school.

Maybe you're in grad school or you're ready to go into your career.

You totally didn't go to college, and that's awesome.

And you're ready to go in your career and you want to look like you're ready for that job.

Think about those things.

What kind of confidence they have.

How would they dress?

Maybe you're already into your career.

What does your next step look like?

Those air things to dress for those air things to exude confidence in the main way to do that before you even say your name is through a handshake.

And a lot of times when I shake their hand, I will go in for something that is like, Aah!

Firm handshake, but not like gripping too tight, but definitely not like a confidence.

You know, that's one way to exude confidence is all through body language.

Also, if I felt uncomfortable in a situation, I would in the past not be mindful about how my voice sounded so I would do something that's even more high pitched than I already was.

Or I would kind of like clothes off my chest and like, kind of clock watcher we closed off.

In general, that is not how you exude confidence in those moments that matter.

If you think of the oldest version of yourself that you possibly could think of, how confident would you be a lot of older people that I know they are so ready to tell you their opinion because they've had years of well earned wisdom.

They also know who they are.

And so that's kind of who I wanna be like at the end of the day.

That's how I want to impress.

I want to impress my five year old self and won't impress my 85 year old self.

And those were the only people that really matters.

So when you walk into maybe a scary job interview, you wanna walk in with those moments feeling confident.

Body language is everything.

So do some extra research on proper body language and what you're telling the world through what you your eyes are saying about you or how closed off you might be.

Or, in my case, how high pitched I would put my voice.

And so now I'm more mindful about those things, and in the end it makes me look or sound older, and that's it.