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Thank you.
Wow, that was fun.
Ok, let's get naked! (Laughter)
Ready, set, strip!
No, teasing, I'm joking!
The kind of naked that I'm referring to
is the naked that makes you squirm on the inside.
It's naked of the heart.
Naked to the soul. Naked to the truth,
which is what I want to share with you today as the truth
about men, women and the Erotic Creature.
But it's going to require some stripping on both of our parts.
I need you to strip away all those false pretenses
as ideas you have about the female body
and I need you to strip your minds wide open.
So this is my laboratory
where I've spent the last 12 years guiding women
toward awakening their feminine body movement
which awakens their feminine nature
which awakens what I call their Erotic Creature.
Every woman on the planet has an Erotic Creature.
She's the primal feminine body.
She's the wild, untamed, sexual alter ego
that lives deep within.
Very often she's buried under furry brows,
tensed frozen bodies, judgmental thoughts and fear,
but she is there.
And when you awaken her
and you integrate her into your being,
it sends you into a place of wholeness
and this wholeness of the feminine is capable
of elevating every living creature within its reach.
Let's talk for one second about -- oh, there it is,
the Erotic Creature -- the Unthinkable.
What if I tell you that the pole that I was just dancing on
is a symbol for the next and fourth wave
of the feminist movement?
I know, right!?
The personal reclamation of the female body and the sexuality within.
It's crazy, right?
A stripper pole representing the feminist movement --
there's got to be some people rolling over in their graves! Heros of mine!
But I'm going to tell you about this wild journey
I took over the last 23 years that brought me
to this place of clarity and conviction.
I'll set the scene for you.
1989, La Cienega Boulevard Star Strip Gentleman's Club.
The first time I went into a strip club
I was a young actress, I was helping a friend with a writing project
and I was very unhappy that I had to go on to this place
that I felt subjugated and objectified women.
But once inside I fell in love with
the movement of some of the dancers,
Their bodies undulated and they teased
and they were provocative and sexual, and so feminine.
And I was desperate to learn how to do it.
But I didn't want to be a professional stripper.
Not that there's anything wrong with that!
What I did is
I wrote-produced a film
where I actually got to play a stripper.
And in the movie I needed to create a character
who lived and moved through her sexuality.
And I thought this is going to be fun.
So I, first day of rehearsal, put on this outfit
that I thought would communicate
my sexy stripper-self into the world,
please don't laugh or you can laugh! (Laughter)
So I got on stage in this outfit
and the music comes on and my body just goes:
uh-uh -- uh-uh -- Ain't moving! And she froze!
Now I was a dance major, New York University,
I'm a professionally trained ballerina,
I should know how to do this.
But my body was like, "I am not having anything of it!"
And I started to force her to kind of --
bop from side to side,
trying to be really sexy, it was so pathetic,
it was totally not sexy!
And what I was realizing is that
nowhere in my being did I know
how to embody my sexuality in my everyday life.
It wasn't that I didn't have sexuality. I for myself though it was fine.
It was bringing my sexuality into my everyday life.
I was faltering at being overtly feminine, like -- wow,
the body, which is a brilliantly intuitive creature, speaks.
And what my body was saying is:
"You can clearly see, is you have no idea who I am."
And she was completely right.
So I knew something was missing inside of me.
I spent the next 4 months, as we developed the film,
hunting for who I was as a sexually embodied creature.
I went to the strip clubs, I met dancers,
I dissected the movement and I learned it,
and what I found inside of myself I did not expect.
I found its dark, soulful, emotional sexuality
that gave me a confidence in my body and my femininity
that I'd never had before.
What awoke in me was my Erotic Creature.
All this is amazing, but it gets so much better,
because not only did I awaken that side of myself
but this side of myself started changing everything
on the home front.
My marriage went from "Eh" to "Oh my God!"
It's stayed there for 23 years.
I became a happier mother to my children,
I became a more complete woman on to myself.
And I had to share this with other women.
I was like, 'You've got -- this is it,
this is the Holy Grail of empowerment!'
and they're like, 'Ok.'
I developed this movement called
'S Factor,' and I started teaching it
to fellow pre-school moms and women in the neighbourhood
and they too started releasing their sexuality
into their everyday lives and into their bodies and --
the same changes that I'd had in my life
they were having in theirs.
Happier relationships, happier children,
happier women, it caught on like wild fire.
The next thing I know I am on Oprah's.
We become -- our effort becomes international news.
I'm inundated with e-mails from all over the globe.
Apparently, the desire to be whole --
it crosses not only geographic boundaries
but political and cultural boundaries as well.
I had tapped in a world-wide artery
of women all missing the same something I had been missing.
The Erotic creature was asleep globally. But how was that possible?
I couldn't understand how could the woman from Saudi Arabia,
the woman from Beijing, the woman from Buenos Aires and me in Los Angeles,
how could we all be missing the same thing? I needed to understand this.
And I call it the 'Yin effect.'
Think of each person, male or female, having within the potential
of Yin-feminine and Yang-masculine energy,
we live in a world that cuts out a piece of Yin in all of us.
And if you jump into that Yin, you'll see that
it's the physicality and sexuality of the feminine body that's shut down.
And the more women I talked to, the more I learned.
And what I learned is that the shutting down of the Yin
starts with the first offense.
The first offense is the first time anyone or anything
brings negative attention, judgment or shame to your body.
So my first offense happened when I was 7
and this is the picture of what a 7-year-old little girl's body looks like
just for you to refer to throughout the story -- this is my daughter.
I was hanging out with my best friends, Brian and Donald Doyle,
they were 7 and 8 respectively, we were hanging out
in the backyard, it was summer, it was really hot,
we were playing, we decided to take a break
and we went to cool down, so we all took our tops off and
we laid back in the grass, arms over the head, it was an awesome day,
the air was cooling my chest,
it was a beautiful, innocent day.
And all of a sudden the upstairs window of their house was flying open
and Mrs Doyle stuck her head out
and she screamed in the most piercing voice,
'Sheila Kelley! You naughty little girl!
You put your top on immediately, you ought to be ashamed of yourself and go home.'
My shoulders started to pinch up towards my ears,
my chest caved-in with this new-found emotion of shame,
I couldn't breathe, it was the moment I began
to separate from my female body.
Mrs hadn't yelled at her boys but she yelled at me
but we did the same thing.
What I learned that day is it's safe and good
to be in a male body, and it's not safe,
it's dangerous to be in a female body.
Mrs Doyle didn't hate me,
she was trying to curb a sexuality that scared her,
that didn't even exist yet.
She thought she had the right to tell me what
I could and couldn't do with my body.
These kind of stories play out every single day all over the globe.
We are stealing the light and the life
from these creatures, these beautiful feminine creatures.
Every single woman you know
has had a first offense, whether she's aware of it or not.
And she's had subsequent offenses every day of her life, offenses like
'keep your knees together', 'don't move like that',
'she's a slut', 'you look like a whore'.
These offenses eat away at the emotional boundary
and the ego of the body until you do not know
where your body begins and where your body ends.
You think anyone, anytime, anywhere can tell you
what you can and cannot do in your body
and the only choice you have is to shut it down.
So let's understand these offenses a little better
'cause they're tricky and you can't always tell they're offenses.
And there's a spectrum of them and they're global
and they range in noticeability.
If some of these pictures are difficult -- please avert your eyes.
They range from barbaric, such as the stoning to death of a woman
who expresses her sexuality.
Or brutal, the creating of a human chastity belt made of flash.
Or overt, the mandatory veiling of the female body.
To subtle controls, things like offensive advertising
that eats away your integrity of your body.
To subliminal controls, the infantile global uproar
over a pair of royal nipples.
Now really, honestly, I just don't know which pair of nipples were so offensive!
But that's another talk!
So I wanna switch the table on you for a second.
Do you know who I find incredibly attractive
and I think if I saw his bare nipples
I would be so sexually aroused that I couldn't control myself?
Daniel Craig. I don't even look over there
because -- I kind of think Daniel Craig should cover his nipples, too!
(Laughter) (Applause)
I know, I know, it's absurd, but is it?
We are laughing at this but we are doing this to the female body.
What each and every one of these offenses have in common
is the desire -- their end-goal is to control
and limit the female body and sexuality,
to control the clitoris, to control the vagina,
to control the uterus, to control all of it.
We don't want to think that atrocities like acid-burnings
for turning down a marriage proposal
are related to atrocities like
domestic abuse for turning down a marriage proposal.
But as you can see they're the exact same thing
they're just using different tactics of control
in different degrees.
And when you hear repeatedly
that your body is obscene or indecent
you begin to internalize it, and you start to self-control
and you start to try and hide your body,
you try and hide your sexuality in unhealthy eating habits,
or you hide in skin and bones,
you'll do anything you can to hide.
Or you start to cut.
Or you try to become somebody else's ideal of perfection.
Or you'll mini-man yourself up so that you can be taken more seriously
in a world that values all that is masculine.
Or you just live where 80% of the women in America live
which is where something is missing
and you have no idea what it is.
What we have done to the ego of the female body is --
it's horrific.
We have squandered and abused
one of the sweetest, most vulnerable,
most adorable creatures on the planet,
and we -- all of us -- we are all paying the price,
because if you think women are the only one scarred
in the relationship to their body,
think about this: what the Doyle boys learned
on the day of my first offense
was exactly what I learned.
They learned that their body was more valuable than my body.
They learned that if their mother could tell me
what I could and couldn't do in my body
then maybe someday they could, too.
Men too are scarred in relationship to the feminine body through these offenses.
In a UCLA study of normal college students
over 50% of the young men said they would rape a woman
if they knew there was no punishment.
For the majority of men the most arousing fantasy
was the rape of a young woman
where she experienced both orgasm and pain.
Right? Kind of sobering.
There was a time when the female body was worshiped,
not just for her life-giving ability,
but for her heightened senses, her emotional acuity,
her brilliant intuition and her dance of the fertility.
And this dance took place at night when the women --
and only the women -- would gather over the fields
and they would do -- they would undulate their pelvises
over the crops to fertilize the soil, to feed the village.
That's the true origin of what we know as
'fertility dance', which became erotic dance,
which became what we know today as strip-tease and pole-dancing.
It was a celebration of the feminine body.
It began as a dance of life. The great mythologist
and philosopher Joseph Campbell wrote,
'Woman is life and Man is the protector of life.
The male's job is to protect the women.'
Somehow we have --
the way we've learned how to protect has become perverted.
We are protecting by dousing the flame of the feminine.
We are serving by controlling the body of the feminine
instead of doing what we have to do and that is
to turn our masculine energy out and face
any on-coming threat so that the feminine
can blossom and grow and radiate and be life.
The next wave of the feminist movement is actually --
it's a human movement and it includes all of us
and it is the reclamation of the beauty
and the genius of both the masculine and the feminine.
And it all begins with the awakening of the Erotic Creature in every woman
because when a woman steps into her power in her body
she calls every single masculine into his greatest power.
When she gets stronger he gets stronger.
When we as a culture diminish her
we are diminishing our culture.
The female-male complement can exist
and only when we cultivate it
are we really going to live up to the potential --
the true potential of ourselves individually and collectively.
This is my guy. We cultivate every single day,
it's not perfect, there are ups and downs,
but we dance the dance of empowering one another.
Now here I am totally naked.
If we all strip bare every day
and expose our deepest truth,
we can live naked in our passion,
naked in our power, naked in ourselves,
naked in the moment.
I reclaimed my body after a lifetime of
self-criticism brought on by a society that
curbed her enthusiasm for life, and in doing so
I have become, as Charles Dickens so beautifully wrote,
'the hero of my own life'. So the choice is yours.
Do you dare to become the heroes of your lives
and reclaim your essence?
Do you dare to live naked?
So when you walk out of this talk,
when you leave this talk, women,
step into the grandeur, the beauty, the gorgeousness
the sway, the curve, the power, the fire of your body,
of your spirit, of your emotions.
I want you to undulate your spine
and just rock your body, sway it, move it,
stretch it, reach your arms up,
you can do it right now if you want to.
I want you to go out and throw a hip-circle in the middle of the grocery store!
Just for the fun of it!
I want you to spread your radiance with a smile
like right into the eyes of a stranger.
And I'm going to feed you and you're going to feed me.
And men, step into the magnificence of the masculine creature that you are.
Create a space of safety for the feminine to thrive.
Serve her, protect her, face out and
hold her in your gaze and elevate her.
Because when you elevate her
you will behold in front of you
the eternal and the sacred feminine.
She's here right this minute,
she is in front of you, she's next to you,
she's behind you, she is every woman,
she is the swoop of the neck,
and the turn of an ankle, and the curve up the lower back,
and she's the deep emotional heart,
she is the wise intuitive soul,
and when you see her, when you awaken her
when you behold her -- oh my God --
whether you are a man, a woman or a child,
you will be filled up, split open into your bliss
because that is the power of the feminine.
And one more thing.
Women --
when you walk into a room,
remember your breasts should enter 5 minutes before you
and your glories ass should leave 5 minutes after you're gone!
Thank you very much!
(Applause and cheers)
Thank you. (Applause)


【TEDx】Let's Get Naked: Sheila Kelley at TEDxAmericanRiviera

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