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Guess what, I really don't like my best friend's boyfriend, but what do I do about it? Well,
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often I think of telling her the truth, but you know the truth is pretty bitter, but I
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have smart ways of telling the truth in a way that she doesn't even get hurt. Do you
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also want to know any such ways in which you can tell the truth without hurting people?
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Okay, so if you want to learn different ways of telling the truth in English or giving
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a negative opinion, without making people hurt, then keep watching this lesson as I'm
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going to tell you some expressions, to give out negative opinions. My name is Michelle
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and this is such an awesome day, so let's start, okay so guys here we have certain expressions
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that we can use to talk about giving negative opinion. So the first one that we have is
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to be honest, well honesty is the best policy and if you are not honest, you cannot give
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a negative opinion. Most of the times we try to hide our opinions because they are very,
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very rude, but now that we've decided to give it away, let's start with this one, “to
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be honest”, okay, so this is obviously very, very understood what it means, it means that
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you're telling someone or you're giving a bad comment or a negative opinion about something.
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So like I said, I don't like my best friend's boyfriend, I'd say, “to be honest, I really
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don't like him”. Okay now that can get very rude, so sometimes because I'm way too honest,
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I might want to add brutally, brutally means so much that it can even hurt her, okay? So
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I'm already giving her a warning that I'm going to be brutally honest with you, which
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means extremely honest, so much that it can even hurt you. So you could either say, “to
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be honest”, or if you're way too honest and you could hurt someone, you could say,
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“to be brutally honest, I don't like him”. Okay, you could also give an explanation for
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this and for giving an explanation, we need a different phrase which we'll come to later
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in the lesson. Let's look at the next one for now, “if I'm honest with you”. Now
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this is also another way of saying the same thing, ‘to be honest’, so you're trying
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to give away your opinion by saying the second phrase which is, ‘if I am honest’. So
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if you think that someone is not right for a job, okay and you have to convey this message
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you could say that, “if I'm honest, I don't think you suit this job role”, okay? So
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this way you're talking about giving your opinion and a very calm and delicate, gentle
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way. So, ‘if I am honest’, ‘if I'm honest with you’, so if you only say, “If I'm
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honest, you're not suited for this job role”, it's not wrong, but grammatically we always
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add with you, with ‘if I'm honest’, okay? Now with this we’ll look at the next one,
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now we are trying to tell the truth, we are trying to be honest with someone, so we could
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also say, “to tell you the truth”, so truth, you know what it means, being true
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to somebody. So ‘to tell you the truth’, is also an expression with a similar meaning
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like, ‘to be honest’ or ‘if I'm honest’ and again you could use this by saying, “to
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tell you the truth, I don't think you're telling me correctly about what happened”, so here
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you're doubting someone, doubting what they are telling you and you are telling your opinion
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very truthfully. So you are saying this to give a negative opinion or you could also
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say, “to tell you the truth, I think you should try a different career because I don't
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think you will be successful in this career”, so that is again a negative opinion, a criticism,
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so we go with, ‘to tell you the truth’. Now the next one is, “to be fair”, okay
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now here as I told you that we will look at a phrase which we use to give an explanation
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about why we are saying this negative opinion. So if you tell a person that they don't suit
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the job roles, so you can say, “I don't think you suit the job role to be fair, I
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think you'd be better as a doctor”, okay? So this way you are trying to give an explanation
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of why you think that they don't suit that job role, so ‘to be fair’ is used for
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explanation. Now you can use, ‘to be fair’ in one more way, as an example you could also
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say that, “this is not the best talk I've ever given, to be fair I didn't have enough
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time to prepare”. So being fair means you're being honest, you are not being biased, you
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are telling the truth, so if you've prepared for a talk and you think you did not deliver
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it too well, you're giving a reason, I could not do it because I didn't get time to prepare.
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But you are connecting these two sentences with, ‘to be fair’. Now similar to, ‘to
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be fair’ is, “in all fairness”, you use this again for giving explanations and
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in a sentence you could use it as, “I wasn't quite impressed by her recent album, in all
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fairness, I have seen the reviews, but she doesn't justify them”. So here you're giving
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an explanation of why you don't like a particular artist’s current album or recent album,
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well because you read the reviews and the reviews were great, but you don't think it
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was great enough. Okay, now what does we move to the next one, “don't get me wrong”,
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I love teaching you guys. So ‘don't get me wrong’ is either used in the beginning
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of a sentence or it's used in the middle of the sentence and we use this when we are giving
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a negative opinion and after this phrase we also give a positive opinion. Okay, I think
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you're getting too confused, so here's an example for you, as we were already talking
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about the job roles, we could say that, “I don't think you suit this job role, don't
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me wrong, you're a great guy, but I just feel you don't have the skills”, okay? So here
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you don't want someone to misunderstand you, that's why you're saying, don't get me wrong
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which usually comes in the middle of a sentence, to introduce a positive opinion after giving
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a negative opinion. To introduce a positive opinion, great! Now, we
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look at the last two and this is, “I must say that”. So ‘must’ means necessity,
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which is something which you're required to do, something which is necessary. Must mean,
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something is necessary. So we use, ‘I must say that” and “I have to say that”,
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when we are trying to soften a negative comment, so let's say you went out for dinner, okay
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at your friend's place, but you did not like the meal too much, so you could say, “I
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must say that I have had better meals”. Okay I know that is rude, but yeah, so ‘I
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must say that’, will at least soften what you are saying, if you have to at all give
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a comment like that. But I recommend you don't say something like that to your friend, otherwise
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she'll never call you for a dinner again. Okay now the next one is, “I have to say
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that” and it's obviously short for it ‘I have’ okay ‘I have to say that’ and
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it has the same meaning as, ‘I must say that’ and if you want to use it in the sentence
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you could say that, I have to say that the dinner wasn't that great”, which means you
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did not like the food. So these are two phrases which you use as softeners before giving the
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comment, okay? And ‘don't get me wrong’, you use in the middle of the sentence, to
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give a positive opinion after it, so first you give a negative opinion and then you give
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a positive opinion and you join these two by saying, ‘don't get me wrong’. Okay
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now these two, ‘in all fairness’ and ‘to be fair’ is used for giving explain about
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why do you think you're giving the negative comment, so like I said, I gave you an example
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that, “this is not the best talk I've ever given, to be fair I didn't have enough time
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to prepare” so here you're giving an explanation and all these three are very simple ways which
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you can use in your everyday conversations, where you can generally give negative comment
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starting with, ‘to be honest’ or ‘if I'm honest with you’ or ‘to tell you the
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truth’. Okay now, honesty is the best policy as I said, if you do have a negative opinion
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or a negative comment to make then what are you waiting for? You've got the right vocabulary
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and the right time, so make sure that you give that comment that you've been waiting
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for, and you can use any of these phrases that you want to use. Okay and thank you so
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much for having me, I'll see you guys very soon, till then you take care, bye-bye.