字幕表 動画を再生する 英語字幕をプリント I'm gonna give you today five reasons why you need to cut it off, and move forward with your life if there is someone right now who is not sure about you. Number One You have to do what he's not strong enough to do. In his weak moments where he's lonely and needy, and wants to be connected to you... He'll come back to you. You'll have a great time together, but in his strong moments he'll be questioning again whether this is the right relationship, whether you're the right person. So you'll be on a loop with this guy where this pain will come back to revisit you over and over again. Every time you think you've got past it... It'll come back. You have to cut it off, because there's a very good chance he never will. Number Two There is someone out there waiting for you who will be sure of you. They won't think you're seventy percent of what they want. They'll be absolutely certain of you. You are depriving yourself of that person by hanging around with someone who's not sure about you, and by the way, you're also depriving that person of you. Number Three Life is short enough with the right person. When you find that person that you're sure of who's sure of you you're already gonna feel like there isn't enough time in the world to love each other. So why would you spend a portion of that finite, precious time with someone who's not even sure about you? Number Four Even when he's with you, you're not getting his best. How do I know that? Because when a man isn't all in, when he hasn't really decided that this is the person, he's always holding back. He's not giving as much of his emotional energy, as much of his time, he's not going out of his way to do the gestures that he would do... So you're getting scraps of him even when you feel like it's good, and my response to that is that is an insult to you. It's an insult to your time. It's an insult to how much you care about this person. That you're going to a show every night, and the cast isn't even showing up. They're not doing their best performance. Why would you be with someone who's not giving you their best performance? And Number Five Relationships are hard enough even when it's the right person. When two people find each other, and they're certain of each other, there's still gonna be issues, and we're still gonna strive everyday to do better, to grow, to give more, but in a relationship we should be giving more to try to be our best, not to try to be enough. If you have to kill yourself just to be enough for someone... That is gonna destroy you over time. You're gonna be exhausted. We should be enough just by being us, and everything else is effort to be our best for our partner. Don't strive to be enough. Find someone you are enough for, and then strive to be your best for that person. Look, guys will say they're uncertain for a lot of reasons, and they may be true, they may be completely, logically correct. Maybe he is working three jobs. Maybe it is a tough time in his life. Maybe there is something going on for him internally that he can't deal with right now, but I don't care about his reasons right now, I care about your reality. The one where you are entertaining giving your time, giving your energy, giving your emotion to someone who is not sure about you. That's the reality, and that's the thing that you have to focus on. Life is too short to spend it with someone who is not sure about you. Set the bar higher than that. I will see you next week.