general strategy that we're gonna be using over the course of the next few

months so you have an idea of what to expect see a common trend that I notice

among people who try to overcome their addictions is that they somehow get

motivated maybe they watch the video read a forum post or maybe they

overheard someone else quitting and getting tons of benefits whatever it is

they feel like this time is going to be special this time I'm gonna stay clean

for good they have all that motivation but they have no strategy no plan of

what to do other than to stay away from their substance of choice they're

essentially just throwing it against the wall and hoping that it sticks and more

often than not the majority of people fail in fact a study found that only 1

in 10 Americans ever overcome an addiction so it's safe to say that this

plan isn't that effective what I have found is by simply sticking to a

strategy any strategy your chances of success skyrocket that's why groups like

Alcoholics Anonymous are so effective they follow a strict set of rules and

they have a battle plan you need to have the same mindset when it comes to

confronting your own addiction whether it be pornography alcohol smoking video

games social media whatever it is you need to have a strategy and the strategy

that we're gonna be using over the course of the next couple of months is

one that I found to be particularly effective it's a strategy that I teach

to a lot of the people that I coach it's a strategy that works if you can follow

it so by now all of you are probably wondering well what is the strategy ok

so here it is instead of focusing all of your energy are not doing your bad habit

focus all of your energy instead on building good ones and by doing so you

slowly transform your life into a lifestyle where your substance of choice

doesn't even seem that appealing this means that the majority of this course

will focus on how to build good habits there will be many videos on how habits

work how they're formed how do you make sure that they are embedded into your

brain for good then there will be videos on willpower and self-discipline which

give you the resources you need to start building these habits

we're gonna talk about how you can change your environment both your

physical and your social environment so that you live in an optimized place

we're building habits is easier than normal and after you're done learning

all of this stuff it's 10 up to you to actually take action follow the things

that you've learned and start building these good habits and slowly over time

as you start drilling good habits into your life you'll find that things like

pornography and drugs will be less appealing now why is this strategy so

effective well it really comes down to how habits work we're gonna dive deeper

into this concept later on in the course but for now just understand that habits

cannot truly be erased think about riding a bike you can stay away from a

bike for ages but if you learn how to do it at one point in your life you can

easily pick up a bike and within say thirty minutes you'll be riding almost

as well as you used to our brains store away habits until the day we die

and because of this you cannot erase a habit for good you can't just tell

yourself that you're gonna stay away from pornography forever and hope that

it happens because it's impossible to forget habits for good it is physically

impossible not gonna happen but what research has

found is that you can alter these habits and what I mean by this well let's say

that you're someone who turns to social media or smoking whenever you feel bored

you can alter this habit and replace the action you take when you feel bored so

instead of going on snapchat or Facebook it is possible to train yourself to read

a book or go to the gym instead this applies to those of you with a

pornography addiction as well if you can alter your habit of watching pornography

by finding something that is also pleasurable to take its place you can

change the way that your mind works instead of reaching out to porn whenever

you feel a certain way you'll find yourself reaching out to other things or

people or experiences and if you can somehow get yourself to start reaching

out to habits are beneficial for you habits that make you healthier happier

wealthier then we'll have solve the real problem you'll start living a life

that's actually worth living and you won't even need pornography in your life

anymore and that's the general strategy that we're going to be implementing

together over the next couple of months next week we're going to be talking

about the habit loop and each and every single habit out there is

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