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  • Eric in the shot, yo.

  • Eric in the shot, what?

  • Eric in the shot, yo.

  • Eric in the shot.

  • Hey, what's up?

  • It's Marie Forleo, and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be if you want to create

  • a business and life you love.

  • Now, on this episode we're gonna talk about something that I think affects almost everyone,

  • and that's when you feel envious of other people.

  • So this is Q&A Tuesday and today's question comes from Lauren who writes:

  • Hey, Marie.

  • I'm a huge fan of you and your team and the show.

  • I'm a 24 year old woman who has a jealousy problem.

  • I'm a nice person, but I'm constantly comparing myself to other women, specifically

  • in business, physically, intellectually, humor-wise, and in all human traits.

  • Logically I know that I'm unique, but emotionally I always wonder 'why couldn't I look more

  • like that?'

  • Or 'why didn't I think of that business idea first?'

  • How can I stop these jealous thoughts and become more confident?

  • Thanks so much, Lauren.”

  • Lauren, fantastic question.

  • Now, before we go any further, what I think you're feeling is envy, my friend, not jealousy.

  • You see, jealousy is what you feel when you think someone's trying to snatch something

  • that's yours.

  • Like if somebody's making the move on your man or your lady or your best friend.

  • Hey, Jams.

  • Do you wanna be best bros?

  • Yeah, I wanna be best bros.

  • Hey, I thought we were best bros!

  • Hey.

  • Don't be peanut butter and jealous, bro.

  • Envy, on the other hand, as ancient Greek philosopher Aristotle puts it, is the pain

  • caused by the good fortune of others.

  • It's that desire that we get for other people's traits or their possessions or their abilities.

  • Hey, you guys.

  • I just found out.

  • I'm gonna be on the cover of Hair Envy magazine.

  • That's nice, Marie.

  • Yeah, really happy for you.

  • But here's the thing, Lauren, envy does not have to be a bad thing if you know how

  • to turn that beat around and really use it to your advantage.

  • And here's how.

  • Step number one is don't hate, celebrate.

  • You know what that means?

  • That means you gotta say yes to feeling that feeling.

  • You want to know why?

  • Because that feeling is likely an indicator of some place in your life that deserves a

  • lot more focus and attention.

  • I mean, I've found that whenever I feel envious of someone, that's a place I really

  • need to step up my game.

  • Look, I love seeing people win, even if it makes me feel a little bit envious.

  • Because you know why?

  • It shows me, “wow.

  • If he did it or she did it, you know what?

  • That means I can do it, too.”

  • And oftentimes in this life it's really hard to become what you don't see.

  • You know, a lot of us really need to see examples of other people doing things before we can

  • even understand what's possible in our own lives.

  • So step number one is you gotta appreciate, you got to congratulate, and, yes, you have

  • to celebrate both that feeling and the person who triggered it for you.

  • Step number two is investigate.

  • So now it's really time – you've gotta dig deeper.

  • What I want you to do is take out a pen and a paper and jot some things down.

  • I want you to write down exactly what you're envious of, and this is really important,

  • WHY?

  • So, for instance, if you're envious of someone's let's say financial success, you might say

  • initially, “well, I just want more money.”

  • But I want you to go deeper and go further.

  • Is it really the freedom that you think money is gonna provide for you?

  • Do you want to own your own house?

  • I mean, maybe you just want to travel more.

  • Now, if it's something about someone's appearance, for instance, what is it about

  • that that you really want?

  • Is it wanting the feeling of being more confident, or do you just never find the time to get

  • your butt to the gym and work out?

  • So you've got to get brutally honest and write everything down.

  • Then I want you to ask two very important questions.

  • So number one, are you willing to really put in the time and the effort and the energy

  • to create those results in your life?

  • That's question number one.

  • And question number two is this, is developing that skill or that trait or that ability or

  • result really aligned with your priorities and your goals right now?

  • Because here's the thing, I don't want you to let envy take you off track and start chasing

  • all these other people's dreams.

  • Because I got to tell you, that is a recipe for misery, my friend.

  • And here's what's great about this step: once you find out what you're envious of

  • and why, when you really investigate, some of your envy just might evaporate.

  • Right?

  • So you might discover you might not really want what someone else has or you might not

  • be willing to do the work or put in the effort to get there right now.

  • But that doesn't mean that envy is gonna go away.

  • So if you do all these steps and it doesn't evaporate, we got to move on to step number

  • three.

  • Step number three is activate.

  • Meaning if you see something that you want to emulate, it is time to activate.

  • You need to initiate and generate so that you can accelerate that which you want to

  • accumulate, and then you can eliminate what tends to aggravate and contaminate, but does

  • not stimulate.

  • And once you do that, as a human you will graduate and affiliate to that which you appreciate.

  • And know, my friend, I do not exaggerate.

  • And once you're done, you can celebrate with some chocolate.

  • And if none of that made any kind of sense, get your ass to work.

  • You've got to get moving on those things that you most want to have.

  • Because, guess what?

  • You can absolutely have them.

  • And that, my friend, is how you turn envy into a very positive and motivating force.

  • And if you ever forget, you need to roll up on this Tweetable.

  • Envy isn't the enemy, it's a valuable clue to who you want to be and how to get

  • there.

  • That's what I've got for you, Lauren.

  • If you use it, I promise you it will help.

  • And now I would love to hear from you.

  • So tell me, what's the one thing that you envy right now?

  • Why do you envy that thing, and what's really underneath it?

  • Most important, what're you gonna do about it?

  • Leave a comment below and let me know.

  • Now, as always, as you know, the best conversations happen over at MarieForleo.com, so head on

  • over and leave a comment now.

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  • It is so good.

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  • me that I just don't share anywhere else.

  • Stay on your game and keep going for your dreams, because the world really does need

  • that special gift that only you have.

  • Thank you so much for watching, and we'll catch you next time on MarieTV.

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  • Side effects include enlarged profits.

  • Shut up.

  • Shut up!

  • Bro.

  • Oh, God.

  • Yes!

  • Celebrate!

  • Was it a good confetti throw?

  • Okay, good.

  • Hey, I thought we were best

  • Hey!

  • I thought we were best bros.

  • Hey, hey, hey, hey.

  • Don't be peanut butter and...

Eric in the shot, yo.

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あなたの秘密の超能力に嫉妬を回すための3つのステップ (3 Steps to Turn Jealousy into Your Secret Superpower)

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