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  • Hi Lovelies! So thank you so much to everyone who left comments on my last video

  • My birthday vlog about my thumb

  • *sad silence*

  • *sad noise*

  • I was actually going to do a hair tutorial today but...

  • My thumb....

  • So, we're working with straight-ish hair instead

  • I'm just gonna talk about something completely different

  • It's sort of I suppose, a rant, maybe... Is it? Not sure

  • I'm just kind of... I have feelings

  • about something and we're going to talk about those feelings

  • Cause I want to know your feelings on the subject

  • Of feelings....

  • Is Ableism!

  • Oooh, scary buzzword of the internet

  • Now personally, for me, ableism

  • is not the same as something like racism

  • 00:01:11,340 --> 00:01:13,440 or sexism

  • And this is just personally

  • Because I see those things as they can be very intentional

  • And ableism, most of the time

  • Is just someone being a bit dim

  • Or a lot dim

  • Every single person who asks for my phone number,

  • So they can have a chat

  • Racism an sexism, even when they're unintentional

  • Can show the darker thoughts and feelings

  • That you had that aren't great

  • Whereas ableism just shows

  • How stupid you can be

  • Much like when get invited to big events

  • That don't have a sign language interpreter

  • Or even their videos subtitled

  • I mean, you know...

  • No shade YouTube, but, shade

  • You may remember, way back in 2016

  • There was a bit of a quarrel because Whole Foods were selling

  • Prepackaged oranges, just oranges without the peel

  • in little plastic boxes and people on the internet got angry

  • This is way too much plastic...

  • This is terrible, how could you be doing such a thing

  • as if people were too stupid to peel their own oranges

  • They already come sealed, why do we need to unseal them and reseal them

  • Gah! So stupid right?

  • Oh my God yeah, wasteful and awful...

  • Rrrr!

  • For the majority of people they don't need prepackaged oranges

  • They don't, you know

  • Genuinely, peel your own oranges guys

  • That's silly

  • There is a small minority

  • I say small, is not really that small

  • We'll work with a minority, it's still a minority

  • of people who can't open oranges

  • For one reason or another, maybe they are old and have arthritis

  • Maybe they have a disability that limits their dexterity

  • Maybe they have a condition like autism and for them just the feel of the peel of oranges feels terrible

  • But the inside of an orange is yummy and lovely and healthy and they would like to eat that

  • and have some more of that in their diet. Basically there are a variety of reasons why prepackaged fruit

  • can be an incredibly great and helpful thing

  • I have a friend who has cerebral palsy, we were

  • out and about once, she wanted to get a healthy snack

  • and the easiest thing for her to get where those presliced apples

  • In a bag

  • I always looked at those and thought so stupid

  • Why can't someone just bite an apple?

  • And yeah I kinda thought that older people might have difficulty chewing into an apple

  • they might not have their own teeth, her condition, the way she had it just meant that she had difficultly doing that

  • but if it's in one slice is much easier to do

  • and she want's something healthy and good and that's great!

  • That's awesome!When you only other choice is something incredibly unhealthy

  • that she didn't want...

  • And of course I am not going to say

  • that having prepackaged things

  • Anyway, moral of that story was that

  • Whole Foods eventually said 'Oh, sorry about that'

  • Maybe we shouldn't... maybe some disabled people do actually need stuff and we shouldn't

  • just jump on the Rrrr! Environmental Wagon

  • Not that all environmental wagons need to be Rrrr!

  • but some of them are...

  • And this recently got brought up all over again

  • because Mark & Spencers got in trouble for selling pre-sliced

  • cauliflower steaks

  • Which if you don't know is just a think sliced

  • sliced bit of cauliflower...

  • Again the same arguments came up, lots of websites posting 'oh God isn't this disgusting?

  • 'Oh my goodness so bad for the environment, how terrible

  • Why would anyone need this? Or want this?'

  • Ridiculous, people are so lazy...

  • Are they? Are they lazy?

  • Some people are lazy again, there is definitely some lady people in the world

  • But not everyone needs pre-packaged things because they are lazy

  • and I wanted to talk to you about it because I had this chat with some of my friends

  • Who do not have disabilities and were like

  • 'Oh my God that is so awful, eugh people' and I was like...

  • Hi!

  • Actually no, actually as a disabled person I use many products that are already pre-sliced, pre...

  • I'm trying to think of the word... spiralised!

  • Spiralised!

  • Oh the world we live in!

  • Because you know, sometimes my hands don't work and I cant twist that way

  • Or even chop, I'm having a bit of trouble chopping right now in fact

  • Which Claud is finding hilarious

  • Because do I let that stop me? No!

  • I just attempt and fail

  • I sort of explained to my friends this situation

  • and how things can be incredibly helpful

  • and also how bad I feel

  • when somebody starts talking about how wasteful and terrible and ridiculous these things are

  • to even exist in shops... because it does, it makes me feel

  • Awful and petty

  • and like I am a drain on the environment for needing these things

  • for using these things

  • One thing that I should establish right upfront is, like I just said, last night Ic couldn't chop stuff

  • So my wife chopped it for me and that's amazing that I have her

  • I can rely on her and she will just step in whenever I need and do whatever it is I need

  • But not everyone has that, not everyone has someone who can step in

  • and help them out in a situation like that.

  • And also not everyone should be made to

  • One in five of the populations lives with a disability or impairment of some kind

  • Now amongst that group the rate of domestic violence are disproportionately high

  • for disabled men that rate is the same as non disabled women

  • For disabled women is much, much higher, they also experience domestic abuse or a longer period of time

  • more frequently and in a more harsher and severe way.

  • People with disabilities are most likely to be abused by their carer

  • By the very person who is meant to be stepping in and doing the help for them

  • So many of the comments under these articles about the throwaway culture and the so much packaging

  • and so much plastic, and isn't that awful...

  • So many comments on these said things like 'Oh well shouldn't their spouse be helping them?'

  • 'Or their parents or their child'... yeah...

  • Yes but what if that is the person who is abusing them?

  • And even if not why should they be relying on someone else

  • Having independence, and I know I have said this before

  • Having independence even in a small way is so intrinsical to a person

  • If you keep chipping away all these things, like being able to half way make your meal

  • and then suddenly there's nothing you can do because now

  • Oh no longer pre-packaged food is a thing, we don't make ready meals anymore

  • Oh...

  • Then where are we going to end up?

  • So we shouldn't have to rely on other people to come in and help us out

  • Again no and have friends who have been in situations were their disabilities have led to them

  • being abused by their carer.

  • And a carer generally is someone they are in a relationship with

  • or someone they are related to.

  • Secondly, disability and accessibility are always going to leave a big carbon footprint

  • They are not biodegradable, your wheelchair is not going to over a number of years become one with nature again

  • Neither are your canes, or your crutches, or I mean...

  • I don't think my wrist splints... well they got metal in them

  • and fabric on them so I guess overtime, over thousands of years the fabric will probably fade away

  • But there will still be metal

  • There is also a production cost whether that is

  • The water that goes into running things

  • Electricity that makes the machines that make these things work

  • Oh and while we are on the topic of disability things costing money...

  • We have some companies that have worked out that they have a very captive closed market there

  • Yeah... I need to get the tires replaced on my wheelchair

  • Can I find tires that fit? Grr... No!

  • Cause you'd think normal bike tires would do the job, that you can get for...

  • £5 but no they don't because wheelchairs some of them are made to have special tires

  • That have to cost a lot of money and have to come from the company that makes those special

  • wheelchair wheels that go on your special wheelchair and cost

  • Thousands of pounds! Not the wheels, the wheelchair itself costs thousands of pounds

  • But the wheels have to be so special because they have to come from that company because only that company makes that particular type

  • and so you are trapped, you need those wheels, you have to buy them

  • You have to keep going back to that company over and over again

  • And they just keep making the money!

  • If some bigger other companies who make big tires decided to step in and

  • Hey maybe we'll make some tires that fit your wheelchair as well

  • Then perhaps the cost would be reduced... just saying

  • You might want to think about that

  • Various other bike companies, I might even mention that to them on twitter

  • Okay yeah it works out to about £80

  • it's about £80 per tier to get the tires changed on my wheelchair

  • When it comes to the world of pre-packaged food and chopped food like the M&S Cauliflower stake

  • The company it's not going to make it's money back only selling to disabled people

  • We are a pretty big minority, we are the largest minority

  • Instead the company needs to expand their sales base to other people, abled bodied people

  • So that they can recuperate the costs and that way they are helping out disabled people

  • and helping out really busy people who don't have time

  • to chop stuff.

  • The thing is when I read all these things about how terrible and awful for the environment it is that I exist

  • I feel genuinely really terrible

  • about myself.

  • Every time someone writes something about how 'isn't it disgusting that people get in the car and drive two streets why don't they just walk?'

  • I'm like, hah...

  • Yeah why I don't do that? Oh my God I mean I know I can't really do that but I should do that

  • I should totally do that

  • And I get spasms from it, and I'll be super tired and I won't be able to do anything for the rest of the day

  • Then maybe tomorrow I will be pretty bad as well, and also I am kind of a liability right now

  • I'm a bit tired so I'm more likely to fall over and I might just fell of the curb, and then I could

  • dislocate something or break something or paralise something cause boy does that happen all the time

  • I am a drain on the planet, Jesus...

  • mmm also I kind of need that because I am going there to go to my GP

  • Remember that time I waled to my GP in the rain and then I couldn't do anything for three days

  • Yeah so it hurts

  • And again I know, I know

  • It's generally not intentional at all

  • And I don't in any way think that my friends are intending to make me feel bad

  • They don't because I know that their intentions are good

  • the rest I don't know if they are trying to make me feel bad because I don't know their intentions

  • But the point is, even if something is not intentional it can still be really hurtful

  • It is difficult as a disabled person to not feel like you are a drain

  • on the society that you live in

  • A drain on your family, on your employers, on just the town that you live in

  • because you exist and you take up more space. That's a thing!

  • Disabled people do take up more space because we need stuff

  • There is so much stuff that you need when you are disabled, it's ridiculous

  • We are planning to go to Malaysia for 2 months and I need an extra bag just for my 'disability' stuff

  • 'Jessica stays alive stuff'

  • I get really upset when I see the comments under articles like these ones

  • Where people talk about 'oh disabled people get extra money, well they should just use that

  • to hire someone to come and peel their oranges for them'

  • Eh.. first of all that's hilarious

  • I don't know how much money you think disabled people get but trust me is not that much

  • and it's not enough to have someone come in and peel your oranges

  • Because two, the costs of labour and care is ridiculously high

  • I once got charged £28 an hour by an agency because I needed immediate help and this is before I was married/met my wife

  • I was so ill I was like someone actually has to come in right now because if they don't I might likely die!

  • Number four, the council does provide some free assistance for people to come in and look after you

  • but it can be just half an hour for some disabled people and if you are bed bound

  • and you can't go to the toilet by yourself, get yourself washed or feed yourself

  • Half an hour isn't really that long!

  • Half an hour a day is not gonna get everything done, it's not gonna

  • keep the area around you clean, keep you clean, food in your belly,

  • Keep you stocked with medication and you know sometimes you need to go and get the medication

  • Ah... so should someone really be standing there chopping stuff during that half an hour?

  • Being able to peel an orange or chop a cauliflower

  • Cauliflower steak why?

  • It might not seem that big a deal to you if you happen to be abled bodied but

  • it can be! It can be such a massive difference, it can be so incredibly important

  • I talked about independence before and I feel amazing every time I cook a meal

  • I feel so good being able to do something, make something