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  • Sometimes we get mixed signals. Maybe our

  • intuition, our perception or past experiences

  • make us not the best at reading people.

  • Thankfully, all is not lost.

  • We can get better at reading people. But how?

  • Number one: our gut instincts.

  • Majority of people don't trust their gut feelings.

  • We usually trust our brains and believe what our brain

  • tells us to believe. But a study

  • from the University of California shows that people only

  • recognize lies 43% of the time

  • and truths 48% of the time when trusting their brains.

  • When trusting their guts the accuracy rate

  • was way higher. Trust your gut

  • because first impressions are often accurate.

  • Number two: speech and behavioral mimicry.

  • Some people, the first time you meet them,

  • put up a false persona or try to manipulate your perception of them.

  • The people who are actually being honest and genuine though,

  • will mimic your words and actions.

  • This shows they're in sync with you and how you're feeling.

  • Number three: empathy.

  • Some people have a natural talent in empathizing with others while

  • some don't. To be able to increase your empathy

  • you need good reading and understanding skills.

  • American psychologist Carl Rodgers thinks

  • empathy is important in his teachings and therapeutic methods.

  • Empathy will help you see things from someone else's

  • perspective and thus will allow you to read

  • their emotions and intentions better.

  • Number four is appearance.

  • Making judgements on appearance might feel shallow but it can say

  • a few things. We're like Sherlock Holmes.

  • Hey! That dude is wearing prime conditions Jordans!

  • Maybe he likes basketball, rap or at least sneaker

  • culture? People's appearances can give you subtle hints

  • into their character. Do they wear lots of colors?

  • Are they very well dressed or very sloppy?

  • These can hint that they're organized and diligent

  • or lazy and a slob.

  • Number five. Similar two number two

  • body language is a major giveaway to someone's emotions.

  • If someone's sad they might suddenly have their head down with

  • drooped shoulders. Are they anxious, sweating,

  • pacing? Are they checking their phone?

  • Maybe they're not into the conversation? Are their

  • smiles just small grins?

  • Pay attention and look deep into a person!

  • Number six: facial expressions.

  • This aspect of body language can be hard to interpret.

  • Sometimes each side of the face can give off two

  • two different emotions. Some are obvious.

  • Upturned mouths and crows feet often mean happiness

  • and smiles. Some emotions are a combination of

  • different signs, like embarassment.

  • Some people, when they're embarassed, smile. However,

  • the lips are tighter than a happy smile.

  • Lips might also be pulled tight when compassion is felt

  • as opposed to sadness, when the lips are pulled down.

  • While it's confusing, it's important to learn these subtle

  • cues for a significant advantage in reading people.

  • Number seven is objectivity.

  • With all these tips it can lead to some bias. To

  • successfully read someone, enter the situation objectively.

  • Leave your past feelings of that person behind.

  • Focus on what they're saying and how they're

  • behaving in that moment. Our feelings can

  • create a false impression of what they're conveying,

  • especially negative feelings.

  • And number eight is patience.

  • In order to read someone it takes practice.

  • People are complex. If you're in a

  • conversation with them, they're likely also picking up

  • on your cues as well. You can't be an immediate expert

  • on someone or automatically assume everything about the other

  • person. If the comunication continues, they

  • will open up at their own pace, and that's when you can figure out

  • if you read them correctly or not. That's all

  • from us at Psych2Go. Thank you for watching!

  • And don't forget to subscribe!

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人を読む8つのコツ (8 Tips on Reading People)

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    歐小拉 に公開 2021 年 01 月 14 日
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