We all know what an IQ is

and that most of us fall within the average range.

We use names like smart, intelligent, dumb,

idiot and stupid when talking about

a person's level of intelligence. What

most people don't know is that we also possess an EQ,

or EI, which is our level

of emotional intelligence.

Emotional intelligence is typical to measure in numbers

because it is that thing inside us that recognizes emotions

in ourselves and others, then guides us to respond.

Understanding emotions may seem unimportant or trivial

but in fact it is the opposite.

It is widely believed by experts that

a person's level of emotional intelligence may be

a better predictor of success and overall hapiness

than their IQ.

What is emotional intelligence?

Having a high level of emotional intelligence

means that you can

accurately express your feelings and take responsibility for them.

People often say things like ''You hurt

my feelings and you shouldn't have''

which puts blame on the other person for the way you feel.

A person with high EI realises

the feeling belongs to him

and responds with statements such as ''I was hurt by that''.

Being emotionally intelligent means

that you can identify and manage not only your own

emotions but the emotions of others too.

It means you have awareness of your own feelings and

are able to balance emotion and reason.

You can recognize feelings and emotion in others and

show emapthy and compassion which is a crucial part of

all relationships - both business and personal.

For example, a good leader has the ability to

understand what motivates others and build on that motivation.

7 signs you are emotionally smart

Although emotional intelligence is not completely understood

it has become increasingly know that it plays a

critical role in our quality of life.

A person who is emotionally intelligent generally has better

physical health, a more positive outlook,

fulfilling relationships and is more

successful than those with low EI.

1: You can read non-verbal communication

This means you are able to look at someone and know

by the look on their face, the way they hold their arms,

their posture or etc. and tell what

their mood is.

2: You are interested in other people and their feelings and thoughts

When someone asks you ''What are you thinking about?''

it shows their interest and understanding.

Emotionally intelligent people want to know and understand

others and genuinely listen to their answers.

3: You are emotionally resilient

Bad things happen in life - you lose a good job,

your significant other moves on without you.

You have setbacks and know there will be more coming.

However, you also know you are strong enough to

persevere until better times come.

You do not internalize failure.

4: You know where you need improvement

People with low EI make the world believe they know

everything and can do anything.

When something goes wrong they put the blame anywhere but

on themselves. If you have a high EI,

you know the areas in your life that need improvement.

You are always learning and therefore always growing.

5: You are aware of your own feelings

You know how you are feeling, what caused the feeling

and how to process and deal with the feeling.

Your feelings guide you towards finding a solution

rather than shutting you down.

6: You avoid negative self-talk

When something does not go right,

even if it was by your own mistake, you do not

berate and belittle yourself. You are able to

acknowledge what went wrong and explore

your options for solving the problem, then move forward

and do so.

7: You pursue success

You have dreams and

strategies to make those dreams a reality.

00:04:17,095 --> 00:04:20,075 You set goals regardless of how long it takes you to meet

each one.

You deal with setbacks, adjust shortcomings

and know that the only way you will lose is if you quit.

How many of these qualities do you possess?

The good news is that unlike brain intelligence, our IQ,

emotional intelligence can be raised to some extent.

Part of our EI is innate, part of it is shaped by

environment and another part is our attitude.

Are you willing to learn to understand and conquer your

emotions? Are you interested in

becoming a better problem solver?

Do you want to achieve your goals?

Developing your emotional intelligence allows you the

opportunity to

avoid miscommunications and misunderstandings.

It deepens your relationships and helps you balance work,

home and fun in a meaningful way.

Remember - the biggest determinate

of success is measured by EQ, not IQ.

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