Name: 喧嘩を議論に変える方法 (How to change a fight into a discussion)
Uploaded: 2021-01-14T07:46:33.000Z
Duration: 25 min 31 s
Description: VoiceTubeの動画で発音を聞きながら英語表現を覚えよう！学べる英語：

E's turning green, and I know The Avengers are
all over the planet, so I'm sure you know

And the Incredible Hulk is powerful
because he's angry, he's always angry.

And the funny thing is I find most people
are angry about this, angry about that.

So I want to help you today do a little better,
because when people are fighting, well, they're

If you didn't care, you
wouldn't fight with anyone.

What I mean by two parts is I'm going to start
off by giving you some expressions so you

can kind of get rid of the fighting, and then
I'm going to give you some vocabulary you

There are other words that really let people
know what you mean, and you can use some of

these words and the phrases I'm going to teach
you, and you'll notice that your interactions

or the way you talk to each other will change
and you'll probably be a lot happier, and

not like E. E Smash, so angry, so angry.
All right?

Well, the first thing we
have to do is accept that...

Or accept that arguments and fighting are a
part of life, and as I said, it's because

You fight because something is important to
you, or someone is fighting with you because

And when you don't take the time to understand
it's important to them, that's what makes

Half of the times things can be resolved
or solved or fixed easily if you just go:

Once most people hear that,
they're willing to talk to you.

But if they don't think they're being
heard, they smash, they hit hard.

Okay, so I'm going to give
you two types of phrases.

One will help you let the other person know
that you care and you're listening, the other

Because it's important that you have
a voice and you should be heard.

And then in the second part when we come back
we'll do words that aren't always about being

angry, but show different states and emotions,
and I'll explain them and you can use them

Okay, these phrases, as it says, will help
show that you care about the other person.

And how do we show we care
about the other person?

Sometimes it's to say or to show
that they're intelligent. Right?

"You have a good point"
or "That's a good point".

I got to put a comma here,
I just forgot my comma.

"That's a good point", in saying that you're
admitting that what they're saying, there's valid.

You're not automatically agreeing with
everything they say, and that's important.

When people are arguing, you don't have to
agree with everything, but you have to listen

and see what they say because sometimes what
they say is good and can help both of you

So simply just saying, you
know: "You have a good point.

Even if I don't agree with everything, I can
still listen to you and hear that these are

By using these phrases here, I just want to
point out that it will help you because what

you're saying really is: No matter what we
fight about, at the end you're still my good

friend, you're still my girlfriend, boyfriend,
husband, wife, lover, student, or teacher.

But, you know, each one as
a partnership, we're...

We can still be good or have a good relationship
even though we don't agree right now.

Here's the second one: "I can
understand why you want X."

Well, what I want is important to me, and
the fact that you can understand it means

at least you're listening to me or
you think my views are important.

So, by saying that, you can say:
"I can understand you want X."

Once again, you're not saying I'm going
to give it to you, but you know what?

We've been dating-what?-15 years, living
together, we have five kids, two kittens,

a dog, and a pony - you
want to get married.

I can understand why you would want to get
married after all of this commitment.

It doesn't mean I'm going to do it, but I can
understand it because I thought about it.

That will at least let the person
think: "Okay, you can understand."

They might want something, be prepared, but
at least you're showing: I listened to you

"Tell me more. ...And
how can I help you?"

Very, very powerful, but be
careful when you use it.

When you're telling someone:
"Tell me more", you're saying:

I respect you as a person so
I'm willing to listen to you.

I know, I said scary
words: "listen to you".

And then when they're done you
can say: "And how can I help?"

In my job, in my day job-day job-when I teach I also
help with students and that, and I've used this.

And I know it sounds crazy, but it
works very well because first...

Please don't... Don't be angry
when I say this, anyone watching.

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