Name: 素敵な会話をするために必要な2つの必須スキル (The 2 essential skills you need for great conversations)
Uploaded: 2021-01-14T07:45:50.000Z
Duration: 20 min 30 s
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Today I wanted to talk to you
about two tips on conversation.

Help you have an amazing conversation,
make you really interesting...

Actually, make people really interested in
you so you can keep having conversation.

After all, it's the practice that we need
to get better, and if people don't want to

So quickly we'll go to the board and you'll
see Mr. E has boxing gloves, and it says:

In boxing, the "old one-two"
is a jab and a straight punch.

It's very effective and it gets the job quickly
done so you can take out your opponent.

In this case, what I want to do is teach you
two things that you can use in combination

to make people you speak to enjoy the conversation
with you, want to practice more, or talk to

So, how to knock them out with
killer conversation tips, 1 and 2.

For most people when they're practicing or
when they want to improve conversation, they

think: "I need to talk a lot because if
I get to talk a lot I'll get better."

That's 50% of the equation, because in any
conversation there's the speaker and the listener,

and both parts must be worked on, because if
you have a healthy balance the person who

is listening to you will want you to continue,
but usually they want to speak as well.

In a lot of conversations, something that
will make a conversation go well is empathy,

which "empathy" means: "I
understand what you're saying.

Another part of it is energy,
people want to be excited.

Nobody wants to talk to a person who talks
like this on the whole subject, it wants...

It makes them want to
stop talking to you.

That energy or lack of energy can
be on your part or their part.

In this lesson I want to address both things,
empathy and energy, to teach you how to raise

the energy in a conversation if it's low;
and teach you empathy, how to feel or get

them to feel in the conversation so they
care, because if they care, they share.

One of the biggest parts of
a conversation is empathy.

When a person cares about the conversation,
they stay in it, they're excited about it,

A lot of times when we're talking we make
the mistake of thinking: "Okay, well, I've

got a lot to tell people", and we get excited,
so we have a lot of energy, you're talking

Now, it's good for me because
I get to say: "I", see?

Me and I, but for a listener it gets
boring because they're like: "Ah, ah".

So a way to change that around, you
might say: "Well, I'll just use 'you'.

That's okay, that's a good
start, putting it on them.

But if you want to show empathy to get them
interested in the conversation, what you might

want to say is one of two sentences I will show
you now because when you say these sentences

it makes the person know you care
about them, not just about you.

And in inviting them to speak about something
gives them the opportunity to put their opinion

in, so no matter how the conversation goes,
they will remember that they were part of

a conversation, not a lecture
where you just spoke about you.

And they will also probably remember the conversation
in a more positive way, which means later

So what are these magic sentences
that change everything?

Well, you know them, but
how often do you say it?

The first one is: "How do you feel about that?",
or: "How do you feel about it?", or: "What

I know it sounds mechanical and it might be
hard to use, but play with me for a second.

So, Mr. E, I'm talking and I'm like: "So,
you know, I got that car I was telling you

You know, it's got
these seats and that."

Mr. E is over here: "Uh-huh,
uh-huh, uh-huh, uh-huh.

It's only a matter of time before he takes
out his cellphone, looks at his watch and

Now, if I'm smart and I'm just: "Dah-dah-dah",
and I notice he's like: "Uh-huh, uh-huh",

then I might turn around
and say: "You know what?

I mean, you said you needed to get a new car,
and how do you feel about the cars that are

And they'll: "Oh, you want my
opinion, you care about me."

Now Mr. E is involved in the conversation
again, and then he will get to talk.

This is when it's time for you to shh and listen,
because by asking this kind of a question

you invite them to give you information
so you can continue the conversation.

Because he might say: "Ah, I'm not
really into getting a new car.

I don't know what's
going to be happening."

You go: "Hey, what's
happening in your life?

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素敵な会話をするために必要な2つの必須スキル (The 2 essential skills you need for great conversations)

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