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何度か触れたことはありましたが、話したことはなかったので、

So this is a subject that we've talked a lot about in random videos,

今回は日本語の「愛してる」についてです。

but we've never dedicated any video to it before, so...

多くの日本人は、日常的に愛してるとは言いません。

I feel like it's overdue

まず、日本語の「愛してる」は「I love you」とは違います。

The subject of saying "I love you" in Japan

例えば、日本のドラマやアニメで見る「好きです」は

So it's kind of not a huge thing in Japan that a lot of people say to their loved ones.

よく「I love you」と訳されます。

But first I think we should start out by actually translating "I love you" into Japanese

あれ、いつも不思議に思ってた。

Because there are a couple different ways to translate it

付き合ってる訳でもないのに

Mkay

突然

So if you watch a drama or anime

I love you.

A lot of the times you'll see a character saying "suki desu"

何この超展開？？

and that gets translated to "I love you"

好きですの直訳は「I like you」です。

Ahhhh~

告白とかだよね？

I always get confused by that

うん。

Right

他にも「猫が好き」みたいに、人以外にも使えます。

They're not even dating or anything, just...

告白の「好きです」は、猫が好きの好きより強いけどね。

Right, and then like, super suddenly

愛してるよりは弱いけど。

I LOVE YOU!!!

「好きです」が「I love you」と訳されたりするのは、「love」の意味が広いからだと思います。

They're so intense!

本当に好きでしょうがない人にも使えますし、

What?

I love these shoes! と使うこともできます。

But "suki desu" actually means "I like you" and

前者とは意味合いが少し違います。

Yeah

日本語だと、物には愛してると言わないかな。

That's how you would directly translate it

そうだね。

You say...

だから漫画のI love you訳は、I like youのレベルで言っているように感じます。

Like, confession, right?

心の底から本気で愛している、とまでは行っていないと思います。

Right

「君が好きです」くらいが適当かなと。

I like you

想いの強さがリミット100％くらいで

Suki desu

「愛してる」を使います。

Right

基本的には、とても重みのある言葉だね。

And you don't just use that to people, you say "suki desu" for anything

例えば結婚式なんかで使うかな。

like "neko ga suki"

誓いの言葉なのね。

"I like cats" or whatever

以前、ジュンは最期の死に際になら愛してると言うかもと、冗談で言っていました。

I mean it's stronger than "I like cats"

「愛してるよ...」

but it's less, less, less than "I love you"

...永眠

Right

死ぬまで言わないの？？

And I think the confusion as to why that gets translated as love

もちろん、日常的に言い合っている日本人もいると思います。

comes down to the fact that "love" in English has a very broad range of meanings to it

日本語で？

Mkay

いなくはないかな。

Like, that you can say "love" about a person where you really really

ジュンと同意見のコメントをもらったことがありますが、

love that person and that has a lot of meaning to you

どなたも中々言えないと言っていました。

But you can also say like, "I LOVE THESE SHOES!" or whatever

慣れてないからね。

and that's obviously not nearly as intense

そうね。

So I feel like...

もちろん、アメリカにも軽々しく使わない人はいますし、

That's

オープンでない家庭もあります。

That's not a common usage in Japan

でも、それは「愛してる」とは違うよね？

You don't say really say "I love these shoes"

そうね。

Right

家族内でI love youを言わないと、

So that's why I feel like when they say

仲良くやれてないと思われることもあります。

When they translate "suki desu" to love, I feel like it's

だから、言わない人もいるけど、良くは思われないかな。

that level of love in English

日本はそんなことないよ。

It's not like, you know, 100 intense level love

愛してるって言わなくても、特に悪く思われないよね？

It's more like the English "I really like you"

そこにあるから、わざわざ言わないって感覚かな。

That kind of thing

そうね。

Hmmm

日本人はあまり愛情表現を口に出して伝えようとはしない、という印象を私は受けました。

So, the level 100 love in Japan, in Japanese

言う必要性を感じないと、ジュンは言います。

that's "Aishiteru"

そういうふうに育たなかったから、ちょっと違和感を覚える。

You would say "Aishiteru" for that

俺が空港で両親をハグした時のこと覚えてる？

Normally it's a really strong and

慣れてないから、照れてたでしょ？

Traditionally

半分冗談でやったんだけどね。

Like, maybe you would say that in a

嬉しかったと思うけど、少し居心地が悪かったかもね。

wedding ceremony?

ハグも僕らは慣れてないから。

Yeah, wedding ceremony

多くの海外視聴者は「それはジュンの家族だけが特別なんじゃないの？」と思うかも。

Jun has joked about it a lot of times before where

もちろんオープンな家族もいるけど、

he said, to him it feels like something you would say on your death bed

日本語で「愛してる」というのは一般的じゃないよ。

Like a death bed confession to your loved one

いるかもしれないけど、少数派かな。

"I love you"

ジュンの意見を頭では理解できるんだけど、

*dies*

私には必要性を感じない、という部分がうまく消化できません。

and then like, pass away?

これは自分だけじゃないと思うけど、

Pass away

言葉で伝える代わりに、思いやりのある行動で示すことがある。

Like that

示すって言っても別に誇示するわけでもなくて、ただ言葉の代わりに行動するってだけなんだけど。

Like it's that level intense

それについて有名な本（5つのLOVE言語）があるんだけど、

So obviously this isn't everyone in Japan

5つの愛情表現の仕方とされ方があって

there are people who say, um, "I love you" to their partners

日本は「(奉仕) 行動」っぽいですね。

I'm sure

他人に対する奉仕で愛情を表現するの。

Right?

仕事、家事、炊事, etc...

In Japanese?

おや、見に覚えがありすぎるな。

Yeah, in Japanese

まさしく貴方ね。

Maybe

でも、君達にはタダの良い人なんだろ？

So we've seen Japanese commons before who

私のLOVE言語は違うもの。

have agreed with Jun's like, usage of "I love you"

行動にも愛があるんだよ。

where it's like

日本人は行動で示す傾向にある気がします。

It's something "You don't say that!"

似た意味の言葉があって、

that's like "That's really difficult to say!"

「思いやり」がその奉仕行動の愛情表現に近い気がする。

because it's like so intense

そこにあるから、感じ取って。

Yeah, we don't just say it

もし日本で生まれ育ったてたら、必要性の無さがわかるよ。

Yeah, you don't just say it here

でも、パートナーから言われたら嬉しくならない？

I mean there are people in America who don't use it

相手が異国の人で、英語でI love youって言われたら別だけど、

lightly either

ある日、帰宅して「愛してる」なんて言ったら驚かれると思うよ。

There are definitely families that, you know, don't show a lot of open affection like that

デートをして、良い雰囲気になった時なんかでも？

But it's different

「愛してる」って言われたら嬉しくなる？

But I feel like it's different because in my culture,

もちろん。時と場合によるよ。

if you don't say "I love you" to your family members

ただ、レイチェル達みたいに日常的には言わないかな。

then people think you're closed off

ちなみに、私達はよく言います。

or they think that you're like

ジュンも最初のうちは居心地悪そうでしたが、

emotionally distant,

割りとすぐに慣れました。

or maybe your family isn't very open with each other

2ヶ月くらい？

So I mean there are people who don't say it

全然わかんない。

but there's a negative stigma to that

まだ慣れてる途中。

It's just different

今は私より言っていると思います。

But it's not,

私の国では言う頻度が多いですが、

that's not the case here

何度も言うと意味合いが薄れるから、好きではない人もいます。

There's not a negative stigma to not saying it, right?

全く同意見だったよ。

It's

リョウスケも同じだったし。

It's something that's there

それは、同じ考えのアメリカ人もいるよ。

It's not something we say

別にその考えは不自然でもなんでもないです。

if that makes sense to you

まあ、私は賛成ではありませんが。

Right

私のMPは減らないから。

Japan I guess, isn't a very like

まあ、とにかく

verbally affectionate country

何かご意見があれば、コメント欄までお願いします。

At least

わかる？

this is how my interpretation of it from what I've heard

感じて下さい。

from Jun over these past 5 and a half years

It feels like you don't have to say it in Japanese, like

there's no need to say it because

people know

We just didn't grow up like that so it's also strange

so I can remember my family when I gave them a hug

at the airport, they're like super shy, they're like

Right

Yeah

I did it to make fun of them and just joke around

They were happy but they're uncomfortable too

Right

Because we didn't grow up like that

Right

And I think a lot of

foreign viewers who hear you say that are gonna say

"Isn't that just your family? Are there families that are

a lot more open in Japan?"

There are some families that are open,

but just saying "I love you" in Japanese

"Aishiteru"

is just not a thing, really

Maybe, but

I assume there aren't very many

I hear what Jun's saying and I understand it,

but it's really difficult for me to comprehend

not needing or wanting to say "I love you" because

it's just like so deeply ingrained in my culture

Maybe this is just me, but I'm sure there are

a lot of people like me too

Um

We do something nice, something considerate

does it make sense to you?

Right

Instead of saying it

Right

And we tried

We don't really try to prove it but

we do it by action

Not just words

Right

And we have a word for that

There's actually a really famous book in English

called "The Five Love Languages"

Okay

Where it breaks down 5 different ways that people

show their love and how they want to be shown love

And so I feel like Japan, like the entire country

is acts of service

So

*Pfftttt*

There's one that's called acts of service

Okay

So people show their love for other people by

doing things for them

Okay

So like, working, or doing household chores,

or cooking or something

AND THAT'S YOU

That's something like I do everyday, don't I?

THAT IS JUN

like all the way

He's like 100% acts of service

But you just think I'm just a nice person

But

Well, yeah for me

THAT'S FROM MY LOVE, okay?

That's how my love language

That's from my love

So I feel like there's

Japan as a culture leans toward acts of service

I'd say there's a word called "Omoiyari",

I think it's closer to what this

our concept of love

Right

Just

It's there

Right

You feel it

You feel it

Yup

And if you like,

grab a Japanese person, you wouldn't even think

about wanting to say it

But

But do you think they would be happy if their

partner say "I love you"?

If they say "I love you" in English, maybe

they're fine like me

Right

But if you just suddenly come home and just say

"Aishiteru" to your partner, normally they're

"Okay"

That's the reaction you'll probably get

What if it's like

What if it's after a nice date or something?

Or you had like, a nice like, deep conversation with them?

And you're having like a really good mood,

would they be happy if their partner said "Aishiteru"?

I think so

Well it depends of course

like it's a nice thing to say

It's just something you don't really say that often

or lightly

So just to let you guys know

we say it all the time in our relationship

Jun wasn't super comfortable with it at the

very beginning of our relationship

Even though he said it first

Um

But he got used to it really quickly after I guess,

like maybe two months

I don't remember how long it took me

So

Just

I'm growing up

And he says it

I think he says it more than I do now

We say it very often

Very frequently

We say it very frequently which

even in my culture some people don't like

Some people feel like the more you say it

the less meaning it has to it

That's exactly how I felt about it at first

That's how he felt about it at first

That's what Ryosuke said too

Right

And that's a very very common thing for people

to feel even in my culture

So that's not

That's not unique or strange at all

You know how I feel about it

We already have this conversation

Okay

So I guess that's all we really have to say about it now

but if you guys have any comments then

leave it down in the comments box below

It's there

It's there

It's there

You show it

You feel it, right?

I love you

I love you too

Byeeee

Byeee

Hi guys~

Hey guys~

So I got a cat here

So we got a cat, okay?

Okay

We'll do about another video our cat later

You're such a pretty kitty

What are you doing?

What are you doing?

*bites*