Name: ドイツ人とデートする前に知っておきたいこと (What I Wish I Knew Before DATING A GERMAN)
Uploaded: 2021-01-14T07:32:21.000Z
Duration: 7 min 39 s
Description: VoiceTubeの動画で発音を聞きながら英語表現を覚えよう！学べる英語：

Mr. German Man and I have been together for
almost 9 years now, so we have had plenty

of time to get to know each other and figure
things out.

But looking back on it, there were definitely
a few things that I feel like it just would

have just been nice to know about the German
culture and kind of Germans in general before

Now, of course everyone is different and unique,
but these are just some things that looking

back on it I feel like...it would have been
helpful for me and Mr. German Man to know. Yeah.

First of all, oh how much I wish I had known
that Germans can often be quite direct.

As an American, I am used to beating around
the bush about things, softening the blow

I was honestly taught in school that before
giving someone a critique of their work you

should find at least one or two positive bits
of feedback to give first.

So for example if I was supposed to critique
someone's book report in school, first I

should say "well, I really liked how much
effort you put into the plot description,

and the picture on the front of your report
that you drew is really beautiful.

But one critique would be...I don't know,
maybe, you completely forgot to mention the

main character of the book." Or something. It doesn't matter.

The point is that I was really taught to first
write down, you know, and say a few positive

things and then I could give my critique.

Yeah, apparently they did not teach that technique
at Mr. German Man's school.

He can often be quite direct and to the point.

For example, maybe I show him a video that
I made and he'll watch it and then, you know,

And sometimes if he notices that something

is off about the video he'll just say that
thing first, you know?

Without buffering that with one or two good
comments, like what I learned in school.

Or maybe he will say, like: Nice. The color's off.

And that nice at the beginning is his way
of trying to be less direct.

Like, buff the critique, he'll be like, nice.

But, yeah, that's still different than what
I learned in school.

So I wish I had just known about this whole
being more direct thing from the beginning

because then I would have understood it more.

I also wish that I had known that generally
speaking many Germans just don't seem to

show their excitement as boldly as, again
generally speaking, many Americans do.

If Mr. German Man comes home with exciting
news and he tells me about it, I will probably

make a big face to show my emotion very clearly,
as though I'm on stage performing in a play.

And I'll oooh and I'll aaahh all dramatically
to convey my excitement.

Whereas if I come home and tell Mr. German
Man equally exciting news, he'll probably

After a while of thinking that maybe he's
just not so excited, I finally figured out

he is excited, he just doesn't show it in
the same way as me. And that's okay!

I just feel like it would have been helpful
to know at the beginning.

Also, going along with this, I wish that I
had known that when a German says something

is good, that basically often means the same as
when an American says something is great.

So Americans often scale up their adjectives.

For example, if I eat some tasty ice cream,
it's amazing.

And at first I thought that he was just kind of hard
to impress or maybe apathetic about things,

but, yeah, then I finally learned that he
also thinks the ice cream is delicious, the

But he often reserves words like amazing for
things that are, well, a little more impressive.

Whereas I would just add more facial expressions
and a few verys to the beginning.

But the best ice cream ever is: Oh my God,
this is the best ice cream ever!

I just keep getting bigger with my adjectives.

And lastly, I also would have loved to know that
Germany, as a whole, is pretty into insurance.

Then I would have much better understood why
my German boyfriend seemed so excited about

insurance and so interested in talking about
insurance.

Like for me insurance is a necessary thing
in life, but it's definitely not something

that I am excited about or I want to talk
about.

Insurance is something that I get done with
as quickly as possible and that I talk about

in my life for as short a time span as possible.

But this does not seem to be the case for
Mr. German Man, and, apparently, also not

the case for some other Germans because I
have watched Mr. German Man and his friends

have entire Friday evening conversations about
insurance.

The only kinda fun part of the evening was
getting to watch all their minds simultaneously

explode when I told them that none of the
insurances that they were talking about and

comparing and contrasting even existed in
the U.S. Or if they did, nobody that I knew had

They don't exist in America? But...but...but...

So my question for you is: What is your take
on these things?

And what's been your experience with this
in your own life?

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But he starts at okay, whereas I start at
great.

So by the time he gets to good, I'm at wonderful.

And when he gets to great, I'm at amazing.

When he's at amazing, I'm at super duper amazing.

If in school I was supposed to critique someone's
book reporrrt...port...book report.

Some of the things that I wish I had known
about Germans before I started...Mr. German Man.