Name: TEDx】自分から逃げる愛を求めて｜ヘイリー・クイン｜TEDxUniversityofNevada (【TEDx】Searching for love to escape ourselves | Hayley Quinn | TEDxUniversityofNevada)
Uploaded: 2021-01-14T07:15:46.000Z
Duration: 14 min 26 s
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Translator: Hoa Pham Reviewer: Robert Tucker

命令形

in a land I Googled to be 5,172 miles away,

I'd just taped this really cool TV show about experimenting with your sexuality,

through one of our famous friends who was a DJ.

and a little bit emotionally unavailable.

Very soon, we were spending all of our time together.

We threw these really cool parties for all of our cool friends,

he would take them under his arms to warm them up.

and I thought we would be together forever.

that when the warning signs came, I just ignored them.

Until the day that I couldn't ignore them anymore.

and I definitely couldn't go out to any of the parties.

In fact, I was, for the first time in my life, actually vulnerable

And at that point, when I was at my weakest,

Coming downstairs - and you you know what,

but I would have followed him out of the door to the ends of Earth.

When I did get up, I found that our house had been stripped bare.

and the rooms that we used to dance in together were empty.

I walked around those rooms like an animal, howling.

Picking myself up off the literal floor that day,

that after all of this excitement and this joy and this fantasy,

that wasn't even the first time something like that had happened to me.

I didn't have to confront anything about who I was.

Truthfully, I hadn't known who I was for years.

that had come to feel like, it, well, meant nothing,

and talk to you guys about, like, effectively a break-up story,

but it was one of a chain of many incidences

that made me think, "Maybe there's other people like me,

maybe there's other people that aren't approaching love in the right way."

Because I think we've all had experiences, right?

They look like love, they feel like love,

but when you open them up, there's nothing loving about them.

as almost like the ultimate solution to ourselves:

that gives us the direction for the future,

and imbues our everyday reality with meaning.

but I think sometimes it can also be an act of escapism.

And I've had a long time to think about this,

I am the artist formerly known as the UK's leading dating expert.

And before that I was a ghost writer in the pickup industry,

and I vlog about the reality of love on my YouTube.

And now I have a completely different approach,

a very minimalist strategy when it comes to dating.

sometimes it can be the ultimate distraction

and doing the real work that will actually make us happy.

I think that the desire for attachment, for intimacy, for security, for love,

those goals are natural, they're human, and they're good.

But I think sometimes the way we go about them is a bit weird,

whether that's crazy, ridiculous, on-off, destructive relationships,

or needing to go out on a date every single night of the week

where you have someone on the back burner,

and then someone else over there in the freezer

just in case, God forbid, you spend a night by yourself.

In this, it feels really like loneliness is the driver,

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TEDx】自分から逃げる愛を求めて｜ヘイリー・クイン｜TEDxUniversityofNevada (【TEDx】Searching for love to escape ourselves | Hayley Quinn | TEDxUniversityofNevada)

literally

stuff

weird

ultimate