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  • Thank you.

  • Hello, my name is Kevin Bahler.

  • I am the grant writer for Allentown Symphony Association.

  • I always find that a strange way to introduce myself.

  • It's not that I don't like my job - I'm very proud of it -

  • but why is that our only introduction?

  • When I was five, I have lots of introductions.

  • "Hi! My name is Kevin, and my favorite color is green."

  • "Hi! My name is Kevin, and I have a cat named Tiger."

  • "Hi! My name is Kevin, and I love finger-painting!"

  • Admittedly, that last one was kind of playing it safe

  • because, let's be honest, who doesn't love finger-painting?

  • But I didn't pick it because it was safe,

  • I picked it

  • because I was always honest and upfront about who I was and what I loved.

  • When I was in elementary school,

  • I changed my introductions to match my newest interests.

  • "Hi, my name is Kevin, and I like watching Power Rangers."

  • "Hi, my name is Kevin, and I do the martial art Aikido."

  • "Hi, my name is Kevin, and my favorite food is quiche."

  • Yes, I was a very weird boy, and I admit it.

  • But there reaches an age

  • when being honest and open about yourself

  • is the social equivalent of getting "kick me" tattooed across your forehead.

  • So as I got older, I slowly picked the safer options.

  • By the time I was in high school,

  • I had changed my introductions to match what was normal.

  • "Hey, I'm Kevin, and I like watching The Simpsons."

  • "Hey, I'm Kevin, and I like eating corn-pops."

  • I didn't even tell people I did martial arts.

  • And it's not I ever lied about myself,

  • I just told people the parts of me they expected to hear.

  • How come?

  • Well, in case you don't remember high school very well, you need to fit in.

  • And whether you want to fit in with the popular kids

  • or if you want to fit in with a counterculture,

  • If you want to have any friends,

  • you need to have something in common with somebody.

  • And the safer your introduction, the more likely you are to connect.

  • So I figured out how to say the right things

  • and I survived high school without being ostracized

  • as a "quiche-gobbling wannabe Ninja,"

  • and that was a victory.

  • But when graduation day came, I was so excited for college.

  • This was a place where people paid the money to learn.

  • It had to be filled with incredibly passionate people, right?

  • Yeah, guess how wrong I was; I'll give you a hint.

  • It was a lot.

  • It turns out that passionate or not, everybody on campus had one introduction.

  • "Hey, I'm Kevin, and my major is ...,"

  • and nobody cared what your major was.

  • It was just the only allowable introduction.

  • But you know why?

  • Because everybody had one.

  • It was this way to kind of define yourself,

  • but always within the safety of the established programs.

  • I have to admit: I have not always been

  • the charming, charismatic, sharp-dressed man you see before you.

  • In fact, I used to be a huge nerd that would do anything to have friends.

  • So when I was in college, I mastered the safe introduction,

  • and I mastered the safe conversation, and I mastered the safe friendship.

  • And you know what? Safe friends are boring!

  • We didn't do anything.

  • We sat in our dorms, complained about teachers and homework,

  • and that was 'hanging out.'

  • By the time I was in junior year,

  • I had more 'friends' than I had time to spend with them.

  • And I wasn't even enjoying myself.

  • When I realized this, it pushed me over the tipping point,

  • and I finally stopped caring about fitting in,

  • and I started caring about being happy.

  • So instead of being safe, I started being honest.

  • "Hi, I'm Kevin, and I'm fascinated by chemistry and physics."

  • "Hi, my name is Kevin, and my favorite band ever is Muse."

  • "Hi, my name is Kevin, and I love finger-painting!"

  • You don't grow out of it, you don't.

  • And the funny thing about allowing myself to just be me

  • is that all those boring people stopped wanting to hang out with me

  • because I wasn't safe.

  • And all the people who stuck around were awesome!

  • These were people who did things: we hiked, we swam,

  • we practiced martial arts together,

  • we could discuss anything

  • from black holes to stand up comedians, from Wittgenstein to Winnie The Pooh,

  • and all the while, we were laughing.

  • And it is so easy to get lost in having a good time.

  • So I made sure to remind myself of one simple fact:

  • I would never have my true friends

  • if I wasn't willing to be rejected by everybody else.

  • So when I graduated college, I was ready to enter the real world.

  • I'd learned to let go of the safety of conformity,

  • and I was ready to meet other self-actualized adults.

  • And guess how many I met.

  • Yeah, about the same as you.

  • It turns out that it was just the same introduction from college,

  • only now, with wore a suit,

  • or more often, a name tag.

  • "Hello, my name is meaningless, and I am my job."

  • Now, like I said at the beginning, I am proud of my job.

  • I'm privileged to be able to earn my living

  • by raising money for the symphony;

  • but when I was nine, I never introduced myself by saying,

  • "Hi, my name is Kevin, and when I grow up, I want to be a grant writer."

  • I wasn't that weird of a kid.

  • And even today, as an adult,

  • there are things that I'm far more passionate about

  • than mailing out project budgets and annual reports.

  • And passion is what this is really about.

  • I find it so mind-blowing that so many people have so many passions

  • and so badly want to share them with the world,

  • but they don't

  • for fear of being criticized by people they don't even care about.

  • I'll talk about my passion with anybody:

  • some crowd at a party,

  • the woman in line at the grocery store, and you there in the back,

  • whoever,

  • because, if some stranger doesn't think old kung fu movies are totally awesome,

  • so what?

  • I'm probably never going to see them again,

  • and it doesn't make me love them any less.

  • But if that person is totally into "The 36th Chamber of Shaolin,"

  • then I just made a new best friend.

  • So no matter what, I win.

  • And so can you.

  • The ultimate question here is how do you introduce yourself?'

  • That's tricky.

  • You know me pretty well by now,

  • but I've a good eight minutes to tell you who I am.

  • How do you convey all of that in a single sentence

  • And that's something you have to figure out for yourself,

  • and I challenge you to do it.

  • But I know that it helps to have an example to inspire you

  • so allow me to close with my introduction,

  • "Hello, my name is Kevin Bahler, and I love it when people are truly happy.

  • Thank you.

  • (Applause)

Thank you.

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