I'm a celebrity mentor stylist.

セレブのスタイリスト指導者です。

So today, I am joined by my fiance, Dorian.

今日は、婚約者のドリアンも参加します。

- Hello.

ーこんにちは。

- The reason why I wanted Dorian, actually, to be in today's video is because he's probably one of the best conversationalists that I know.

So, that's why I wanted him to just come on the channel and really help us all out with today's topic.

今回のトピックで助けてほしかったの。

- Thank you, very high praise, I'll take it.

ーありがとう。高い称賛だね。受け取るよ。（笑）

I have definitely struggled with being able to get into conversations with people.

私は人との会話を始めるのにとても苦労します。

I can always maintain them,

but I've always had trouble just, and I think it's because I'm shy,

but I've always had difficulty getting into a conversation with someone.

- And getting out of them.

- Let's be honest. - Yes, and getting outta them.

正直に言おう。　－そうね。終わらせるのも。

- But Dorian has been really helpful with getting me better at being a better conversationalist.

So, let's get into the best conversation starters.

さぁ、最高の会話の始め方を見てみましょう。

Number seven is,

7番目は、

do you know where the restroom/bar/food area is?

トイレ、バー、食べ物エリアはどこか知っていますか？

- The hardest thing in a conversation is to start it.

ー会話で最も難しいのは、始めること。

That it is, like that's the most difficult thing.

ほんとに。それが最も難しいこと。

Once you're in it, it's relatively simple.

一度会話が始まったら、比較的簡単だ。

So, you always want to ask someone a question that's kind of disarming that they can easily answer for you,

だからいつも質問をするようにする。

or they can even say I don't know.

知らないと言うだろう。

So, that is like the quickest, easiest thing, and it doesn't matter on the venue,

それが素早く簡単な方法で、会場は関係ない。

whether it's a big event or a conference or even a house party.

They won't even remember that you needed to know where the restroom or bar is.

They don't even know the reason anyway,

理由が何かってことも分からないだろう。

so it's not like you have to immediately leave.

だからすぐにその場を離れないといけないってこともない。

I think a lot of people would say, well, okay, they told me, but now I have to leave.

多くの人はきっとこう言うだろう。教えてもらったから、もう行かないと。

No, no, no, you just keep the...

いやいや。そこにいて…

now you're in the conversation, that's the beauty of it.

- Now go with it. - Yeah, go with it!

ーそう。続けよう！

Number six is going up to someone and saying, hey, so where are you from exactly?

Or, are you from around here?

もしくは、このあたりの出身ですか？

- That's like a good one,

ーそれは良いね。

because especially if someone doesn't look like they're a part of a crew,

or they're kind of, I use that one a lot on, if people are off by themselves or a little small group.

僕もそれをよく使う。

It's usually more of a one-on-one kind of thing.

通常はもっと1対1の会話だね。

It's hard to walk up to a group and then say that,

グループのところへ行って、それを言うのは難しい。

and the group was like, well who are you talking to?

グループの人は、一体誰に話しかけてる？って言うだろうね。

- Where are you all from?

ーどちら出身ですか？

- Yeah, that's a good one if it's an individual person and you're just trying to make conversation,

ーそれは良いね。個人だったら。それに会話をしようと思っているだけだから、

and you kinda zoned in on them.

それに浸っている。

That's a great one to start out with.

それは会話を始めるのに良いものだね。

It's really easy to answer, again, you‘re just looking to start a conversation.

これも答えやすい。会話を始めるのに良いね。

You don't wanna hit them with a heavy question, that's pretty weird.

重たい質問をしたくないだろうから。変だし。

Number five is actually something that Dorian has taught me and has worked very well,

5番目は、ドリアンが私に教えてくれたことで

and that is if someone is holding a plate of food or a drink,

you just go up to them like, oh hey, that looks really good, what is that?

その人のところに行って、それおいしそうですね。何ですか？

Where'd you get the from?

それどこでもらいましたか？

- It's like a super easy one.

ーすごく簡単。

It like, again, they can answer it very simply.

これもまた、単純に答えることができる。

It's not offensive in any way,

どうなっても攻撃的に受け取られない。

and then you have the conversation of "oh, is it good?"

そして会話が続く。おいしい？とか

Like, oh, what do you like to drink normally?

いつも何を飲むのが好きですか？

or do you eat that kind of food normally,

いつもこんな感じのものを食べますか？

or even then you go into... the beauty is, all of these conversation starters,

これらの会話を始める方法が素晴らしいのは、

you can use all the other ones to keep the conversation going.

Oh, so "where are you from, exactly?"

どこから来たんですか？

Oh, "hey, actually, do you know where the restroom is?" or... whatever.

トイレはどこか知っていますか？とか何でも。

You know... you could use, you can combine them all together and now you're in a pretty decent conversation.

これらを組み合わせて使うこともできる。そしてまともな会話ができる。

So, again, that's just a great opening line,

それはただ会話のスタートに良いだけ。

'cause someone's got something in their hands,

相手が手に何か持っているんだから

it's easy to talk about.

それについて話しやすい。

- Number four on the list is very similar to number five,

ー4番目は、5番目とよく似ている。

and that is when you go up to someone and you say,

誰かのところに行って、

Hey, I really like your shirt.

Where'd you get that from?

- And my answer is, Ashley got it for me.

ー僕の答えは、アシュリーが買ってくれたんだ。

- People love compliments.

ー人は褒められるのが好きです。

It instantly lets their guard down.

すぐにガードが下がります。

So, I always try to, especially if I just can't think of anything,

だから私はいつも特に何も思いつかないときは、

I'll just compliment them on something that they're wearing,

相手が着ているものを何か褒めるようにします。

and ask them where did they get it, or something like that.

そしてどこで買ったのか聞きます。そんな感じのこと。

Number three is, so "what was the best part of your day?"

- I included this one because I was asked this question maybe like 10, 15 years ago,

and it stuck with me ever since.

It was like, such a nice change.

I was an entertainment executive for a long time.

僕は長い間、エンターテインメントの重役でした。

So, I was at meetings, meeting new people all the time,

会議で新しい人にいつも会っていました。

and out of all the years I was doing all that,

その間に、同じことばっかりしていて、

interfacing with a lot of strangers and new people,

見知らぬ人や新しい人と話していました。

one person asked me that question and it stuck with me ever since,

ある人がその質問をして、それ以来、ずっと頭から離れません。

and it was such a great question.

素晴らしい質問でした。

It made me feel good that someone would ask that question.

I was like, oh, this one's amazing.

なんていうか、良かった。

Bit of a gamble, depending on the group, obviously.

ギャンブルだけどね。グループによっては。

But I would say that that is one that will kind of put someone back on their heels just a little bit.

So, if you're not really that comfortable with that kind of, it's a bit of a bold question to start with,

スタートにはちょっと大胆な質問です。

but I will tell you I've remembered that question ever since that day,

and I felt like it was a really, really good one.

それに、とても良い質問だったと思います。

I've used it on other people, and they said the same thing, like, "That's like a great question".

他の人にその質問をしてみたことがあって、その人たちも同じことを言っていました。「それは良い質問だね。」って。

- And then they... - People will remember you by that.

それからー人はそれであなたのことを覚えます。

- Definitely, definitely.

ー完全にね。

- Number two is something that I use a lot,

ー2番目は私がよく使うもので、

and I know Dorian does as well, and that is,

ドリアンもよく使うのを知っています。

so, "what brought you here tonight or today?" et cetera.

今晩どうしてここに来たんですか？もしくは今日とか。

So, this is great if you're at a bar or some kind of event that's not hosted by someone specifically,

but it's a really easy way to get into a conversation.

でも会話を始めるにはとても簡単な方法。

- Yeah.

ーそうだね。

So, someone has a reason for going everywhere.

人がどこかに行くってことは、理由があるから。

So, they're not... Even if they don't have a reason, like, "I don't know, I just came with my friend."

そうでなくても、理由がなくても、 友人と来たんだ。とか。

Oh, "who's your friend?" - Yeah.

友人って誰ですか？　－そうね。

- Like, you're already immediately into a conversation again.

So, it's a really, really great one.

だから良い質問だよ。

That's my go-to for sure.

僕がよく使うものだよ。

- Especially because it's not a yes or no,

ーYes Noだけじゃないから。

and it's not a quick answer, usually.

それに早く答えられるものじゃない。

So, their answer... They're probably giving a lot of good information that you can kinda hook onto,

だから答えには、

and then form your next question.

次の質問を作る。

So, the number one conversation starter that you should use,

and it's kinda similar, actually, to number two,

2番目とよく似ているんだけど、

and that is, going up to someone and saying,

誰かのところに行って、

"hi, so how do you know so-and-so?"

どうやって、○○を知ったんですか？

Which means the so-and-so is the host of the event.

- You, for the longest time, couldn't wrap your head around this question,

but I'm like, if you're invited somewhere by the host,

the people at the same place are probably also invited by the host, so now you have a common ground already.

So, it's not like this person's like, "well, what the hell, who are you?"

何なんだ？

like, "why would you even ask me that question?"

なんでそんな質問するんだ？ってならない。

You always found it so weird, and I'm like, just try it when you're at a party. - Now, we use it all the time.

君はいつもそれが変だって言うね。

- If we're at a party hosted by someone specific,

I'm always, I will go up to people now and I have no qualms, and I'm like, "hey, so how do you know Charlie?"

It's great.

This is so easy now.

とても簡単だわ。

And then, I get to learn a lot of cool information that maybe my host wouldn't have told me about that person.

そしたら、良い情報がたくさん入ってくる。ホストはその人のことを私に言ったことがないかもしれない。

- Yeah, you already have common ground to stand on and discuss, so use it.

そこから話すことができるから、利用する。

- If you like this video, remember to give it a thumbs up.

ーこの動画が気に入ったら、いいねを忘れないで。

Subscribe to my channel for more videos like this,

このような動画をもっと見るにはチャンネル登録してくださいね。

and thank you so much, Dorian, for being here,

それから、ドリアン、ここにいてくれてありがとう。

- You're welcome, it's my pleasure.

ーどういたしまして。

- And sharing your wisdom.

ー知恵を貸してくれてありがとう。

Like I said at the top, Dorian is incredible at getting into and then maintaining conversations.

始めに言ったように、ドリアンはかなり会話をスタートしたり、続けたりするのが得意。

So, these are gonna be really helpful, they've helped me.

だからこれらのコツはかなり役立ちます。私には役立ちました。

So, I know if they've helped me,

私の役に立ったのだから、

they're definitely gonna help you.

あなたにも役立つと思います。

Hope you all enjoy.

楽しんでくれたなら嬉しいです。

- And I was never a great conversationalist growing up.

ー私は話し上手ではなかったから、

I had to learn the hard way when I was an entertainment executive.

苦労して学びました。エンターテインメントの重役だったときに、

I just got thrown into all these random situations.

ランダムな状況に放り込まれた。

So, these are the things that I've learned over the years.

これらは僕がその間に学んだことです。

I'm telling you, they work, and I am not...

言っておきます。役に立ちますよ。僕は--

- Tried and true. - Yeah.

ーやってみたら分かる

I am not like an outgoing sort of guy.

ーそう。僕は外交的な人ではありません。

I can do it if I need to, but that is not my default.

必要になればできるけど、僕の本来の性格ではない。

So, trust it, use them, love them.

だから信じて。利用して。愛して。

- Alright. We need to get outta here.

ーわかった。さぁ行きましょう。

- Yeah, I'm done.

ーそうだね。終わったよ。

- This video's done. See you next month. Bye.

ーこの動画は終わり。