kind of all about this right now. In my notes, all I have written down is "just go with it,

be loose, and have fun". So I'm just gonna go with it, be loose, and have fun. For International

Women's Day this Sunday, a lot of women on YouTube have been doing this tag called #DearMe

where they give advice to their younger selves. I'm gonna link some of my favorites below

just because they're all from wonderful ladies, and why wouldn't I be excited to share with

you more wonderful ladies? So here is my fun, loose advice to my high school self:

Don't hate on other girls too much. I know it's something that's kind of ingrained in

all women but it's not other girls' fault and you shouldn't hate them simply for not

living up to patriarchal standards.

Don't slut shame other girls because I know it's mainly because you yourself feel pretty

sexually inadequate. You're a virgin in high school and I'm sorry to tell you that that

unfortunately does not change for quite awhile. But don't worry, it happens. And also the

whole idea of virginity is just based off of heteronormative patriarchal constructs

to judge a woman's value and you would have been a lot better off if you had known this

in high school. DOn't base your worth on other guys thinking you're hot. You ARE hot, but

you're so much more than a ~rockin' bod and killer face~. Pay attention to Kate Chopin...Chopan?

I'm sorry you still don't know how to say her name. You read The Awakening for AP Lit

but you don't actually read it you just Sparknotes it and you'll just be left wondering what

kind of feminist mysteries you missed out on. Avoid making out with that one guy junior

year because his tongue is like an octopus and it will swallow your face. He's also gonna

try and make you feel super guilty for not wanting to date him, so try and avoid that

whole "nice guy" persona if possible. Do your Algebra 2 homework because you end up getting

a C in that class and that's the difference between you having a super fucking awesome

honors sash that the lack of makes you feel inadequate for the rest of your life. It's

like I'm kidding, but I'm not really kidding. Don't ignore your mental health issues. I

know that you feel that you might be overreacting or it's not that big of a deal, but it's that

kind of shame and guilt that makes you avoid getting treatment for a really long time,

which in the end actually ends up benefiting you a whole lot. Be proud of being a Ravenclaw

but strive to be a Gryffindor. Your proudest moments are gonna be the ones where you're

courageous and you do things that scare the shit out of you.

You should drink more. Just kidding you shouldn't more. Eh...you should drink more.

The overwhelming question that a lot of multiracial people find themselves asking is "what the

f*ck am I?"