making them a cup of tea. You say “hey, would you like a cup of tea?”

and they go “oh my god, I would LOVE a cup of tea! Thank you!”

then you know they want a cup of tea. If you say “hey, would you like a cup of

tea?” and they're like “um I’m not really sure…” then you can make them a cup of

tea or not, but be aware that they might not drink it, and if they don’t drink it then

– then and this is the important part –  don’t make them drink it. Just because you made

it doesn't mean you are entitled to watch them drink it.

And If they say “No thank you” then don’t make them tea. At all. Just don’t make them

tea, don’t make them drink tea, don’t get annoyed at them for not wanting tea. They

just don’t want tea, ok? They might say “Yes please, that’s kind

of you” and then when the tea arrives they actually don’t want the tea at all. Sure,

that’s kind of annoying as you've gone to all the effort of making the tea, but they

remain under no obligation to drink the tea. They did want tea, now they don’t. Some

people change their mind in the time it takes to boil that kettle, brew the tea and add

the milk. And it’s ok for people to change their mind, and you are still not entitled

to watch them drink. And If they are unconscious, don’t make

them tea. Unconscious people don’t want tea and can’t answer the question “do

you want tea” because they're are unconscious. Ok, maybe they were conscious when you asked

them if they wanted tea, and they said yes, but in the time it took you to boil that

kettle, brew the tea and add the milk they are now unconscious. You should just put

the tea down, make sure the unconscious person is safe, and this is the important part again

– don’t make them drink the tea. They said yes then, sure, but unconscious people

don’t wanttea. If someone said yes to tea, started drinking

it, and then passed out before they’d finished it, don’t keep on pouring it down their

throat. Take the tea away and make sure they are safe.  Because unconscious people don’t

want tea. Trust me on this. If someone said “yes” to tea around your

house last Saturday, that doesn't mean that they want you to make them tea all the time.

They don’t want you to come around unexpectedly to their place and make them tea and force

them to drink it going “BUT YOU WANTED TEA LAST WEEK”, or to wake up to find you pouring

tea down their throat going “BUT YOU WANTED TEA LAST NIGHT”.

If you can understand how completely ludicrous it is to force people to have tea when they

don’t wanttea, and you are able to understand when people don’t want tea, then how hard

is it to understand it when it comes to sex? Whether it’s tea or sex, Consent Is Everything.

And on that note, I am going to make myself a cup of tea.