Name: 他人のアドバイスを聞いてはいけない理由 (Why you shouldn't listen to Advice from others)
Uploaded: 2021-01-14T06:01:59.000Z
Duration: 4 min 40 s
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I’m about to give you some advice about why you shouldn’t listen to advice people

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give you, so pay attention. I’m Danielle Ford with young moms club dot com and one

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thing I’ve learned after getting pregnant at seventeen and having two kids by the age

of twenty is that everybody and their brother wants to give you advice. Apparently when

people see a young mom, it’s a cue for them to start offering their opinions. They will

tell you how you should live your life, what to do about the baby’s father, how you should

raise your child, what you should be spending money on or not spending your money on. Yup.

People just love telling young moms what to do. And here’s the problem with that. Although

advice givers are probably trying to help and that’s nice, most likely they don’t

know what they’re talking about so don’t listen to them. OK well that’s not fair.

Maybe a small percent of the advice you get is actually good advice. Like twenty percent

or less if that. Ok so how do you figure out which advice givers you should actually listen

to and which you should tune out? It’s actually really easy in fact it’s only three words,

ready? Consider the source. Who is it that is giving you this advice? When I want business

advice, I don’t walk up to a homeless person on the street and ask them for business tips.

What I would do is seek out someone who has a successful business that is similar to mine

and ask them for advice. This goes for like every type of situation. For example, if you’re

having boyfriend problems, you wouldn’t want to call up your best friend who is a

huge drama queen and is always single or in terrible relationships and ask what you should

do. She’s probably a good person to vent to about it because that’s what friends

are for but any advice she’s gonna give you is probably gonna be bad. You should only

be taking relationship advice from people who have the kind of relationship you want.

One of the most common areas that people like to give advice is around your goals and plans

and what things things you can do and which things you wouldn’t be able to do. A lot

of it is brought on by ourselves though because for some reason, before we decide to do something,

we start asking other people what they think we should do. Do you think I should do this?

Do you think I should do that? Do you think I should start a business? Do you think I

should pursue a music career? Etcetera etcetera etcetera. See most people can only wrap their

minds around what they’ve done. If you ask your dad who’s worked his way up the corporate

ladder and is now the top manager at his company if you should start a business, he’ll probably

say yes to be supportive but he’ll really be thinking that it’s risky and that there

are a lot of things that could go wrong and he won’t be able to fully understand what

it takes to start a business because he’s never done it. This is where you welcome his

support and try to meet successful entrepreneurs to learn from. Again if you ask someone you

respect, like a teacher if you should pursue a music career, they’ll probably recommend

that you have something to fall back on, which is their words for saying no. But if you were

to ask the same thing to Lady Gaga, you’d get a very different answer. Well that’s

it for today. Hopefully now you’ll stop listening to so many people’s advice, except

for mine, you should always listen to my advice. I’m just kidding. No I’m not. If you enjoyed

this video and found it useful, then please share it with your friends. And I wanna hear

from you. What do you do when people try to give you their advice? Do you consider the

source? Have you ever taken advice and then lived to regret it? Let’s talk about it

in the comments. If you’re not officially in the club yet then go to young moms club

dot com, enter your name and email and you’re good to go. I’ll even send you a free gift

immediately. Thanks so much for watching and I’ll see you next week.