In this video, I’m going to talk about a dilemma that many people are faced with after

a break up, and that’s whether or not to delete or “unfriend” your ex from your

Facebook, Twitter, and other social media accounts.

My name is Brad Browning, by the way, and I’m a relationship coach and breakup expert

from Vancouver, Canada. You may have heard about my best selling “Ex Factor” program,

which is specifically designed to help folks like you deal with a breakup and get their

exes back.

So, now that you know who I am, let’s get into it.

Should you delete your ex from your social media? The short answer is no, and that’s

because if there is even the slightest possibility that you want your ex to be apart of your

life again someday, you should not delete or unfollow them.

Maybe you’ve heard about the ‘no contact’ strategy that I advocate in my Ex Factor Guide

program. For those of you who haven’t, the no contact phase is a period of time after

a breakup where you have no communication with your ex whatsoever. This means no calls,

texts, late night visits, liking their Facebook posts or showing up at their door. The general

idea behind it is to give your ex a taste of life without you. If he or she is like

most people, then they’ll quickly start to miss you and the negative memories that

caused your ex to break up with you in the first place will fade away and be replaced

by nostalgia and the more positive aspects of the relationship. Once these feelings have

peaked, your ex will be much more likely to respond to your attempts to rebuild a new

relationship together.

So how are you supposed to comply to the no contact rule and still have your ex on your

Facebook or Twitter accounts? Well, it’s not easy, but it is possible.

You need to understand that if you are actively practicing the no contact period as a way

to get your ex back, then facebook stalking them is not acceptable. This may sound harsh,

but it’s really for your own good. Do you really want to be checking in on who they

are hanging out with, or trying to read between the lines of their status updates? For example,

let’s say that they post about how happy they are feeling today, it’s likely that

you’re going to question why they are happy and create scenarios in for yourself. Maybe

they met someone new, or could they be thinking about me? It’s not healthy to do this type

of overanalyzing.

Let’s say that you want to keep an eye on what they’re doing and who they’re talking

to. This may seem reasonable, but the truth is that in the long run this will only hurt

you and your progress with resetting yourself, and it could also easily become obsessive

and draining. Forget what your ex is doing and focus on your own actions, because that’s

what’s actually going to help you win them back.

Instead of deleting your ex altogether, simply go to your account settings and choose to

not include your ex in your newsfeeds. Out of sight, out of mind.

If you don’t trust yourself to stay away from their profiles and decide that deleting

them would be easier than avoiding them, then you need to consider how awkward it will be

when you’re working towards getting back together and need to send them a new friend

request. Do you want to put yourself through that... especially if your ex has been avoiding

your profile and didn’t even realize that you deleted them in the first place.

There’s another reason not to “unfriend” or delete your ex from social media, and that’s

because it can actually be a very effective tool to win them back… by using a sneaky

tactic that I call “Covert Jealousy,” you leverage social media to help change the

way your ex feels about you and the possibility of getting back together. I can’t explain

this tactic in depth here in this video, but you can learn more about using social media

and “Covert Jealousy” in the free full-length video on my website, BreakupBrad.com.

On the flip side of things, if your ex unfriends you don’t panic; it’s more than likely

because they don’t want to be continually reminded of you every time they log in to

Facebook or Twitter.

So don’t sweat it; it’s inconvenient but it’s not a big deal and it certainly doesn't

mean they hate you or that all hope is lost. Keep your head up and remember that every

day you push through the no contact phase gets you closer to recovery, and possibly

rekindling your relationship with your now ex.

Well, I hope this video helps you figure out whether or not you should delete or unfriend

your ex on your social media accounts… but, if you do have any questions still buzzing

around in your head, about this please feel free to share them in the comments section

below and I’ll do my best to answer them.

Well that’s all for now… thanks for watching, see you soon!