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  • Ohai babes!

  • Let's talk about losing your virginity.

  • The first thing you need to know about losing your virginity

  • is that you're not losing anything.

  • Despite the way that people talk about virginity,

  • it's not like some appendage that's stuck on you

  • and as soon as you have sex,

  • it just floats off into the abyss.

  • Bye, virginity!

  • Was nice knowing ya!

  • So when I talk about first-time sex,

  • I prefer to call it your sexual debut!

  • In the month leading up to your sexual debut,

  • there's someone you're interested in,

  • things are sort of heating up between the two of you,

  • that's great,

  • spend some time getting comfortable with each other sexually.

  • This is gonna make things so much less awkward later.

  • It's also not a bad idea to get comfortable with yourself.

  • Get some alone time and check your shit out!

  • Identify all the major parts of your genitals,

  • touch them, see what they feel like

  • You could take a whiff.

  • And if you're feeling really adventurous

  • you could even taste it!

  • That's not cannibalism, is it?

  • No, of course not!

  • Beside checking things out,

  • it's not a bad idea to masturbate.

  • Experiment with what feels good

  • and if you've never orgasmed before,

  • this can be a really good way to learn.

  • That said, don't stress if you haven't learnt how to orgasm yet.

  • For people who have vaginas,

  • it can be a little tricky to learn.

  • There's no checklist when it comes to this question,

  • really it comes down to being in touch with yourself.

  • Some good signs that you're ready

  • are that you want to do it

  • and you feel excited about it,

  • and you are going to be doing it

  • with someone who you feel comfortable with,

  • and you're doing it for yourself,

  • not to prove that you're cool

  • or to prove that you love someone.

  • Readiness is when you are in the driver seat

  • and you know how to drive that shit.

  • Readiness is knowing how to protect yourself

  • against STIs and pregnancy.

  • It's having had conversations about sex with your partner.

  • And remember that there is no rush!

  • Don't be afraid to take your time,

  • there's no deadline here.

  • The number one thing you all tweeted and tumblred me about

  • when I posted about this video

  • was pain during sex.

  • And I have great news for you.

  • The first time you do it, it doesn't have to hurt!

  • Forget what everyone's told you

  • about having to break your hymen,

  • about it being bloody and messy.

  • It's a lie.

  • Here's how you can avoid the pain.

  • A few weeks before, you wanna start with your fingers,

  • start streching out the hymen a little bit

  • and then, 1. make sure you have lots of foreplay,

  • make sure you're really turned on and horny beforehand

  • so do some massages, oral sex,

  • whatever you all do.

  • Penis will be erect, that's the obvious one,

  • but for a vagina, you know you're really turned on

  • when the lips in this area down here get a little bit puffy.

  • Number 2 : relax!

  • If you're really stressed out and tense,

  • that's gonna translate into pain!

  • Take some deep breaths,

  • relax the muscles in the area,

  • do what you need to do to become as chill as you can.

  • Number 3 :

  • lube, lube, lube, lube, luuube!

  • Just a truckload of lube!

  • OK, not a truckload.

  • A few squirts should do.

  • Put a little on the inside,

  • rub all over the outside.

  • Number thrffWhat number am I at? 4?

  • Pick it up slow!

  • So people with the penises,

  • take your partner's cue,

  • and go nice and slow especially at first.

  • If it really hurts, stop!

  • Cause something's wrong.

  • If you're bleeding, stop!

  • Cause something's wrong.

  • What you will feel at first,

  • is this sort of uncomfortable stretching sensation.

  • As your muscles relax, and you start to get more into it,

  • that sensation should be less and less noticeable.

  • And 5 : communicate the whole way.

  • "Does this feel good?"

  • "Does that feel good?"

  • "No, I don't like that."

  • "Let's do more of this."

  • Strong communication = good sex!

  • The two main questions you all sent me

  • about the aftermath are

  • 1. basically, guys are worried that they came too fast.

  • Don't be so hard on yourself,

  • when you're nervous,

  • and if you're used to just masturbating really quickly,

  • it happens.

  • The other question that I get is

  • if having sex with someone is gonna make you

  • feel forever attached to them afterwards.

  • And surely, the answer is no,

  • it's just another way to scare you out of having sex.

  • What does happen after you orgasm,

  • is a release of oxytocin.

  • Makes people bond with each other.

  • But it doesn't last your whole life.

  • In fact, it doesn't last more than a few hours.

  • What can last a little longer

  • is just a feeling of vulnerability

  • and closeness to that person

  • who you just shared this special experience with.

  • Which is why it's beneficial

  • to have a trusting relationship with that person,

  • so that you feel supported and safe with them

  • and you don't have to worry about having made the wrong choice.

  • And even if that did happen, just remember

  • your sexual debut doesn't have to be perfect!

  • There's a danger in putting too much value and pressure on it.

  • Yeah, it's significant and it's awesome,

  • and it's exciting,

  • but there is so much more to come!

  • Most important thing is : have fun,

  • do what feels good to you.

  • If you have any more questions, leave a comment down below,

  • I'm gonna be looking at the comments section,

  • there's also awesome people in the sex+ audience

  • who I'm sure will be happy to help you out.

  • Have a great week everyone,

  • I'll see you again soon.

Ohai babes!

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Losing Your VIRGINITY? (Losing Your VIRGINITY?!)

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