a business and a life that you love. And this is my favorite day of the week. Yes, that

means it’s Q&A Tuesday. And today’s question comes from a fantastic woman named Laura and

she writes:

“Hi Marie. I’m just starting to build my team, but I’m not sure how to keep everyone

motivated and on track. We all work really hard, but maybe because we’re virtual in

different parts of the country and different time zones, it’s feeling hard to get the

team to really gel. What can I do to help people stay motivated and engaged and actually

like working together? Thanks. Laura.”

Awesome question Laura. You know, I talk a lot about Team Forleo, so this is the kind

of question I get asked all the time. It’s a big topic, team building, but today I’m

gonna share one kind of unorthodox tool that we’ve been using for years that helps people

feel a real bond and a sense of connection. You know, it was originally created for couples,

but I use it for business.

Ok, but seriously. The tool that we’ve used for years now is the blockbuster hit from

the 90s, it’s Gary Chapman’s The 5 Love Languages. Now, since Gary came out with that

book, he actually created another one that’s specifically for the workplace and it’s

called The 5 Languages of Appreciation. Now, we still use the Love Languages because we’re

touchy feely like that. Now, here’s the basic idea. Each one of us gives and receives

love in our own, unique way. We each have our own love or appreciation language, so

to speak.

There are five love languages: quality time, words of affirmation, acts of services, gifts,

and physical touch.

So the key to making another person feel loved and appreciated is to express love and appreciation

in their primary love language. So on our team one of the gals, her name is Kristin,

we know that her primary love language is physical touch. So every time we get in person,

it is a huge hug fest because we know that’s how she feels most loved and appreciated.

And, conversely, Louise on our team, one of her primary love languages is words of affirmation.

So all of us know that for Louise to feel truly loved and appreciated, we let her know

verbally and in writing how amazing she is. Just think, if only Don Draper thought to

do this with Peggy.

Hey Don? I think Peggy’s love language is words of affirmation.

So now when anyone joins our team, it’s the very first thing that we make them do.

So how about you? Do you know your love language or your team’s love or appreciation language?

If you don't you should go and check out Gary’s site because he has a free test, and it’s

awesome. We will put the links below. And, of course, I recommend the books too because

they are amazing. This will help you so much not only to help build your team and help

everybody gel together, but it’ll really support every relationship in your life. In

fact, one of my guy friends recently got engaged and I had told him, “You’ve gotta do this.

You've gotta make your woman do this, you have to do it,” and he reported back a little

bit later and he told me it was one of the best things they’ve ever done.

But back to you and your team. I promise, if you give your team love and appreciation

in their love language you’re gonna help set them up to do their best work, they’re

gonna stay fully engaged, and they’re gonna love working with you over the long haul.

You know, I think the late, great Steven Covey said it best when he said, “Next to physical

survival, the greatest need of a human being is psychological survival, to be understood,

to be affirmed, to be validated, to be appreciated.

That was my A to your Q, Laura, I really hope it helps. Do let us know how it goes. Now

I would love to hear from you. Do you know your love or appreciation language? If not,

go over and take the free test. Or just tell us in the comments how you most feel loved

or appreciated.

Now, as always, the most awesome discussions happen after the episode at MarieForleo.com,

so get over there and leave a comment now.

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