and life that you love. And today is Q&A Tuesday, one of our favorite days of the week. And

today’s question comes from Kristin and she asks:

“Hi Marie. I’m Kristin and I am an 11 year old girl who has been watching you for

about 6 months now. And, what can I say? You’re funny, you’re hip, you’re sassy, you’re

creative, and, when you need to be, professional. And I honestly fell in love with you on the

first video. So here’s my Q: what do you do when you feel lost about what you like,

about what you love, and what you wanna be? Bye!”

Kristin, this is an incredible question and I wish I could sit down with you and answer

all of your Q’s because you’re brilliant. You’re so curious and amazing and you’re

just 11 years old. Now, the first thing I wanna say is that feeling confused or lost

about what you like and what you wanna be is something that nearly all of us struggle

with.

You know, another way that people ask this is, what should I do with my life when I grow

up? You’ll probably be asked this question many, many times. It’s because adults have

been asked this question our whole lives and it’s kind of the way that we relate to each

other. Now, here’s my problem with this question, particularly for someone your age.

This question puts a lot of pressure on you because you don't have to make this decision

right now. Where you are in your life, it’s all about being creative and exploring and

learning, exactly what you’re doing. And, here’s the thing, you’re probably gonna

change what you wanna do for a career many times between now and when you finish your

formal education, and even as an adult too.

Now, for everybody else, especially if you’re an adult and you’re still asking yourself,

“What should I be when I grow up?” hopefully this will help you too. Instead of asking,

“What should I do?” a way more powerful and useful question to ask yourself is, “Who

do I want to be?” Meaning what kind of person do you want to be in this world? What’s

the energy that you wanna bring to anything that you actually do? So, here’s the thing,

this is a very different question to ask yourself and it’ll get you completely different results.

After all, you are a human being, not a human doing, and who you are shows up in everything

that you do.

So, Kristin, I want you to sit down and really ask yourself, who do I wanna be in this world?

Do I wanna be loving, kind, inclusive? Do I wanna be playful, engaged, compassionate?

Really think through what being qualities are most important to you. Maybe it’ll be

being artistic and sharing your art with the world. Maybe it’ll be being helpful and

being a leader.  Then just ask yourself, “How can I take what’s already in my heart

and express this into the world? What can I do right now to express exactly who I am

and who I wanna be?”

When I’m feeling lost, that’s what I do. I ask myself, “Well, who do I wanna be right

now?” and the answer that most often pops up is loving and helpful. So then I say, “Ok,

well, how can I spread some love right now? How can I be helpful and give to somebody

else?” And when I ask myself those questions, I often get intuitive flashes about things

like projects I need to take on or things I need to go do or sometimes it’s as simple

as picking up the phone and reaching out to someone and giving them some love.

Now, I’ve got more ideas and resources to share with you, Kristin, and I’ll put the

links below. But the big takeaway from today’s episode is this: that regardless of your age

or what you’ll eventually do for a career, I want you to remember that you have the power

in each and every moment to consciously choose and express who you want to be. Now, here’s

a tweetable that’ll help you remember.

“Greatness doesn't come from what you do, but from who you are.”

No matter what you do, your real work in this world is to choose who you wanna be and be

it. So, Kristin, that was my A to your Q, I really hope it helps, and I cannot wait

to hear how it goes.

Now I would love to hear from you. Who do you wanna be in this world? And what’s one

simple action that you can take right now to express it?

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