a business and a life that you love, and I know that you do. This is Q&A Tuesday and

today’s question comes from Fara and she writes:

“Hello all masterful Marie. My question is about disconnecting. As a successful businesswoman

who is always on the go I’ve realized that I keep bringing my work attitude into the

bedroom as well as the boardroom. How do you disconnect from work mode in order to go back

to who you really are as a person? Note, I’m not one of those hippy woo woo types who loves

to hang out by the ocean and listen to waves or sit under a tree on a mountaintop. I’ve

tried it and although I have an open mind, it just hasn’t worked for me. But the tshirt

I got was cool. Thank you Marie. Fara.”

Oh my God, Fara, I think I have the same tshirt. Or is it this one?

This is a great question. It’s something I most often hear from women but I also hear

it from men too. Not the Yoni part, although some guys are looking for that. I’m talking

about masculine and feminine energy and whether you’re a woman or a man, doesn't matter

your sexual orientation, all of us need to know how to shift between these two energies

if we want to experience maximum happiness and satisfaction.

I do have to say, the reason I was so excited about answering this question is because I

get you, Fara. I too have to make a really conscious effort to shift out of work mode.

Now, I’ve talked to a lot of experts about this over the years and the most typical advice

I always hear about shifting into my feminine sounds a little something like this: take

a moment and light a candle. Then take a bubble bath, girl. Luxuriate your body in some soft,

luscious rose petals. Go in your bedroom, take it all off, and just dance naked to Sade.

Can I be honest with you? That stuff makes me want to hurl. I am not going into my bedroom

and rubbing silk on my hoo ha.

You know, that stuff may work for thousands of women and I would never invalidate what

works for them, it just doesn't work for me. Different strokes for different folks and

that’s totally cool. Now, I am not claiming to be the feminine energy expert, but since

you asked I’m very happy to share two simple strategies that do work for me.

Strategy number one, turn it off. Or, a more sensual way to put that, inspiration

courtesy of the great Marvin Gaye.

Sounds simple and it is. So once you’re done with your work day you’ve gotta turn

everything off. So turn the cell phone off, put it on airplane mode, you’ve gotta close

down the laptop. Doesn't matter whether you’re with your significant other or you’re entertaining

friends, just turn everything off and make it a point to have real live conversations

with real live human beings or yourself or your pet. The bottom line is, if you wanna

shift out of work mode then you need to turn everything off like those electronic devices

that keep you tethered to it.

Strategy number two is called butter on toast.

This may sound a little corny, and it is, but it works. So Josh and I have this saying

called butter on toast. When it’s time for me to shift out of work mode, I think of myself

as butter and he’s the toast. So think about this, this comfort food is best when the toast

is, like, firm and stiff and when the butter is soft and velvety and creamy and spreads

all over the place. So I know that’s a little dumb, but it actually works. It’s a really

easy metaphor to remember and it affects my physicality, it affects my voice, and I can

slip into it really fast. While I’m sure our audience will give you

loads of other suggestions, these two strategies are simple and they work for me every single

time. So let’s wrap this up on a tweetable, shall we?

“If any human being is to reach full maturity, both the masculine and feminine sides of the

personality must be brought up into consciousness.”

That was my A to your Q, Fara, I hope it helps. Now I would love to hear from you. Do you

ever have trouble shifting out of work mode? Whether you’re of the male or female persuasion,

what strategies do you use to shift between your masculine and feminine energies? As always,

the best discussions happen after the episode over at MarieForleo.com, so go there and leave

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