I want to talk about respect is that I have been all over the country this morning talking

about a new survey thats out about how terrible it is that kids are not respecting their teachers,

and teachers don't feel like kids are respecting them, and parents don't feel like the teachers

are respecting them. So what is respect anyway?To begin with, its not doing what a person can

and should do for themselves, which is part of where the problem starts is that often

times parents are so concerned that their kids aren't going to love them or like them,

that they feel like its their job to protect their kids from every upset, every disappointment,

every failure, and to give them everything that they want. The problem with that is it

prevents your child from being able to be self sufficient! It prevents them also from

being able to have a center of control that is within themselves. So that they feel that

they are capable of going out into the world and getting and doing for themselves and dealing

with the failures, and dealing with the disappointments in a positive way. We learn that as kids when

we experience those things and then we have our parents there to help us sort out how

manage that. And if we don't do that, and we are not being respectful of our kids, we

are preventing them from growing into the self sufficient adults that they should grow

into! So then what happens is they go to the school system, and they expect their teachers

and the administration to treat them the same way, and of course they don't. And so then,

they get angry and they run home and tell their parents, and their parents run in and

try to intervene for them and what ends up happening is then the school system turns

into the bad guy and of course the school system will escalate their attempts to power

and control, and they will get disciplinarian and the teachers make the teachers out to

be the bad guys and suddenly you are stuck in this cycle. And that's what I talk about

in my book, how we we get stuck in that cycle so easily when we don't respect each other,

we don't have empathy for each other, and we don't own what we are capable of doing,

when we don't own our part in the situation. So understanding how that cycle works is really

key to being able to be respectful and set up a system thats respectful, because the

bottom line is its not only the responsibility of the parents, its also the responsibility

of the school system to find a way to create a culture of respect, and empathy, and ownership,

that starts at day one. And so when we can do this, it changes everything. Thats why

the name of my books is Oh Wow this changes everything, you can find it on Amazon, and

you can find it on Kindle and on Audible, and you can find out more about me at melodybrooke.com

Talk to you later, bye!