Becausetherecanbenothingthatseemsmoreintimidatingorlessfunthanfinding a stranger, askingthemwhenthey'vecriedinfrontofsomeoneelse, andthentellingthemaboutthetimeyoucriedinfrontofsomeoneelse.
Andtoexplainhow I gottothis, I havetotellyou a littlebitof a storyaboutmeandmywife.
そして、どうしてこのようなことになったのかを説明するには、私と妻の話を少ししなければならない。
A fewyearsago, wegotintothisbadpattern.
数年前、私たちはこの悪いパターンに陥った。
We'vebeenmarriedfor 20 years, but I wouldcomehomefrom a longdayattheoffice, I was a reporterattheNewYorkTimesatthatpoint, and I wouldstartcomplainingaboutmyday, abouthow I'm notappreciatedenough, andmywife, veryreasonably, wouldoffermesomegreatadvice.
Ifyouare a schoolteacher, andyou'llprobablylearnatsomepointthatif a studentcomesuptoyouwith a problemorsomethingtheywanttotalkabout, youshouldaskthem, doyouwanttobehelped, whichis a practicalconversation, doyouwanttobehugged, whichisanemotionalconversation, ordoyouwanttobeheard, whichis a socialconversation?
Ifyougoupandyouasksomeoneatworkiftheywant a hug, theHRmightgetinvolved, soyoumightnotwanttodothat.
もしあなたが職場に行って、誰かにハグをしたいかと尋ねたら、人事が関わるかもしれない。
Butluckily, thereisanotherwayofdoingthisforallofusnormalpeople, whichistoaskquestions, andinparticular, toask a certaintypeofquestion, a specialquestion, what's knownas a deepquestion.
特に、ある種の質問、特別な質問、いわゆるディープ・クエスチョンをすることだ。
A deepquestionissomethingthatinvitesustotalkaboutourvaluesorourbeliefsorourexperiences, andthatcansound a littleintimidating, butit's actuallymucheasierthanitsounds.