It's a combinationofbeingjudgedbysociety, nothaving a roadmap, andthencertainlyourprimitivebrainsthinkingthatweneedtoprotectourselvesandstaysilenttosurvive.
Certainkindsofdecisionsthatinvolvetaboosorsacredvalues, there's evidencethatactually a differentpartofthebrainiscomingonline. Thereare a lotofconversationsaboutmakingmoney, butveryfeworlimitedconversationsthatareintimateabouthowtomanageitorhowtoeventhinkabout a financialdecision.
Andthen, bam, inthecourseof a month, wealldecidedtoreorientourbehavior.
そして、1カ月の間に、私たち全員が行動を見直すことにした。
Soifthatpartofthebrainisflexible, whatmakesmoneysuch a taboostill? Somanypeople, nomatterwhattheirsocioeconomicstatusis, have a sensethateverybodyelseisdoingthisthingcalledmoneybetterandthatsomehowthey'remessingitup.
And I reallydobelievewewouldbe a healthiersocietyandhealthierindividuals.
そして、私たちはより健全な社会になり、より健全な個人になると本当に信じている。
Butwhat I findisifyoutakesmallbabystepsandbuildupthatmuscleandpickreallygoodpeopletoengageinmoneyconversationstostart, itultimatelybreaksthroughthetabooandyoufindoutthattalkingaboutmoney, peoplethink I'm crazy, but I thinkit's fun. Sowhatconcretestepscanwetaketobreakthemoneytaboo?
Ismaybebuyingsomethingthatwecan't affordormaybetaking a tripbecausewewanttobewithourfriends.
買えないものを買うとか、友達と一緒にいたいから旅行に行くとか。
Whereaswhatactuallycanreallyconnectyoumoredeeplytoyourcommunityandtoyourfriendsisbeingreallytruthfulwiththemandsayingsomethinglike, youknowwhat, thattripsoundsawesome, but I can't committo a fullweek.
Ifyou'resomeonewhoisuncomfortableaboutmoney, oneofthefirstthingsyoucandoisinvestigatehowyoufeelaboutmoneyandfinancialdecisionsandusingthatas a journalpromptor a waytoexplorewith a friendor a familymemberwillhelpyouseewhyyou'reavoidantabouttalkingaboutmoney.
Morelikelythannot, youwillrealizethatsomeonehasalreadyexperiencedgettingtheirbankaccountclosedorsomeonehasalreadyexperiencedhowtheprocessmoveswhenbuying a house.
Whetheritis a familymember, a friend, yourpartner, oranyoneelsethatyou'refeelingcomfortablebringingupthetopicofmoneywith, justknowthatmoneyissomethingthat's changingeverydayinourlives.
So I wouldencourageyou, dependingonwhereyouliketohangoutontheinternet, tofollowdifferentforumsorgroupstalkingaboutdifferentfinancialthings, evenhowfinancesintersectwithourmentalhealth.