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  • Rachel DeAlto: Confidence is the number one thing you need when you're flirting.

  • Hunt Ethridge: Absolutely. In general.

  • Rachel: By far. Well, in general, but especially if you're going to put yourself out there

  • and want someone to be attracted to you. Attraction comes from confidence.

  • Hunt: Yeah.

  • Rachel: And people are all attracted to confident people.

  • Hunt: Absolutely.

  • Rachel: So not everybody's confident.

  • Hunt: Well, and how do you get confidence? It's very tough, you know.

  • Rachel: Well, you know, it's something that I talk a lot about in my book, because I feel

  • like regardless of where you start from everybody that's having trouble dating or flirting has

  • some sort of confidence issue. . .

  • Hunt: Right.

  • Rachael: that needs to be built up a little bit. So I start with affirmations.

  • Hunt: Okay. What's an example of an affirmation?

  • Rachel: An affirmation is something that is either something you believe in about yourself

  • or something you aspire to be. So you could have an affirmation of, 'I am flirt-worthy.

  • I am beautiful. I am funny. I am intelligent.' These are things that you can tell yourself

  • and build up your confidence, because your words have power.

  • Hunt: Absolutely.

  • Rachel: And that's something I believe in a hundred percent.

  • Hunt: Oh, yeah. And a lot of the things I teach my clients it's all mental gymnastics.

  • So you get yourself in a place that you are able to open up, and we say that there are

  • four things that women look for in a guy. And the number one is confidence. And you've

  • really got to get out there. For me, the way that I learned to come at confidence is to

  • learn to have no fear of failure. Because really, you didn't fail at it. You attempted

  • something, and it didn't work. You know, you went up and talked to someone. It was a non-starter.

  • That's fine. It has nothing to do with you.

  • Rachel: Absolutely not.

  • Hunt: It had nothing to do with anything inside of you. It just happened to be not working

  • right then. And when you can then, "Oh, no big deal. It didn't happen. You know, no big

  • worry," and go up and continue to do it, when you talk to someone you're not nervous about

  • how is this going to go. And when you just can go in going, "Let's see what happens here,"

  • it gives you that sense to be able to breathe out.

  • Rachel: Take away the expectations.

  • Hunt: Exactly.

  • Rachel: You get the right attitude that this is for fun. You're here to have fun and see

  • what happens. Another thing that I think is so important for people to build their confidence

  • is to eliminate the negativity in your life. Because if they're not building you up, they're

  • bringing you down.

  • Hunt: Yep.

  • Rachel: So if you have a lot of people in your life that are negative, or you just,

  • you hang out with them and sometimes you always feel like they're just not in your corner,

  • or they're not there for you, these people are literally sucking your confidence out.

  • So if you surround yourself by positive people, you're immediately going to get more confidence

  • because you're enjoying life. So it really goes beyond flirting.

  • Hunt: Yep.

  • Rachel: It's a little deeper than what we're talking about.

  • Hunt: Oh, and kind of something that you had mentioned earlier, too, is when I'm walking

  • down the street if somebody looks at me, I'm thinking that they're thinking, "Wow. Look

  • at that guy." I have clients that if someone looks at them, they think, "Oh, is something

  • in my nose?"

  • Rachel: Yeah.

  • Hunt: Or something like that. Am I right all of the time? No. Are they right all of the

  • time? No. But which type of life would you rather have, thinking about when you walk

  • past? It makes me feel good, and it affirms myself. I'm not always right, but I'm a much

  • happier person because of it.

  • Rachel: Absolutely. So fake it 'til you make it.

Rachel DeAlto: Confidence is the number one thing you need when you're flirting.


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より自信を持って浮気をする方法|いちゃつくレッスン (How to Be a More Confident Flirt | Flirting Lessons)

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