Name: 14 easy things that made me a confident person
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19 easy things that make you feel instantly confident

I'm not much of a high heel type of woman.

Not because I don't want to be, but because I walk a lot.

Rarely will I ever leave home just for a short stroll.

Recently I found an old pair of boots of mine.

They have a pointy toe, very small heel, but you wouldn't know by the sound of them.

Of course, I had forgotten about that, as I put them on the other week, went outside,

and felt instant regret as the click clack hit the pavement, but I was too lazy to get

I felt self conscious for that entire walk.

I tried walking in a way that doesn't make noise and it just made me feel even weirder.

You'd think I'd swear off wearing those boots ever again, or at least, 7 in the morning.

But I like the way they look, and I don't ever want my mind ghosts to stop me from doing

I wore them again, and I've kept wearing them for a couple weeks, and in that time,

I've gone from feeling self conscious in my loud ass boots, to feeling confident in

Just yesterday I was out and about running errands here in the city.

It was really hot outside, I was sweaty, I was carrying Fred in my arms as well as my

It wasn't my best look, but somehow, the little click clack sounds made me feel like

the world was my runway, as if with each step I took, I was announcing that there's a

I never feel that way when I'm walking in my sneakers.

And it's got me thinking: what are some other small, not-so-obvious things that may

comes from a Latin word 'fidere' which means "to trust"; therefore, having self-confidence

Wikipedia always gives the best definitions.

Personally, I define confidence as being aware that I'm actually cool and competent.

Here are some things that have helped with that:

I strongly believe that the labels we use to describe ourselves impact our lives more

I avoid saying things like “I'm weird” or “I suck”.

Basically, I won't call myself anything that I don't want to be.

I'm not going to say “I'm awkward” if I don't want to be awkward.

And if I feel like I need to use such a word to describe what I'm feeling, I'll find

a way to communicate it using different words.

THREE: If you've ever been socially anxious, you

know what it's like to get caught up in thoughts like “What do I sound like?”,

“are my hand gestures weird?”, “How do I look?”.

And look, caring about how we're perceived is human nature.

But it's easy to get so caught up in our thoughts about ourselves, that we forget to

listen, to be present, to pay attention to anything happening outside of ourselves.

I've gotten better at reminding myself to shift my focus outward instead.

I'll think things like “What impression is this person leaving on me?

Rather than obsessing over what impression I'm leaving on them.”

Instead of worrying they may not like me.

Being able to ask good questions because you've been paying attention boosts confidence.

Being able to evaluate a person and trusting your judgment boosts confidence.

Remembering what someone said boosts confidence.

If you struggle with getting too caught up in your head, one small piece of advice I

have is to wear something that's going to remind you each time you look at it, like

FOUR: In fact, wear two rings: one that reminds you to not hunch.

Good posture isn't only necessary to give a good impression on others, but on yourself

Did you know that your posture matters even when you're SITTING DOWN?

As in, an upright posture can give more confidence in your own thoughts?

Body language makes a world of a difference.

Let me actually show you: (clip of walking hunched vs not hunched)

FIVE: I read in a study that Perfumery can be likened to the nose as music is to the

That same study found that 90% of all women tested in the fragrance study reported feeling

more confident when they wore fragrance than when they did not”.

I'm very picky with scents, and it's taken me half a lifetime, but I've finally found

It's subtle, it's yummy, and it gives me a boost knowing I smell good and I've

SIX: Becoming aware of the spotlight effect.

The psychological phenomenon that makes us all think that people are noticing us more

You are the center of your own world, but you're not the center of everyone else's world.

SEVEN: Getting better at small-talk and actually learning to enjoy it.

I truly value human connections and I'm genuinely interested in people, but striking

up conversations with people I don't know hasn't come naturally to me.

I'd say I've probably socialized more in this past year that I've had him, then

Not a day goes by where I don't stop and have a chat with other dog owners.

And in the beginning it felt strange, but now, I don't even think about it.

Like I actually enjoy going to the dog park and hanging out with other hoomans.