That was the time where I was just really naive and I didn't know what to do and I was just in shock and I was scared.

もし日本に来る予定があれば、最後まで見てください！ちょっとした心得について話しています

Mhm.

でも、それに対して何もすることは出来ませんでした

Hey guys, welcome back to my channel.

その当時は、私はそういうことに無知で、どうすればいいか分からなくて

This is a long time coming.

ただただショックで、怖くて

This video.

みなさん、また観に来てくださってありがとうございます！

I get a lot of messages about being a woman in Japan and how safe it is to walk alone, go places by yourself, get on the trains and all of that stuff.

ずっと撮りたかったんですよ、このビデオ

I've gotten a lot of comments from people who have not lived in Japan and are saying things like isn't it like the safest country in the world.

日本にいる女性としてどう感じるか、という質問をたくさん受けます

I don't know how to explain it but there's not a lot of P.

例えば、夜一人で歩くとかのはどのぐらい安全なのかとか

D.

一人での外出、あと電車に乗るだとか、そういう質問をたくさん受けるんです

A.

日本に住まれたことのない方からコメントをたくさん受けるんですが、

There's not a lot of people who are making out or doing anything very sexual in public.

例えば、「日本って世界で一番安全な国でしょ？」とかそういう感じですね

It's just very discreet when it comes to that.

あまりどのように説明すればいいのかわからないんですが、

But then you go to a convenience store and you'll see porn laid out everywhere or you walk down the street and there's love hotels and sex shops.

ただ、公共の場でキスしたり、抱き合ったりとかそういう事は少ないですし

It's just kind of like there's two different sides to Japan in my opinion, the lack of affection between couples has given Japan this issue with groping and stalking and all that stuff and I feel like because of the work culture and there's not a lot of spending time with loved ones because of that.

イチャイチャしたり、セクシャルはことはあまりしないですね

I feel like there's a lack of a sex life with men and women in Japan.

そういう面で見ると、状況に応じて、しっかりそういうことの区別しているんですが

There's a lot of cafes for men to go to talk to women and to flirt with women and it's just a really odd, slightly dark side of Japan that people don't really discuss or talk about.

でも一度コンビニに行けば、ポルノ雑誌がそこら辺にあったり

I feel like sometimes even nowadays Japan is so behind on this, but women don't really have a voice as much as they do in the states for example, or in Western countries.

外に出て道を歩けば、ラブホテルとか風俗店があるわけですよ

Think that's a big problem still in Japan and because of that, women tend to not go to police when they've been touched.

日本には二つの側面があるような感じですね

They tend to not do anything about it when it does happen.

あくまでも個人的な意見ですけども

I think that needs to really change because if it doesn't, it's just going to keep happening.

カップル間での愛情表現の欠如とかが

It doesn't fury.

痴漢とかストーカーのような問題に

It's me sometimes because a lot of people that haven't lived here or have only traveled for a short time don't realize that this does happen.

影響してるんじゃないかなと思うんです

Maybe it doesn't happen to everybody.

それと、仕事が忙しくて

But as a foreigner, I'm just telling you that these things do happen to foreigners.

愛し合っている人と一緒に過ごす時間が、あまり取れないとか

It's not just Japanese people.

そういう問題のせいで、男女間でセックスが少なかったりするんだと思います

I've been approached, I've been touched.

男性が女性と話をしたり、

I've been groped.

イチャイチャするために行くお店があったりとか

It's reality.

とにかく、かなり変ですし

I'm going to just put it out there.

日本のあまり取り上げられないダークな面かなと思います

I'm not afraid to say it.

時々思うんですけど、今の時代でも

It has happened.

日本では女性の声があまり尊重されないんですよね

Getting on a pack train is like pTSd central for me.

アメリカや西洋の国と同じようにはいかないです

It's scary.

そういう問題がまだ日本には残っていて

It's given me this trigger in my head when I'm near or close to somebody that I don't know on a train.

そしてそれのせいで、女性は触られたりしたときに

I've had old men or just men in general just stare and they don't look away and it's very uncomfortable.

警察に行かないことが多いと思います

I've had men stare at me and say under their breath, oh, she's so cute.

そういうことが起きたときに、何もしない傾向があると思います

She's so beautiful.

日本は、この部分を変えていかなきゃいけないと思います

You would think like, oh that's so flattering, you should be happy about those compliments.

そうじゃないと、こういう事は繰り返し起きちゃうじゃないですか

But it's not, it's creepy.

怒りとかじゃなくて、自分で思ってるだけなんですが

It's weird.

日本に住んだとこのない方や、短期滞在だった方は

I don't know that person and the fact that that person is saying those things out loud where I can hear them is very creepy and I don't like it and I don't think that it should be a thing.

こういうことがやっぱり起きるってことに気づいていないんですよね

It's very rude and very triggering in my mind.

全員が全員そういう経験をするわけじゃないですけど

I can vouch for other girls who have had similar experiences even when they're with guys, These things happen with their boyfriends.

でも外国人として、私はみなさんに

It's really insane.

こういうことは、私たちにも起こるってことをお伝えしたいんです

Like it's really insane.

日本人だけに降りかかるわけじゃないです

This honestly has to be addressed.

私も言い寄られたり、触られたり、痴漢されたりしたことがあります

There's a lot of videos on Youtube about is Japan safe.

これが現実ですし、話すのに恐怖やためらいはないです

My experiences, blah blah, blah, blah blah.

私は実際に経験しました

I have gotten messages.

満員電車に乗るときはいつも、そのことを思い出してしまいます

There was one girl who messaged me and said, I just got hired at a school.

怖いです

I'm not sure if I'm going to go through with the job because I have to close the school at 10 PM by myself and go home alone in the dark by myself and lock up by myself.

思い出しちゃいますよね

And she asked is this normal and will I be okay?

知らない人が近い場所にいるとそうなります

My answer was like, I don't know, I don't, I wouldn't do it personally.

おじさんというか、普通にいろいろな男性から

I would never be the last one out the door at night.

じっと見つめられて、しかもずっとですよ

Japan, I'm going to say yes.

すごく気持ちが悪いです

Japan is a very safe country compared to the states or you know, anywhere else that I've ever been, I feel very comfortable.

私を見つめて小声で言うんですよ

I even walk home at night in the dark by myself, but I walk, you know on well lit paths and I'm well aware of my surroundings and I walk where there's people, you're going to have situations where you do have to walk by yourself at night or going home in the dark, that's completely normal.

「めっちゃかわいい」とか「美人」とか

Everybody does it.

褒められてるから、いいことだと思うかもしれませんが

If you're walking around at like three a.m. In the morning by yourself, then that's a little more dangerous.

全然違います、不気味で変です

Just because you're in Japan, it doesn't mean that you can't be harmed.

知らない人がそういうことを声に出して

You need to protect yourself.

聞こえるように言ってくることは、とても気持ち悪いです

You're in a foreign country, you're a woman.

とっても嫌ですし、そういうことがあってはいけないと思います

I honestly want to give you some tips and share my experiences living here as a woman when it first happened to me, I was very naive and I was terrified and I didn't know what to do and now I do, I have been on dates with Japanese guys where it has gotten to the point where it has become obsessive and it's scary.

失礼にあたりますし

It's very scary.

わたしのなかでは恐怖の種になっています

There's a lot of men here who really genuinely look for foreign women to go on dates with or genuinely look for women who are foreign.

女性の他の友達にも、似たようなことは起きてます

That could be their girlfriend as kind of like arm candy.

男性と一緒にいてもですよ

I guess you could say, I'm not saying that everybody is dangerous and you shouldn't go out.

おかし過ぎます

I'm not saying all japanese men are like this.

こういうことをもっと取り上げてほしいです、ほんとうに

My boyfriend is japanese, I'm just simply warning you about the things that do go on and just to be on your guard and be smart.

YouTubeにはたくさんあるじゃないですか

So where do I begin?

「日本はどれだけ安全なのか」とか「日本での私の経験」だとか

The first experience that I've had was in a district in Shinjuku when I was 21, I think I came here for an internship.

私の受けるメッセージの中に、一人の女の子がいて

This actually wasn't my very, very first experience.

「学校の仕事の内定をもらったんですが、正直その仕事にするか迷ってます

My first experience was in high school when there was a man that was following me and my host sister around universal studios and he was taking pictures of me and she was trying to hide me and I didn't understand why there's a whole culture of men here that have hidden cameras which you also have to be careful and they have them in such a way where they can look up your skirt.

というのも、夜１０時まで残って校門を閉めなければいけないらしく、

So if you're wearing skirts, be careful going on escalators or things like that because there are men who do that and it's very sick.

ひとりで夜道を歩いて、帰らなければいけなくなるからです」

There are men that sit on the train that I've noticed that put up their phone like this and they try to take pictures now on japanese phones, if you take a picture you can hear a click, so watch So you can hear that sound and they made it that way where you can't turn it off because it has become such a problem in Japan that they needed to do that.

「これは普通だと思いますか？」

We were in a sort of red light district when I was 21 and we stayed at a really sketchy hotel, it was kind of, it was an ensign, it was a hot spring.

「大丈夫だと思いますか？」

My friend took me here with another friend, so I was just following her and I assumed she knew what she was doing, but she's like at one point this is the worst street in shinjuku and I was like why are we here?

私には分からない、としか答えられませんでしたし

It was super early in the morning, I think it was like five a.m. Or something, I think we were going to another hotel and we were going to Disney on that day, we were walking down the street, I was lagging behind, my friends were way up ahead of me and these two men were walking down the streets and they grabbed me and they said let's go, let's go and I said no and I, the adrenaline in my body just push this guy and I ran and I ran after my friends because I was terrified and then they started running and like the most scariest thing in my life when I was in Nagoya, I was living with my ex boyfriend and I wanted to get out of the house so I took the time to go out shopping by myself and I went to the mall by myself, I was going home and I got on the train, it was super empty, there's nobody, there was about six PM, I sat down on the very end of the train seats, so there was nobody sitting next to me and there was a woman that was sitting across from me and she was like the only other person on the train when the train stopped, A man got on the train and he was an older man in his forties or fifties and he sat next to me like directly next to me, like he sat, he's out there.

自分だったらしないです

I was like okay, there's like tons of seats why, but in my head I knew what was what was going on and I was in so much shock that I didn't move and I didn't want to get up.

絶対、最後に建物を出ることにならないようにします

I just, I don't know what happened, my body just shut down and he put his arm, his arms like this, like he was kind of like leaning back like this, he kept looking at me out of the corner of his eye and then in a second he took his hand and he grabbed my breast and I freaked out.

もちろん日本はすごく安全な国です。

I did nothing about it.

アメリカはもちろん、今まで行ったどこと比べても安全です

That was the time where I was just really naive and I didn't know what to do and I was just in shock and I was scared and I remember I got up and I took my backpack and I hit him in the face really hard.

居心地がいいですし、わたしだって夜ひとりで外を歩くことはあります

I think that was like just a reflex of mine after that moment and after I got up, I just got off at the next stop.

それでも、財布は持たないようにしたり

It wasn't even my stop, I just got off that stop because I was terrified having that happen to you and then you have to carry that through the rest of your experience of living in Japan is just the worst thing ever.

周囲に気を付けて、人のいるところを歩くようにしています

So ever since then it kind of caused a little bit of a trigger in my head when I get on trains that this could happen again.

もちろん、みんな誰だって、夜一人で外を歩いたり

Now.

家に帰らなければいけない場面がでてきます

I just know, I just know when someone is trying to get next to me, There was a time where I got drunk after a work party and I went home by myself, It was 11 pm and it was a packed train.

でもそれは自然ですし、みんなそうです

I had a skirt on and some guy lifted up my skirt and touched me and I was drunk so I didn't have fast enough or fast enough reaction.

まあ、夜中の３時に外を歩いたりすれば、当然危険ですけど

Eventually I did move, but I did, I knew it was happening, but I was just, I wasn't, I wasn't coherent enough to do anything about it.

つまり、日本にいるからといって、何もされないということではないんです

There was one time I was staying with a friend until I moved into my new apartment when I first moved to Nagoya and this was terrifying because I was going to work every day on the same train, same station.

女性として、しかも外国にいるわけですから、自分の身は自分で守らなければダメです

Some guy literally jumped out of the bushes, like he was in the bushes.

みなさんに、外国にいる一女性の私の経験をシェアしながら

It was like from a movie or like an anime or something, he just jumped out of the bushes, handed me a piece of paper and he's like, you're so beautiful, I've been watching you please call me in Japanese.

少し助言的なものについて話したいです

And I was like and I understood what he said but I couldn't process it.

初めてこういうことが起きたとき、私はすごく世間知らずだったので

I was like what?

すごく怖かったですし、どうすればいいのか分からなくなってしまったこともありましたが

What?

今は分かります

At first I thought I dropped something and he was giving it back but it wasn't, it was a phone number and he was like please call me.

日本人とデートしたことがあるんですが

And he bowed his head and I was like no.

中にはすごくしつこい人もいました

And I all I said was no.

単純に怖いです。かなり怖いです

And then I bolted to my friend's apartment and I was terrified because some guy was watching me go to work.

日本には、すごく熱心に外国人女性を狙っている人がいて

Sounds really insane this story but it happened and it's the creepiest thing ever.

デートの機会を求めている人がいますし

Do not go with a stranger who offers to take you somewhere don't do it.

言い方を変えれば、彼女になりそうな外国人女性を探しているっていうことなんですが

Remember everything that your mother has taught you about strangers.

ただ外国人の彼女を見せびらかしたいってだけの人もいます

Okay.

もちろん全員が危険で

I've been approached by a man who kept saying oh I work in the modeling industry, you're very beautiful.

デートに行かないほうがいいとは言ってません

And he showed me pictures of models on his phone and I said do you have a business card?

全男性がそうだと言ってるわけでもありません

Some women come here and they want to be models and they will be approached or scouted.

実際に私の彼氏は日本人ですし

I asked him for his business card and he said nope and then he walked away, he ran away.

ただ私はみなさんに、こういうことがあるということを知ってほしいだけです

He's like, oh crap, I'm found out be smart as a woman in Japan so things that you can do to be a little more safe in Japan when I get on trains.

ちゃんと考えて、気をつけてください

I usually try to find women that are standing in line together.

ということで、どこから話し始めればいいかな

Mostly women because I feel more comfortable, especially on days where the train is packed, I try to stand next to women, there are women only cars, but they're very congested and very difficult to get onto.

最初にあった経験はですね

There's so many women that try to get on that car, it's pretty sad actually, but I try to stand next to women if there's a rush hour as a Youtuber, I'm always filming myself so having a camera does help, it kind of keeps people away.

新宿のある場所にいたときで

If somebody's following me and a whip out of camera then they will probably leave when you're walking by yourself even at night and you have nobody to talk to your nervous, pick up the phone, pretend like you're talking to somebody sometimes I do that when I feel like you know I don't feel safe another tip.

２１歳だったときだと思います

Pay attention.

インターンシップに来たときです

Do not wear headphones at night and walk by yourself, have to be aware of your surroundings, you have to look around, can't just be oblivious to everything that's happening around you.

実は本当に最初のっていうわけじゃないんですが、

A lot of people do walk or bike home so there's a lot of people that are outside so it's not really too scary when you're going home from work.

最初に経験したのは、高校生の時です

I'm never really afraid of going home by myself at night because everybody is going home from work at this point if you do feel unsafe going to a convenience store or go into a cafe or something, do not get super wasted and go home by yourself like I did because that's like a disaster waiting to happen.

男の人ついてこられてて

I mean I still go home tipsy and I do go out carrot to karaoke with my friends and go home, don't go home super super late, last train drunk.

ホームステイ先のホストシスターと一緒にUSJにいたんですが

It is dangerous to try to either stay out all night with your friends and go home in the morning or get a hotel nowhere.

その人は私の写真をずっと撮ってて、彼女がその人から私を離そうとしてたのを見て

The police boxes are nowhere to go if you need help and if you can take that path home at night, if you're walking by yourself, know what to do, if you feel uncomfortable, nowhere to go, that's the most important thing, it's like that anywhere in the world, so don't think Japan is any different than any other country.

当時、それがどういう意味だった分かっていませんでした

I did buy mace when I was in Nagoya, they did sell it and I think it's illegal, it seems to be legal, it's being sold in shops.

日本には、隠しカメラを持った男性がたくさんいて

So I'm assuming you can still get it, they do have these fake cameras that you can get on amazon dot com and if you do feel completely safe living by yourself or you're just nervous, you can buy these fake cameras and set them up outside your apartment to make it look like there's a security system.

そういうのにも気をつけなければいけません

If you're getting an apartment, try to find an apartment that has like a sort of lock, like you need to type in a code to get into the apartment, try to find places that are safe that have security systems already.

そういう人たちは、スカートを覗き撮りするためにカメラを持っているので

That's just some tips for you.

もしスカートを履くのであれば、気をつけてください

Women who are moving to Japan and are nervous about it.

エスカレーターに乗っているときとかです

Don't be afraid of Japan, These things can happen anywhere.

そういう病的なことをする男性がいます

It's just, it's inevitable.

実際に電車で見た男性の中で

You just have to be aware and you have to be careful and just do your best to keep yourself safe and that's the most important thing.

こうやってスマホを持って、写真を撮る人を見たことがあります

You have any questions please comment down below.

だから、日本の携帯は、写真を撮るときに

I try to answer you guys in the next couple of days after I post the video so please be sure to comment as soon as possible.

音が聞こえるようになってます

So please share this video.

こんな感じです

If you know of anyone that's moving in, Japan and are worried about this kind of thing.

音が聞こえますよね

Or just love Japan content in general, please share my channel.