字幕表 動画を再生する 英語字幕をプリント Do you have a secret? Something you've never told anyone Think about how much of yourself you keep from other people (I cheated on my husband during our honeymoon) What you shared is just a tip of massive iceberg and it's the same with everyone around you So why do we see people who keep secrets from us as dishonest (I love my daughter but I regret having her at 18) When we don't see ourselves the same way No matter how damaging neuroscientists agree it's better to share your secrets (I'm addicted to bad relationships.) Your brain is naturally wired to tell the truth When you keep a secret, your brain simulates how awful the reveal will be (My girlfriend is transgender. Nobody knows but me.) And floods with the rush of stress hormones This affects your memory, your sleep and your ability to fight off disease Studies have even shown that people with deep secrets perceive hills as steeper than people without them (My father doesn't know how scared I am of him) The larger the secret, the steeper the hill But once you divulge your secrets you may find it's not as terrible as you thought (I sometimes leave money on a gas pump for people to find.) Holocaust victims with long buried memories showed incredible health improvement when they started sharing their stories And more they shared, the more their health improved. The moment you reveal the secret you loss a kind of power- a dark mysterious part of you is laid bare for others Because now, they've seen the real you (my biggest regret is not picking up my dad's call the night before he died.) But maybe is not a lost at all maybe that hill isn't so steep maybe the only power you lost is when your secret had over you know (I don't think anyone is normal.) So what's your secret?