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  • Sadhguru: But he must be punished? (Laughter)

  • Either by you or somebody he must be punished. (Laughter and Applause)

  • What kind of punishment do you normally give to people? (Laughter)

  • Already enough of punishment has been given, isn't it?

  • Already it's been given -

  • the ugliness,

  • the nastiness,

  • the silent treatment

  • everything has happened,

  • so what more punishment you want to give?

  • Your thing is,

  • there is no remorse on other side.

  • There is no remorse on the other side because

  • people are doing what they want to do,

  • not what you want them to do,

  • always.

  • And that may not be in your interest,

  • but they are doing what they want to do.

  • Is it right, wrong -

  • I am not going into the morality of it.

  • I want you to understand the mechanics of the situation.

  • Somebody is doing what they want to do;

  • now you think they must be punished,

  • probably they have not broken any law,

  • otherwise they would be anyway punished.

  • They're breaking an understanding between two people;

  • probably you misunderstood the understanding.

  • You believed that these understandings are absolute;

  • they are not.

  • Nowhere in the history of humanity

  • or today or in anytime in future,

  • will human relationships be absolute,

  • though every

  • every person who gets little romantic,

  • believes that this is going to be an absolute relationship,

  • there is no such thing about it.

  • A relationship is a variable, always;

  • you have to conduct it on a daily basis.

  • One day if you don't conduct it properly it may go somewhere.

  • Yes or no?

  • No,

  • please look at it as it is.

  • You have to conduct it right,

  • so 'No I am doing my best,' -

  • obviously somebody feels your best is not good enough for them.

  • I want you to come to terms with this.

  • This is not about

  • I am not saying what they doing is right or wrong,

  • that's not for me to say,

  • all I am saying is this is how human beings are functioning for ages and still are.

  • I am saying first of all you need to understand

  • relationships will never, ever be absolute,

  • they will be variables thatyou

  • it's juggling,

  • that you have to do.

  • If you are juggling with five balls one sometimes,

  • it will spill out,

  • takes lot of skill and attention.

  • Yes or no?

  • You're married many of you;

  • doesn't it take lot of skill and attention?

  • If you don't pay any attention

  • you don't know what the hell is happening. (Laughs)

  • It takes a lot of attention, isn't it?

  • Someone just called me,

  • from some country in Europe

  • and

  • 'Sadhguru I am just doing housework, come and save me. (Laughter)

  • Take me away to your ashram;

  • I am just doing house work.'

  • She is washing dishes and stuff,

  • well very affluent but has four children,

  • so all the time there is thing to do endlessly. (Laughs)

  • And today the maid did not turn up

  • so you have to wash the dishes,

  • four children are there,

  • you got to wash the dishes,

  • you got to wash everything. (Laughs)

  • So I am saying,

  • you need to understand this,

  • a relationship is a variable reality,

  • it is not an absolute reality.

  • If you want to have an absolute relationship

  • you must hold relationships with the dead.

  • That's the reason why lot of people choose God

  • because it's an absolute.

  • You can handle it whichever way you want.

  • If you didn't think of him for ten days,

  • another eleventh day if you think of him,

  • he is still there. (Laughter)

  • You do that to your husband or wife or somebody

  • then (Laughs)

  • something else will happen.

  • You went away,

  • got busy forgot about God for three years

  • again you can think; still there. (Laughter)

  • So if you want to have an absolute relationship

  • you must

  • you should not choose human beings.

  • Human relationships are variables,

  • needs lot of attention.

  • So that's why some people decide in their life,

  • they don't have the time and the energy to manage such things,

  • so they take another path

  • where there is no such obligation,

  • they close their eyes,

  • they are by themselves.

  • They don't care,

  • who is around them, what's around them.

  • So you can't do that.

  • So I think it's best

  • in trying to punish somebody you will only end up punishing yourself,

  • they doing what they want to do

  • it's best that you see what is it that you really want with your life;

  • you don't have to react with them

  • and do something stupid like them.

  • You just have to sit down and look at this;

  • when your illusions are broken,

  • you're disillusioned right now;

  • it's a very good thing.

  • If your illusions are broken,

  • that means life is bringing you closer to reality, isn't it?

  • So this is an opportunity for you to sit down and see

  • 'what is the nature of my life,

  • why is it?'

  • See this piece of life is a complete piece of life. Isn't it so?

  • Is it half a life?

  • Are you half a life or full life?

  • Full life.

  • Why is it that it feels so incomplete

  • that it needs another person to fill this life,

  • why is it, it's time to look at it, isn't it?

  • If this is a full life this is complete by itself.

  • But right now you made it in such a way

  • that this cannot exist with that one and that one

  • without that one and that one and that one.

  • So somewhere it's an incomplete life

  • or at least it is not realized the fullness of its nature, isn't it?

  • This is a complete piece of life;

  • packed with Creator and creation together,

  • very great combination.

  • If youthis is a time

  • when life knocks at your door like this,

  • it's time you look deeper rather than reacting

  • and trying to fix somebody else.

  • Punishing somebody else is not going to transform your life,

  • not going to make your life beautiful in anyway.

  • Some sick satisfaction you will have for two days,

  • after that you will feel guilty about that also,

  • yes?

  • Initially when this emotion is hot it gives you satisfaction;

  • after sometime when you look back,

  • you will feel ashamed of yourself.

  • So don't go that way.

  • This is an opportunity somebody is opening up a spiritual dimension for you

  • really,

  • somebody is making you realize how fragile all these things are;

  • they can cheat you,

  • they can run away,

  • they can divorce you

  • or they can fall dead, isn't it?

  • If they fall dead you wouldn't think he cheated me,

  • would you think?

  • No

  • but whichever way you're denied, isn't it?

  • The important thing is you're denied something.

  • How he did it, is not the problem,

  • he denied you something either by death or divorce or cheating or whatever you call it

  • but essentially you got denied.

  • You can be denied only because you are in a certain illusory state of believing

  • that this is half a life and it needs another half from somewhere.

  • No this is a complete life,

  • if you've blossomed as a complete life,

  • you will see relationships will be of a completely different nature.

  • It will be more of coming together and sharing,

  • not of extracting;

  • it has to transform.

  • If it has to transform you have to transform,

  • this is a great opportunity somebody has given you.

  • Stop using these words somebody cheated me,

  • just say somebody is pushing you towards ultimate reality

  • from an illusory state,

  • we must thank that person. (Applause)

  • You must be grateful.

  • Instead of keeping you

  • instead of keeping you in illusion,

  • instead of keeping you in your life or a whole lifetime,

  • so soon they are making you realize this (Laughs)

  • otherwise you will know this at the time of your death.

  • Yes,

  • you will know at the time of your death,

  • when you are dying,

  • 'I am scared why don't you come with me?'

  • He will say 'no'. (Laughter)

  • So that last moment instead of knowing

  • it's better to know now. (Laughter)

Sadhguru: But he must be punished? (Laughter)

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    Angelina Amy に公開 2021 年 03 月 07 日
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