Andifyoureallywanttodoit, well, you'vegot a longroad.
本気でやりたいと思ったら、まあ、長い道のりになりますね。
It's Ah, greasedhill.
それは、ああ、油を塗った丘です。
Startrunning.
走り出します。
Everythingisnotforeverybody.
何でもかんでも万人受けするわけではありません。
Sofindwhatyou'regoodatandwatchyourselfachieveinthatlane, theytookstudentsintheclasswheretheyputthestepsoflearningtheinformationsoclosetogetherthattherewasnever a failureexperience.
Andeveniftheirpatternsyourselfdestructiveevents, drugabuseoralcoholismorthosethosecomfortinthosepatternsfallingintothosepatterns, itseemsverycompellingto a lotofpeople.
Everymealthatit's incrementalchangesoverthelonghaulonthewayyouhavetolookatitisifthesetwoboatsaregoingin a paralleldirectionandoneofthemjustshiftsfivedegreesoverthecourseoftime, thisboatisgonnabein a fardifferentplacethantheotherboatthat's goingthesameway.
ItwasalwaysgoingTheoproblemthatkidsmakeandbecause I know I diditandisyoucompareyourpersonaltruth, whatyouknowaboutyourselfandyouknowhowyoureallyliveandwhat's reallygoingon.
I knowthattheutilitiesgotturnedoff, and I knowtherewas a bigfightinmykitchenlastnightandthekidssittingnexttome, he's goton a shirtthat's allironed, andhisfaceisallbrightandclean, and, youknow, helookslikehe's justgotitalltogether.
And I think I thinkaboutitintermsofselfattribution, becauseyouknowhowyouformopinionsofotherpeople, likeifyoulookatthisguyandyou, you, maybeyouworkwiththisguy, andsoyouwatchhimacross a coupleofyears, andmaybethisguyshowsuptoworkeveryday, andhe's there 15 minutesearlyandheunlockstheplace, getseverythingready, putsthecoffeeon, hashisdeskready, he's allbuttonedup.
I candothis, I canrisetotheoccasionorwewatchourselvesfoldlike a puptentin a windstormandsay, I can't hang, I don't haveitAndwemakethoseattributiontoourselves.
Andsoweshrinkfromthechallengefortherestofourlivesuntil, likeyousaid, it's hardtoovercomethat, andsomethingpushesyouupuntilyoufinallyobserveyourself, overcomesomething, and I thinkthat's howweformourlevelofselfesteemandouridentityaboutwhoweare.