Traumaisnotmerely a terribleevent, thoughitisverymuchthat, too.
トラウマというのは、単に恐ろしい出来事だけではありません。
Itis a terribleeventthathasnotbeenadequatelyprocessed, understoodandunpickedonthathas, throughneglect, beingabletocast a verylongandundeservedshadowoverhugeareasofexperience.
Wedon't needtohavebeanthrough a wartobetraumatizedinmultipleways.
戦争でマメにスルーされなくても、複数のトラウマになることはありません。
Imagine a sixyearoldchildwhomakesanerrorin a mathsexamandtakesthenewshome.
6歳の子供が算数の試験でミスをして、そのニュースを家に持ち帰る姿を想像してみてください。
Suddenly, herfather, whodrinkstoomuchandmightbebattlingdepressionandparanoia, fliesinto a rage, shoutsather, smashes a householdobjectandslamsmultipledoors.
Fromtheperspectiveof a sixyearold, itfeelsliketheworldisending.
6歳児の目線で見ると、世界が終わっているような気がします。
Thereisnowaytomakesenseofthemoment, beyondtakingresponsibilityforitonas a result, feelinglike a terriblehumanbeingonfromthistraumadevelops, thisonecenteredaroundmakingmistakes.
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