Like, sometimes I'll be talking to someone and they'll say something that's just a little... off.

"Oh my god, you know what I wish we could do?

I wish we could just kill off all the homeless people."

"Right? Like that would be the best solution for them. It's like, they don't have homes. Nobody's gonna miss them!"

Or inappropriate.

"It's just like so hard being a straight white dude these days, man. You're so lucky you're a minority.

Like, you'd stand out."

Or sometimes, just pretty stupid.

"I don't want to break up, I just want to

like move out, but like we can still go

on dates, it's just that like, I don't want to have to

devote every night to you. It's basically like,

like I want my cake, and I want to eat it too,

and then I want to take a piece home and then

put it in the freezer for later so I can bust it out and put like

chocolate fudge and strawberries and some skittles on there, and then

have it with a glass of wine while I like

binge a new series." But lately, I feel like I have

no fucks left at all, like normally when you

have a fuck to give, you distribute that.

Right? Like you care about what people

think, and you try to act accordingly.

I think I'm all out. Exhibit A, the other day, at a bar,

this guy said, "Oh, excuse me doll."

Without even missing a beat, I immediately responded:

"Oh, no worries doll."

Yeah, normally, would never do that.

I didn't even think about it, I didn't even

blink. Exhibit B, at lunch,

my friend said, "Dude, I fucking hate that

bitch." Oh no. Normally, I would let

that pass because it's awkward, I don't want to address it.

But since I have no fucks left...

"Dude, you are so harsh on women."

"Yeah, well whatever. She cheated on me."

"So? You cheated on her too!

And it was like four years ago!"

Let it go, man.

And don't get me wrong, I'm not

saying that I just want to like speak my mind

with no filter whatsoever. I think that

my default is trying to be "nice" to avoid

awkwardness, and instead I want to focus

on being kind. Whether I'm being kind to

myself for voicing my opinion when I

think this conversation is weird, or kind

to the other person because maybe they legit

don't realize how weird it is for

them to suggest that we kill all

homeless people.

This isn't the Hunger Games. Why are you

suggesting mass murder of a bunch of

people who are probably the majority of them

are mentally ill or

have substance abuse problems. And I encourage you

to ask yourself, like what would you say

if you weren't afraid of rocking the

boat, and instead committed to actually

voicing the opinions that you have in a

conversation. Or maybe you're a person who is

never afraid to say anything at all. Maybe

that gets you into trouble. Let me know.

I'm Anna Akana, stay awesome Gotham.

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I still want to be friends, though.