Love is in the air.

It's Valentine's Day.

That's right.

It is a perfect time to learn about the cat I love you.

Are you guys ready to get catified?

Oh yeah.

Let's go.

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All right, y'all.

It is time to learn about the cat I love you.

What is the cat I love you, you ask yourself, or you ask me.

If you've watched "My Cat from Hell," even that all,

you've probably seen me walking around talking

to cats by blinking at them, the slow blink, right.

Believe me, I know a whole lot of people

know about this now because you walk up to me in the street

and you blink at me.

Which is weird, but totally cool.

Because the concept is everyone's

getting to know the language of cats.

Way back in the '90s, early '90s,

I was learning how to be a cat boy.

I was working at an animal shelter.

And I learned that cats liked me.

I was so obsessed with these guys

and obsessed with learning about their world.

So I started reading.

And one of the books that jumped out at me in the beginning,

made me feel like, hey, there might be a community of people

who think like me, or who are obsessed

the way I am, and this woman right here led the way.

Her name is Anitra Frazier.

This is actually my copy of the book

that I got back the early '90s.

Go figure.

In this book I was reading about the cat I love you.

And basically she was talking about how she learned this

by walking down the streets in the Upper West Side of New York

and just looking in the windows of the brownstones

and seeing cats in there and noticing

that they were blinking.

What is that, she wondered.

So she would blink back at them.

And suddenly there was a language

between Anitra and these cats.

And that became the cat I love you.

They're letting you know that they are vulnerable to you.

These are prey animals, animals that

sleep with one eye open, almost literally, cat napping.

Because they don't want to be preyed upon in the wild.

So the concept of closing their eyes to you in a slow way--

not something that they would do very willingly unless they're

trying to tell you something.

In the spirit of Valentine's Day now

I'm going to teach you how to do the cat I love you.

If you stare at people they tend not to trust you very much,

you know?

So if you're doing-- we're going to lose our glasses now.

When you do this, stare.

Now I'm even-- let's remove my facial expressions.

Not very inviting.

So the secret is to relax, relax your face.

So do this with me-- a little scrunch up,

a little Gilbert Gottfried here.

And then release it.

Now you got it.

Now we're softening our eyes.

This is the way that we want to approach a cat, with soft eyes.

We're not staring at them.

So let's take it to the next step.

When you look you soften, and then behind your vocal box--

don't use your words, just think them.

I'm not speaking right now.

I'm thinking.

You're hearing my inside voice right now.

I love you.

One more time.

Take your time with that.

That's kind of key.

When your cat does that to you, remember--

they are showing vulnerability, in which case

we're not just going I love you-- oh, what?

I love you-- oh, are you still there?

You know what I'm saying?

That shows lack of trust.

Trust is really closing your eyes to the world.

Practice that with your cat.

What about the cat I love you how ya doin'?

When you walk into a room and your cat sees you,

tell me your cat doesn't do yeah, yeah, how ya doin'?

I just did it.

So let's incorporate the cat I love you with the how ya

doin', which is the cat I love you how ya doin', originally

enough.

So you go--

Try it!

I'm telling you, you feel stupid doing it.

But try it, all right?

Now let's try the bow.

And the bow is you're literally just bowing to your cat.

But you don't necessarily have to go all the way down.

And in the same way, you don't have to do the all the way

blink.

The I love you bow is like this.

It's almost as if in the back of your head you're saying, yeah,

I love you.

Yeah.

Let me teach you about the 3-step handshake.

The 3-step handshake is using the cat

I love you in succession with some other things.

People are always wondering why they can't pet a cat.

Because you didn't ask permission.

That's why.

This is how you ask permission, the three-step handshake.

First we're going to try the blink.

Yeah, throw in a how ya doin', throw in the bow, OK.

Next thing you do is you present something with your scent on it

for them to explore.

Often I will use these bad boys.

Step three finally of the handshake,

the real how ya doin', is offering your hand to your cat.

Now the thing that I will always do

is extend my hand in a very relaxed way.

I'll treat this finger like a nose,

because cats often will nose to nose.

There's my nose.

I'll present to them.

And often what they will do once they

trust you is allow them to pet you.

They will then push their nose up, towards the third eye

here, and down.

These are universal signs that your cat

has fed you over and over again.

And if you just use them up a little bit, don't feel silly.

I mean literally, we're behind closed doors here, just you

and me in the cat cave.

Try it.

And try it with your cat.

Of course that's homework.

Go and try the cat I love you with your cat.

A true expression of your love for a cat is saying,

I will communicate on your terms.

The cat I love you, the 3-step handshake,

the how ya doin', the bow, the finger nose--

all those things are going to their side of the fence.

And let me know about it.

Write some comments right down here.

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Show me some videos, man.

Show me some videos, and pictures,

of you doing the cat I love you, or your cat doing it back

to you, or doing the how ya doin' or the finger nose.

I would love to see all those things.

I mean, honestly, if you want to do a great Valentine's Day

thing for the Cat Daddy, show me some

of that stuff with you and your cats.

Videos man, I love that stuff.

Some pictures on Instagram-- I love that stuff.

Please bring it on.

I want to tell you one more thing.

I want you to look at this right here.

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So folks, happy Valentine's Day to you.

Go and spread that love.

Go blink a little bit.

Go do the how ya doin'.

Let me see it from you and your cat.

In the meantime, I have no way of expressing

how big my heart is for team Cat Mojo.

You people have been coming out in force,

letting me know how you feel about Cat Mojo.

And I'm pretty psyched about it.

Until next time, all light, all love, all mojo.

[KISSES]

Love you.

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