Name: 日本VS海外。私の彼女になってください」と言う時 (Japan VS Abroad: When to say "Please be my girlfriend")
Uploaded: 2021-01-14T11:04:04.000Z
Duration: 15 min 12 s
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法助動詞 A2

"If you want to I COULD be your boyfriend." I was like WTF

Hey guys and girls on Ask Japanese it's CathyCat and today I am joined by...

And this time again we want to do a little bit of Japanese love and dating

talk with us. Since quite a lot of the guys watching here

are curious how to speak to a Japanese girl, become friends or even have a J girlfriend

We already talked about it, it's not as easy. Not everyone wants a Western Boyfriend or

from another country. We are going to discuss how to transition

from friends to lovers. How to confess your feelings to the other person.

This is a tricky one. How long do... In Germany people sniff around each other for a long time

That depends on the person while in the UK

But! What you see now in western countries, which is interesting, that some people

do everything that couples do, but they are like...

they don't know what they are yet. The kind of like...

"are we girlfriend and boyfriend?" but noone is daring to say that. They don't wanna be too fast

Don't want to move too fast. The kind of like "are you mine?

"cause I stay here all the time" there is a song about that by Lilly Allen

It's a big mystery to me. So the confession is...

I think in other countries you say "I kind of like you, would you like to go out" but some people

don't want to come on too strong right from the start. They probably

you can say "I like you, you wanna go on a date" but not "GO OUT!"

You overstepping the whole other part of it, while I heard in Japan

it's pretty much, you go on one date and the man will go to the woman

and say "would you like to go out with me." It's very official or maybe

I am having a different image of it. - Before we were dating like

"Do you want to go out for dinner" and then...

After a couple of dates, let's say 3 dates...

Then a guy will confess his love to a girl "I really like

you because... will you be my girlfriend" and THEN they start

becoming girlfriend and boyfriend. Ideally but..... - In a funny way it seems

that Western societies are a lot more shy. We don't drop the L bomb until we are like...

SURE we really like that person. You know what I mean? - I see.

But in Western culture... - WAIT!! We are speaking in English!!!

Oh no not again! I didn't notice it either!

Guys don't forget there are subtitles so click them

on. You have to click a little gear (or CC symbol) to follow our conversation

It's gonna help with your Japanese studies. Let'S do it. - That's right.

"Please be my girlfriend" seems to be embarrassing for some Westerners.

They are already sleeping with each other, yet still can't say it. - WHAT?

Wouldn't that make the girl feel insecure? Like what if he's just playing?

Am I his friend? Am I his girlfriend? - I saw that in the UK

That's worrying! Make a girl feel saver than that! - I guess so

If the girl asks "Tell me what kind of relationship we are" would that bad?

I guess those who can say it do say it. Some worry that it's too early

and they will scare the other person off. "She's too much"

I see. At least at the University in the UK I was surprised to see that with the young students

So does that mean they were just friends with benefits???

I think it was more like in-officially dating.

The time before it's official. - Oh before being official!

They like each other but... - They are doing couple things but...

us as friends can see that they are more right?

Like "I think one of those stayed over!" - Yeah

They stayed over, but as students you share houses so you will notice that as friends.

And then I would ask my girlfriends "are you dating?" And she'd say

"I don't know yet" which surprised me. - Are they ok with that???

But Japan is becoming more like that I think.

Some boys don't make the relationship official anymore. Japanese girls...

will also ask me what I think about their relationship.

"he hasn't said "I love you" or Be my girlfriend." I am shocked!

about that. "My friend was worried about that.

Coming back to Japanese girls... do they want it official

won't they think the boy is being to much at the start? - No no no

We want to hear "I love you" and "be my girlfriend."

That's good. - Now tell me about "I love you."

When do you guys say that? - We say "I like you lots"

But we don't say "I love you" ... it means aishiteru

Aishiteru... sounds dramatic. - If you said that, you might shock girls.

If you say it with a straight face, it's too much. You only say that at weddings.

I don't know. - When should a boy confess his feelings then?

How long should they date first? - Go on dates for at least....

one month or 3 months. You should say it before you sleep with each other.

True. That sounds better. Don't copy those

modern couples abroad. - But if two love each other but

are to shy to say it, but still sleep with each other...

... having that question linger afterwards, that's sad.

I think boys want to have the assurance of knowing where they stand

But don't many boys want to have their "freedom"?

I assume some prefer to have their freedom....?

If they want to have their freedom, they should say it.

I think that's good to be open about it. - Yeah then girls know where they are at.

Take a womanizer for example saying "just playing girls"

I think that honesty is ok. So he will only attract girls who want the same. - He will

If some people don't want to be serious, they should both say that

And those who want to be serious, should voice that too

Guys, you need to talk. - I prefer that honesty too. Boys who lie make things complicated.

The Japanese love confession is important.

It feels a bit like in an anime "I have liked my senpai for so long"

I heard that the boy HAS TO confess to the girl

I don't know. When girls confess they are seen as too sexually aggressive.

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