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  • when we have something we cherish like a

  • spouse or a friend or a certain status

  • within a group but we feel threatened of

  • losing it we experience resentment which

  • we call jealousy so how can we deal with

  • this this video presents you stoic

  • solutions for jealousy first of all I

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  • will help me creating more videos in the

  • future a commenter named Ankara Mundi -

  • recently suggested to make a video on

  • how the Stoics handled the jealousy so I

  • decided to do it because I think it's a

  • great idea and I know there's lots of

  • people struggling with this to begin I

  • first need to explain the difference

  • between jealousy and envy jealousy comes

  • from a fear of losing something to

  • another person and is very common in

  • intimate relationships in which we fear

  • to lose a partner to someone else Envy

  • is wanting something that someone else

  • has like a car a house looks etc thus

  • envy is being resentful of people that

  • are in our eyes more fortunate than

  • ourselves when I look at jealousy from a

  • stoic point of view I see two things the

  • illusion of permanence and the belief

  • that external things will make us happy

  • now the Stoics noticed that the nature

  • of the universe is impermanence that

  • everything outside of faculty is not in

  • our control

  • we're jealous you don't want to lose

  • something external that you attach

  • yourself to in this moment the truth is

  • however no matter how infatuated you

  • curve the art with your boyfriend or

  • girlfriend someday you will be separated

  • bear in mind that everything that exists

  • is already fraying at the edges and in

  • transition subject to fragmentation and

  • to rot is a quote by Marcus Aurelius

  • everything is subjected to continual

  • change we could say that change is the

  • only constant when we fear and

  • just change we become insecure and

  • insecurity is where jealousy is coming

  • from but we simply don't know how this

  • change is going to manifest so why worry

  • about it

  • the only thing we can do is what's best

  • in a moment we're in without the

  • arriving rise from our actions and

  • regards to the future this is called

  • amor fati which means embracing the

  • outcome whatever it is Epictetus has a

  • powerful quote that relieves the pain of

  • jealousy by reminding us that we never

  • own what we are attached to and that the

  • presence of this particular person in

  • our lives is temporary I quote never

  • save anything I have lost it but I have

  • returned it a short child that it is

  • returned

  • it's a wife that she is returned is your

  • estate taken away well and it's not that

  • likewise returned but he would took it

  • away as a bad man what difference is it

  • to you who they give her assigns to take

  • it back while he gives it to you to

  • possess take care of it but don't view

  • it as your own just as travellers view a

  • hotel and quote no matter how much

  • effort we put in our relationships how

  • well our property is secured how great

  • our reputation is we can still lose the

  • things we are attached to like our

  • spouse our house or our social status at

  • the blink of an eye this means that the

  • fear we are experiencing when we are

  • jealous is actually quite a rational one

  • that aligns with the nature of the

  • universe yes your spouse may cheat on

  • you with a co-worker tomorrow yes your

  • supposed best friend may prefer the

  • presence of someone else over your

  • presence the fact that these

  • possibilities are realistic and common

  • is a reason not to worry about it why

  • are you trying to control the external

  • world that's not up to you anyway it's a

  • waste of time but I need this person to

  • be happy you might say no you don't

  • within the stoic system of ethics all

  • external things including the people you

  • love are considered so-called preferred

  • indifference it's nice to have them and

  • they might support you in living a

  • virtuous life but preferred indifference

  • or no

  • heart requirement to be happy according

  • to the Stoics happiness is found in

  • virtuous actions here's a quote from

  • Seneca virtue is free inviolable not to

  • be moved not to be shaken and so

  • hardened against misfortunes that she

  • cannot be bent let alone overcome by

  • them and quote from my understanding of

  • stoicism my suggestion would be

  • replacing the focus on the external with

  • focus on the internal thus stop

  • obsessing about losing the things you

  • love because you'll lose them anyway

  • and they aren't as vital for your

  • happiness as you may believe instead you

  • might want to focus on living well

  • regardless of what happens around you

  • and paradoxically when you focus on

  • living well instead of anxiously

  • grasping and clinging to the things you

  • don't want to lose you might actually

  • attract more preferred indifference into

  • your life also the ones you already have

  • are more likely to stick with you out of

  • free will as opposed to you being

  • jealous which will only drive them away

  • thank you for watching

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嫉妬のためのストイックな解決策 (Stoic Solutions For Jealousy)

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    jeremy.wang に公開 2021 年 01 月 14 日
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